Welcome to the Place for Poetry of the Personal!

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Confess your feelings of betrayal, fear, heartache or humiliation that you have experienced in your divorce or co-parenting situation.

Share a setting that you regret or a situation that may have caused anguish, misery or sorrow  for your co-parent.  Or, reveal actions that may have promoted emotional pain or unhappiness for your child.

Confessions are not limited to heartache only.  Please share heartwarming moments and happy experiences you have experienced in divorce and shared parenting too!  Perhaps, something your co-parent did or said that has enhanced your co-parenting relationship.  

Here is anopportunity to share the confessions about your divorce or co-parenting experiences. This can be something that you have told to family and friends or a private thought that has remained a secret…….until now. Focus on extreme moments of individual experiences.  

This is a place to confess what your co-parent did or said that led to your feelings of betrayal, fear or humiliation. Write about something that you enacted, a statement or a thought you expressed that caused grief for your co-parent, your child or yourself.  

We learn from others experiences and situations. Perhaps in reading these scenarios, co-parents can identify with issues they are also experiencing.   Hopefully,one can see how some actions can have long-term negative effects and cause pain for their co-parent or child!   Importantly, by reading these stories co-parents can see that they are not alone in the thoughts and feelings surrounding their divorce and co-parenting relationship.

Invitation is extended to:

  • Parents who are divorced or in the process of divorce.
  • Parents and co-parents (never married) who have children.
  • Parents who have or do not have a parenting plan in place.
  • Anyone interested in a front row seat to see the despair that divorce or co-parenting issues can have on a parent and how the actions impact the child.
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Two Sad Parents

 

A very sad picture. Each parent is in their own home looking out the window with unhappy facial expressions and large abundant tears. This child’s love is further separated as indicated in the broken heart with corresponding colors to the perspective house of each parent. Interestingly, the door way to each home is farthest from the child.  Does this mean the child does not want to enter either home? Does she feel welcome in both homes. From the child’s self portrait, she appears very sad with large eyes and downturned smile. Standing out the most is the umbrella; a symbol of protection. Her umbrella is held far out and offers no shelter at all. Are these parents aware of how their daughter feels? Do they know this young girl sees their sadness and feels torn between them? I hope someone helps this child in coping with the emotional turmoil reflected in her picture of divorce.

# 476, Two Sad Parents

Don’t Know Who to Choose

 

An happy face with blue tears streaming down is front and center on this artwork. A picture of a hand knocking on the door is added  competing the message of who to see. Is this child at the front door of mom or dad? This child is confused and is in an impossible position to win. When the child is forced to choose no one wins!  The ransom note style call for help completes this desperate and sad request.

#475, Don’t Know Who to Choose

Unraveled

 

An emotionally captivating expression of divorce. This child seems stuck in the middle in what was once his home. Two individuals/parents(?)are  unraveling the home life of this child. This boy appears terribly distraught; crouched and hiding his face. Do these parents have any idea what they are doing to their child? A a most bewildering depiction of divorce.

#474, Unraveled

Sad Girl

 

From the mouths of the babes! This 9 year-old draws a pic of divorce. For this child divorce makes her feel ‘sad’ + Embarrassed + Confused. The large tears and sad eyes support the feelings of utter discord.  An unhappy frown in red completes the pic. Are the parents of this little girl aware of the sadness their child is experiencing? I hope someone talks to her about what is happening.

#473, Sad Child

 

Missing Out: First Day of School

 

Missing out on the milestone event of the first day of school and school pics. This father beautifully captures the essence of of the excluded parent. Seeing a child off for their first day of school each year is a right of passage! Sadly, their co-parent precludes this from happening.  While, yes, the mother is able to keep the dad away from this momentous occasion-the child is also robbed of a meaningful experience.  I wonder, do the parents who engage in the abusive behaviors think about the impact on the child?  Seemingly, this is a rhetorical question.  The behaviors are done “to” the co-parent.  No one is even thinking about the child!  Herein lies the dilemma.

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# 324, Missing Out: First Day of School

Spent College $ on Legal Fees

 

How true this is. The Family Court system is a multi billion-dollar business.  Too many parents liquidate accounts, sell their home and use savings account to fight the battle in the Family Court system. All of this money is spent in order to try and have a relationship with their child or to inhibit the parent-child relationship. Clearly, this money could be better spent on the child!

#472, Spent College $ on Legal Fees

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