Give this Note to Your Dad

 

Putting the child in the middle of communications between the parents is unfair. Apparently, this is the experience for this child. A rather simple picture with rays of sun in the upper corner. I hope these parents become aware of how their actions are impacting their child. Divorce is between the parents-about the child.  LOVE WINS!  

#444, Give this Note to Your Dad

Categories: Impact on child, A child’s View

 

A Changed Family

 

The most startling feature of this artwork is the faces drawn on each person. Mom is smiling, dad is sad, child to the left has no expression and youngest child appears to be saying something. Parents are each leaning. Dad is facing more backward and somewhat leaning. Mom is facing more forward and tilted toward a wall that the youngest child is standing against. Or, is this a barrier between the parents and children? 

Seemingly, there is artistic disparity among the objects. Each family member appears to be copied while the house is rudimentary.  A curious presentation of a family and home.  

#443, A Changed Family

Categories: A Child’s View, Impact on child

Unhappy

 

One picture is worth a thousand words.  An underlying theme of unhappy comes through loud and clear. The unhappy face of this child is front and center. She is barely touching the hands of each parent. Both parents appear to be standing in front of their perspective homes although mom is taller. Parental facial expressions indicate no emotion. The black jagged line behind her and under dad’s house is prominent. Does this indicate turmoil? Mom’s house appears to be closer, is brightly colors and on top of the dark line. While we can only guess at the meaning of some objects there appears to be no discrepancy in how this little girl feels…unhappy.

#442 Unhappy

Categories: A child’s view, Impact on child

Dying Love

 

This artist shares the heartache of her parent’s divorce: “Today, May 5th, 2017, would have been my mother and father’s 15th wedding anniversary… But they got a divorce about 3 1/2 years ago. Every year, I still celebrate their anniversary to remember the great times we had as a loving family, and to remember how great of a couple my parents were.”

#441, Dying Love

http://crimedragon.deviantart.com/art/Dying-Love-679012317

Slave to the Trauma

 

Parental divorce upsets and resets an adolescents’ family life.   This adolescent captures the trauma of her parents’ divorce.  Her heartfelt feelings are revealed in her words and art: “Everyone should see what a child goes through during a divorce, and I am one of the children going through the middle of it.”

 

į̶̼͉̥͇͗͜’̴̲̯̭͓͎̽̔͊̉͝m̶̢̢̠͐́̾̓ ̵͍͎̰̣͙̼͘j̴̧͉̈͋̓̈́̂u̶̢̡̼͙͎̖̿̊̂s̴̝͚̘̰͂̎͗͆͜ͅt̶̺̬̂ ̶̥͚̼̲͊a̵̠̣̠͍̫͝ ̵̧̢͕̟̤͔̓͐̂̔s̷̘͛̆̇̕l̵̥͚̉̐a̴͉̔̈́̀̈́͂̐v̵̯͈̀̀͝e̵̺̘͖̞͛́͑ ̶̡͔̖̩͑͑̓̌̚ț̸̊̀́͂́ͅo̸͍̰̿̀͑̈́͊͝ ̷͍̌͑̓͒͝͝t̵̡̧̗̤̬̊̔͒͝ͅh̸̟̙̋͂̐̊͂ȩ̷͎̪͍̼̎̓͊̓̇ ̶͕̰̟̜͂ͅt̸̖̤̱̍͂͜r̷̓̓̏̄͑ͅa̷̮͓̘̳̐̊̚ű̴̺̔̑͜͝ḿ̷͈̐͆̈́̋a̷̫̋̿̈́͝,̶̺̣̜̘̌̏̒̕ ̸̲̝̙̿͌̊͗̎͐i̸̖̯̤͓̫͕̾͋ţ̷̡̱͙̓͋͝ ̴̥́̈́̒c̶̬͖̯̪̲͖̎̈́̓̈͝͠o̶̩̬̥̬͆͌̅̿͒̑ņ̷̨͍̰̝̱̆̇̅t̶̛͈̱̦̘͖̙͛ŕ̶̳̭͇̥̥̯̉͛̅̏ơ̷̧̰̘͂͐͘̚͝ļ̴̩̈́͂ş̷̥̤̃̈́ ̷̡̪͉̰͝m̸̧͍̱͕̰̣̽̽̇ȩ̸͆͐͗̄ ̶̻̌̿̆̓̒͋w̷̼͎̼̦̲̆͆̀͘̚h̷̬̭̖̊̽͘ĕ̶̹̀̋̓͘͝ͅn̴̢̽̐͛̐ ̶̡̧̛̙̣̝̽́̀̈́̚͜i̶̦͒ ̸̢̧̜̠͖̪̔͘d̶̨̠̠͛̀̂ő̴̲͍̔̓̿͝͝ ̸̟̘̑̓̕ǹ̴̰̖̟̳̼̔̋͒͌͜ò̷̒̽̃́̚ͅͅţ̸̼̱̩̈͗ ̴̘̔͠w̸̢̦̪̘̓͌͊͛̾͗â̶̮̮͋̈́̀ṅ̶̤͚̳t̴͙̔̓͛͠ ̴̢̛͇̩̟̏͛͋̆̐ì̵̡̘̌̅͂͠t̸͍̹͉͂͑ ̷͇̖͚̾̋ͅͅt̵̡͕͍̠̞̎͂ö̶̧̜̦̣́͝͝.̴̦̤͝ ̸͔͎͚̮̱͎̏̈́i̸̫͛̂̍̒̚͘ ̴͓̊̋̀h̵̢̜̩̒̃̋͆a̶̖̓̈́̕t̴̝̳͛̃̀̕ė̸̞̎́̆̆͘͜ ̴̆̾͊̌͂͜͠ȉ̴̢̡̧̛͙̦̈̆͌͊ť̵̛̞͎͓̫̿͗̋,̵̻͑̾̆́̕͘ ̵̹̿̈̚ä̴̞̙́͛̇̓̔ṅ̴̛͖̬̥̘͌̚͝d̸̢͈̼͚̯̬̂̓̿͝ ̷̳̺̏̏ȋ̷̦̟͖̞͍̺̓́̓t̶̨̼͈͆̈́̿̇ ̶̣̝̑̂̂̕͝ḧ̶̻̪̝̥̩̠́̿͑̕ḁ̸̰̓͂͂͠ṱ̴̯́͐͒̽̄̕ͅe̸͇̖̺͔͒s̸̨͕̾̏͝ ̷̥̟͖͎͐̆̚ͅm̸̠̓͘͝ë̶͚̲̠̳̙́́̽̿.̵̝͉̻͓́́́̐ ̵̜̂̅́̔͝i̵͎̹̍̍̇̄̎t̵̼̮̭̃̓́̉̓ ̶̱̳̀t̵͈̄̄͒͋̇e̴͈͙͚̾̽̔̀å̵̮͚̫̞͙̓͛̐r̷͕͙͖͎̂͛̒͗͒̃s̵͎̺̿̃͗ ̶̟̝̳͚̭͠m̷͇̘̰͚̦̓̓̑̆̓e̶͔̝͓͎̓́̋̓̔ ̸͎̣̑͐a̵̡̼̣̽p̵̧̨͎̥̖͕͑̾̓͑͠a̴̛͔͖͍̤̫̾͂̉̃ŕ̷̳̬̘̯̌͌̿̓͝t̷̡̙̰̹̹̣̓͌͘ ̷̲͇̌̏͆̓́̎f̵̺̝̙͙̫͖̂̀r̵̩͙̬̆̓̂̎̚͝o̵̦͓͖̊̈́̃́͘ͅm̸̡̠͔͕̰̽̎͠ ̵̧͉͕͓͐̆̅̌͠t̵̺̗̀̚h̸̯̖͈͉̑͊͘e̴̩̲̣͗ ̵̡̢͍̖̒͌̅i̸͕̦̗̒ͅn̵̖͓͍̞͌̾̉͝ş̵̈͒̓͂̍į̶̘͉̦́̈́̚͝d̷̰̩͎̗̎̆e̴̟͈̣̎͂̓͝͝ͅ ̸̙̤̳̪̼̳̐̎̋ḁ̴̆̈́̓̓ṋ̶̗͚̒͛͒̋͠d̴͎̯̾̚ ̶̳̈͑͐̅͠i̴̜̓̈́ ̷̪̲͒͑̆ḁ̴̑̀̔m̶̹̜̣̆̓̃͆̅ ̴̱͕̮̓͂̎́͗͝ḟ̸͗̃͂̓͜o̶͎̞͋͑̈́̔̎̓͜r̸̯̮̓̊ć̸̯e̷̖̜̪̼̍͑͘d̶͖̰̗̺͛̒͜ ̸̨͚̈t̷̲͑̄͑̂̚͝o̸̥̫͖͂̍ ̸̼͖̐͋̉͐ķ̴͔̥̱̮̎̄e̸̦͇̺̓̀̓͒̉e̵̟͐̌̈́̄͠ͅp̸̯̌͆̾̓ ̵̭͉̟͆̑̈́ͅȃ̴͉̭̫̲̩̽̄̽͠ ̸̮͖̐͒̉̒̏s̸̥̼̦͓̱̮͐̃͐m̶̻̬͗͗̔̂̉͝i̶̛̘̮̯͈͜l̶͚̳̎̓̈́͘é̵͙̬̙͕̂ ̵̞͔͗̈́o̸̳̦̭̅̈́͐͊n̶̙̭̎̒̊̏̏̑͜ ̸̺͙͙̒͌̏͝m̵̧̗̱̝͆̋̊y̵̞̬͐̉̍̍̽ ̵̣̃̈͠f̸̧̥͍̠͓̻̎̋̆̋ȧ̶̱̬̻̖̗̎̆c̴̨̡̨̗͇̳͝ę̶̛̦͇̪̂̇ ̸̥̋͌w̸̖͈̒ḩ̵̦̻̬̗́͆̿͝ȩ̴͚̺̺̣̩̒̑n̸̩̳͙͂̋͒͒̐̄ ̶̪̰̐̄̐̈́͆i̸̤͊̊͠ ̷̱͌f̴̰͎̹̠̈́̏̍̌̕͠e̸̳̖͉͛͋͛͝ë̴̡̢͈̣̠̲́͠l̵̫̘̰̫̜͚̑̇͐̈́̔͠ ̸̢͖͇͎̝̠̌̍̉͐͊̕s̶̤̆̌̂̔͌̓c̵̣͐́͠ą̸̖͓̜͇̎̄̏͛r̸͍͌̐͝e̵̱͉̦̚d̴͈̝̙̺͈̰̀̀̾̅ ̶͕͐́̾̑a̵̧̗̱̺̲̦̍̇̑̊n̷̛̹͗͗̃d̵̨͔̹͎̰͉̃͑̕̚͠͝ ̶̛̪͉̃̋a̶̭͉͎͗̈́͊̏l̶͔̼̲̠̱̣̎̃̓̒͝o̴̞̻͍͆̐́̈͝͠n̷̪͚̊͗̓̄͆̉ẽ̷̫͈̟͓̲̦̊.̷̢̻̰͗

“If you couldn’t read that, it says this “I’m just a slave to the trauma, it controls me when I do not want it to. I hate it, and it hates me. It tears me apart from the inside and I am forced to keep a smile on my face when I feel scared and alone.”

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“As seen in the picture, there are two versions of my personality sewn together to create what most of you know as me. ” 

“The first, is what I really feel like, a jumble of emotions that need to be let out but I keep hidden because it would just upset the people around me. The second, is the version of me that I pretend to be. I pretend to be happy all of the time so my friends will not worry. I pretend to have fun when I really need to go to a therapist and let out my emotions, but my family will not let me. I’ve ‘constructed‘ a version of me that people will like and not stress about, which is the me that resides on DeviantArt.”

“Sorry about the vent. I’m going through a rough time (mother and father divorcing, they’re bringing me into it because I am the eldest of two children and the only one who knows what is going on.”

A poignant depiction of divorce. My heart goes out to her.  Her art is extremely captivating and her words indicate she is wiser beyond her years. Curiously, how would her creativity  be revealed if she were able to focus on just being an adolescent without the divorce drama between her parents. Seemingly, she is put in the middle of an adult matter: Divorce is between the parents-About the child!

Deviant Art: Slave to the Trauma

Link: http://drawtheearth.deviantart.com/art/Slave-to-the-trauma-C-PTSD-VENT-GORE-WARNING-670749790

 

#440, Slave to the Trauma

Category: A Child’s View, Impact on child

Sadness of Divorce

 

A parent finds this pic in their 7-yr-old child’s school bag. Expressing feelings about a parents divorce may be difficult especially in high conflict situations. Sometimes a child can share their emotions and thoughts through art.  Both houses appear on a hill at the same level indicating equality in their parent’s position (in their life and with power?).  

The child appears sorrowful and seems to have a pronounced frown. The arrows in between the thought bubbles show the need to accommodate both parents. Question marks in the bubbles appear as thoughts indicating confusion about the separation. Perhaps, even being placed in a position to choose sides.  Curiously, the question mark on mom’s side is larger and the hill somewhat higher even though Dad’s house is taller.

The figure has no hands possibly revealing emotional insecurity. No feet in a drawing may indicate a lack of control over their destiny or a sense of helplessness. This is a very unfortunate picture indeed.

Sadly, this is one picture that will not be placed on the fridge.

moms-dads-house-red

#439, Sadness of Divorce

Categories: A Child’s View, A Parent’s Heartache, Impact on child

La Divorce

 

 

This artwork reveals the dichotomy of divorce.  A happy parent with a red purse holding her daughters hand (on the right side). This part includes a heart balloon, a stuffed polka-dot animal, a tall flower with a tiny ribbon collared dog leaping for joy.  The man in the middle is wearing a hat and has facial features. There is a wide smile shaped line extending past the outline on both sides. There appears to be a text bubble (?) in pink stemming from his hat.

On the left side this parent is looking down while walking. Her purse is now smaller and in black. Thee are no flowers, balloons or animals. There is a black heart with a black line. Notably, her shoes have an added outline which may be interpreted as something weighting her down. This time the mans face has no eyes or mouth. The possible text bubble is coming from where his mouth would be.

I wonder if many parents feel like this. Especially when there is parental conflict. Seemingly, a parent may be more accepting of a divorce if they know their child is happy and taken care of.

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 #438, La Divorce

La Divorce by Sladjana Lazarevic