Nicest Mommy

 

This picture captures the experience of many children with parents who have narcissistic tendencies. Seemingly, the parent presents as mother of the year in front of everyone else while the reality for the child is somewhat frightening. Notably, this makes the child feel unimportant. A child notices they are not loved enough to receive the ‘special’ treatment everyone else enjoys. This may leave a trail of emotional damage for the child with long-term negative consequences.

#498, Nicest Mommy

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Mirror Mirror!

 

A beautiful child looking on adoringly and this mother is totally captivated with herself. A mirror in front and a mirror to the side. In this picture the mother is dressed in a bright color and everything else is less colorful.  Maintaining the image this is totally all about her. Will this child ever realize that a loving parent would pay attention to her. Playfully putting lipstick on her young girls lips, making this a mommy-daughter moment to remember.

#497, Mirror Mirror!

I Love Me!

 

A quintessential representation of an individual with narcissistic tendencies. This seems to capture the idea of the selfie and gazing into the looking glass to view herself! Text bubble indicates there is no division between the individual and her adoring reflection. They both look beautiful. Seemingly, a child would become lost in the shuffle and would require attention on someone other than both of ‘her-selves’. As long as the focus remains on her-all is right with the world.

#496, I Love Me!

Bullied by Mom

 

An adult child of divorce shares a PostSecret about his mother. A parent with narcissistic tendencies presents as the perfect parent. In reality, the child is forced into putting their own needs and wants aside. This shows how nurturance plays a key role in who we become. Sadly, this mother will never know the damage caused to her child.  Worse yet, her child will forever try to cope with the ill-doings done because of parental behaviors with narcissistic tendencies. How unfortunate for this child.

#495, Bullied by Mom 

“I Never Said That”

 

Confabulations, denial and lies are all part of game for a parent with narcissistic tendencies. Accepting responsibility, apologizing and correcting wrongful behaviors are typically not on the agenda. This reinforces the message of chaos and confusion for the child. Parents are a child’s first and most important teacher. Instilling doubt, fear, guilt or shame in a child promote problems that may never heal. These issues will impact the daily living and future relationships of that child into adulthood.

#494, “I Never Said That”

Left Out

 

Sometimes in divorce, the dynamics change and one parent is left out. This shows how dad is not part of the picture for this child. Three-fourths of the pic is mom and child with a bright sun, blue skies, birds, a butterfly, flowers and green grass. Both are smiling. Child is displaying an especially large smile. A small part of the pic is dedicated to dad. Gray-tones set the dreary mood with a few large blue rain drops falling upon dad. Grass is gray, one flower in gray in droopy. Dad is miniature indicating he is less important. Dad, standing on a mound of gray does not appear to be smiling. A very unfortunate portrayal of this parent. I wonder if mom knows how important the father-child relationship is to the emotional and physical development of her child. 

#493, Left Out

 

Silenced

 

A graphic representation of parental conflict for one child. Each parent seems intent in continuing their ‘unfriendly’ conversation.  Neither parent seems concerned the child is overhearing the argument. The tape on her mouth sends the message no one is concerned  in what the child has to say or thinking about this. Parental conflict is confusing and damaging to the child. How utterly sad for this child.

#492, Silenced