One parent’s rendition of how PAS really feels!  A clear portrayal of how a parent feels when they are unable to participate in their child’s life. Empty inside.  Heart is missing.  Carrying a bag of emotional heartache perhaps?  Interestingly, the missing part is  heart shaped.  Symbolizing  that a parents LOVE never goes away!  

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Fathers’ Rights Movement FB page: www.facebook.com/Fathers4kids/

#328, Lost Heart

A sympathetic message that will ring true for too many parents! Halloween is a fun holiday filled with wearing costumes, attending parties and trick or treating.  Both parents should have the opportunity to share in the fun.  Sadly, the person who misses out the most is the child! 

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As shared by Truth Exposed FB page.

Link to FB:https://www.facebook.com/ParentsforProtection2012/?fref=photo

 #327, Missed Event

Imaginary friend request via social media.  The message here is what “Devin” was experiencing during his parents divorce.  Sadly, his experience is a  common theme for many children and adolescents when their parents divorce.  

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# 317 , Imaginary Friend Request

This is a beautiful letter, written by a dad  to his daughter.  Research consistently shows that a dad play an important role in the emotional development of a child. This dad has taken this to a whole new level. Bringing in the influence of social media and societal expectations. Hopefully, this daughter will develop a different world view knowing that her father LOVES her to pieces!!!!

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“Dear Little One,

As I write this, I’m sitting in the makeup aisle of our local Target store. A friend recently texted me from a different makeup aisle and told me it felt like one of the most oppressive places in the world. I wanted to find out what he meant. And now that I’m sitting here, I’m beginning to agree with him. Words have power, and the words on display in this aisle have a deep power. Words and phrases like:
Affordably gorgeous,
Infallible,
Flawless finish,
Brilliant strength,
Liquid power,
Go nude,
Age defying,
Instant age rewind,
Choose your dream,
Nearly naked, and
Natural beauty.

When you have a daughter you start to realize she’s just as strong as everyone else in the house—a force to be reckoned with, a soul on fire with the same life and gifts and passions as any man. But sitting in this store aisle, you also begin to realize most people won’t see her that way. They’ll see her as a pretty face and a body to enjoy. And they’ll tell her she has to look a certain way to have any worth or influence.

But words do have power and maybe, just maybe, the words of a father can begin to compete with the words of the world. Maybe a father’s words can deliver his daughter through this gauntlet of institutionalized shame and into a deep, unshakeable sense of her own worthiness and beauty.
A father’s words aren’t different words, but they are words with a radically different meaning:

Brilliant strength. May your strength be not in your fingernails but in your heart. May you discern in your center who you are, and then may you fearfully but tenaciously live it out in the world.
Choose your dream. But not from a department store shelf. Find the still-quiet place within you. A real dream has been planted there. Discover what you want to do in the world. And when you have chosen, may you faithfully pursue it, with integrity and with hope.

Naked. The world wants you to take your clothes off. Please keep them on. But take your gloves off. Pull no punches. Say what is in your heart. Be vulnerable. Embrace risk. Love a world that barely knows what it means to love itself. Do so nakedly. Openly. With abandon.
Infallible. May you be constantly, infallibly aware that infallibility doesn’t exist. It’s an illusion created by people interested in your wallet. If you choose to seek perfection, may it be in an infallible grace—for yourself, and for everyone around you.

Age defying. Your skin will wrinkle and your youth will fade, but your soul is ageless. It will always know how to play and how to enjoy and how to revel in this one-chance life. May you always defiantly resist the aging of your spirit.

Flawless finish. Your finish has nothing to do with how your face looks today and everything to do with how your life looks on your last day. May your years be a preparation for that day. May you be aged by grace, may you grow in wisdom, and may your love become big enough to embrace all people. May your flawless finish be a peaceful embrace of the end and the unknown that follows, and may it thus be a gift to everyone who cherishes you.

Little One, you love everything pink and frilly and I will surely understand if someday makeup is important to you. But I pray three words will remain more important to you—the last three words you say every night, when I ask the question: “Where are you the most beautiful?” Three words so bright no concealer can cover them.

Where are you the most beautiful?
On the inside.

From my heart to yours,
Daddy

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Shared on FB Dads for Equal Rights.  

Link to FB page: https://www.facebook.com/Dads-for-equal-rights-185786791444691/timeline/

Link to post: https://www.facebook.com/permalink.php?story_fbid=913343252022371&id=185786791444691

#311 Dear Little One, From Daddy

So, the Family Court is front and center.  In color and large in comparison to the ‘family’ that the court is to help. The most compelling part is the child at the edge of the pic waving-like he/she is saying ‘look at me’, ‘hey, I am over here’.  Is that the way some divorces seem? Should not the child be at the forefront of a pic of divorce?  Front and center, larger than everything and everyone else?  

A revealing pic of the Family Court system and the role of the family.  

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Artwork by Prainitolaw.  Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Family-Law-Attorney-Rancho-Cucamonga-553631449

#292, Look at Me!

One pic is worth a thousand words!  

50-50 custody is in the BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILD!  Fight for the presumption of 50-50 custody!

#263, Custody

One father shares the joy and heartache of spending time with his son.  Sadly, he has limited custody.   He cherishes each moment he can parent his child!   Family time is overshadowed by the limited hours he is allotted each month.  This speaks to the importance of Shared Custody.  How can a parent establish an emotional bond, teach what a child needs to learn, and instill a sense of  responsibility in their child and LOVE their child in a few hours each month.   The presumption of 50/50 custody is in the best interest of the child!

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This is how it works.

When you finally do the get chance to spend time with your child, you are so worked up and well-rested from the sometimes two weeks without contact (I’m lucky I only have to go 8 days), that you cannot sleep when they are with you.

You feel ready to go to sleep, you feel tired, but when you actually lie down to go to bed you can’t help but get up and walk by their room, or perhaps, even go in and sit with them while they sleep. You don’t want to miss a moment of time because it is so precious.

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#262, How Divorce Works 

Parents rearranging schedules to keep one parent from seeing their child is hurtful to the child and to the parent being excluded.  Here is one experience outlining the hurt and devastation.  One would wonder if this mom considered the emotional pain this could (and did) cause their son.  

If one parent is trying to ‘win’…then the child is losing out at some level.

Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!

LOVE WINS!!!    LOVE WINS!!!     LOVE WINS!!!    LOVE WINS!!!     

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Anonymous

Today was my boyfriends day to have his kids from 3(after school) until 6 PM, court order I mind you. The mother of the children took it in her own power to demand that today she is picking up the kids saying my boyfriend gave her the right to, which is untrue. We went and spoke with the summer teachers and daycare and they were saying how his son was asking continuously throughout the day if his daddy was picking him up and if it was 3 yet…the kids are always looking forward to his days picking them up. She did as she said she was and got them against court order and we went to the police and showed up at her house. We saw her drive by and the cops called her and they were so awesome and polite and just asked for her to come back so we can a figure this thing out. She refused and from what I heard was completely disrespectful to the cops. We had his court orders in hand at the time which didn’t really do much…I get that the cops can only do so much and I appreciate any efforts that they make…but what gets me is, the ex took time away from my boyfriend from his kids, she took time away from her own kids that look forward to time with their father…neither of them will ever have that time again, it was taken…even the courts can’t replace the 3 hours that my boyfriend should have gotten with his kids today. The courts are so unfair, even bringing this to court, really, what is it going to do so my boyfriend can have his kids in his life and not just be a bystander?!?!? So frustrated, angry and broken…today was a really hard day…

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The Fathers’ Rights Movement, July 29, 2015.

Link to FB page for The Fathers’ Rights Movement: https://www.facebook.com/Fathers4kids?ref=ts&fref=ts

#259, A Really Hard Day