Before and After Divorce

 

One young artist shares a “before” drawing on top, and a pic of her family “after” in the bottom picture.  This child presents her family as happy and fun.  Everyone is smiling.  Artist is holding her arm wide open indicating confidence and high self-esteem.  In the after pic, no one is smiling.  Each parent is turned away from the child.  Notice how her arms are held tightly to her body.  Restricted movement.  Is this how she feel emotionally?  Is either parent acknowledging the changes occurring in their family?

Family ‘BEFORE’

Family ‘AFTER’

 

Kids in the Middle is an agency geared toward helping the family during the divorce process.  They are located in Maplewood Missouri.(314) 909-9922
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Parenting Matters

 

Parenting does matter!  This is a  simple message revealing the importance of the parent-child relationship. Notably, this is especially relevant in custody matters.  Children have a right to experience a kind, loving and reciprocating relationship with both parents.

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See and Hear Dad

 

Is this little girl watching a home video? Is this dad a public figure?  Seemingly, if this daughter was seeing her father on a regular basis she may comment “look, there is daddy”.  A child having a relationship with both parents is important for their emotional, physical and spiritual growth. Supporting shared parenting is best for the child.

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Pulled and Chained

 

A graphic representation of how the child may experience parental divorce. This girl is being ‘pulled’ by each parent to different sides. A chain is attached to both parents and strategically placed over her heart.  Is this symbolic of the emotional pull she is experiencing? Large white tears complete this unfortunate presentation of divorce.  

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Mad

 

This child expresses feelings about how the divorce is impacting their social life. Child states: “When I am with Dad I don’t get to spend that much time with my friends.  I’m mad because I don’t get to spend that much time with Dad.” Is this a situation where the parents live far apart? Is there a way for these parents to figure out a way for the child to spend more time with dad and friends?  Sometimes, custody plans need to be altered to accommodate the needs of the child as the child becomes older.

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Holding On

 

A child in the middle holding on to both parents. Quality relationships of parents with their children are the greatest antidote to the negative consequences from divorce.” 

~John Chirban Ph.D., Th.D.   

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