Web of Deception

 

“Oh what a tangled web we weave when at first we start to deceive.” Come into my web of deception said the spider to the fly….. A parent with narcissistic tendencies may display certain behaviors only behind closed doors and other actions when in public. This can be confusing to young children and frustrating for everyone involved. 

 

#520, Web of Deception

Clip Their Wings

 

Patterns of communication established in early childhood impact every aspect of the child’s life. Parent-child relationships play a critical role in how the child develops. The artist shares how the strings of fear and guilt tend to keep the child from venturing out and developing as an individual.

#514, Clip Their Wings.

As shared on Parental Alienation Dynamics, Facebook.com/ParentalAlienationDynamics

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Quote from . Michael Bone, Ph.D.

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Consistency

 

A parent with narcissistic tendencies may create a world of confusion and frustration for everyone involved. This may result in the child learning maladaptive communication skills. Impacting future relationships for the child.

#505, They are Consistent

Categories: Impact on child, Narcissistic tendencies

Truth?

 

The stories told  in childhood and in adulthood are firmly established and become the “truth. With an individual who has narcissistic tendencies there is only one side to the story. This is frustrating for co-parents and confusing for the child. Children learn about relationships by observing parental interactions. Continual exposure to untruths and lack of interest in another individuals’ experience may be devastating for the child. 

#500, Truth?

 

Who is the Parent?

 

A parentified child of divorce sacrifices their needs to care for the parent and the parent gives up their role to one or more of their children. A parentified child expresses ‘concern’ for the parent while the healthy emotional bond is absent. In essence, the child is not allowed to be a child. This dynamic has long-term negative consequences for the child and will be realized in interpersonal and intrapersonal relationships throughout the life of the child.

#499, Who is the Parent?

Nicest Mommy

 

This picture captures the experience of many children with parents who have narcissistic tendencies. Seemingly, the parent presents as mother of the year in front of everyone else while the reality for the child is somewhat frightening. Notably, this makes the child feel unimportant. A child notices they are not loved enough to receive the ‘special’ treatment everyone else enjoys. This may leave a trail of emotional damage for the child with long-term negative consequences.

#498, Nicest Mommy

Mirror Mirror!

 

A beautiful child looking on adoringly and this mother is totally captivated with herself. A mirror in front and a mirror to the side. In this picture the mother is dressed in a bright color and the light shines upon her.  Everything else  in the picture is less colorful and pronounced.  I hope this little girl has someone in her life who makes her feel special. 

#497, Mirror Mirror!

I Love Me!

 

A quintessential representation of an individual with narcissistic tendencies. This seems to capture the idea of the selfie and gazing into the looking glass to view herself! Text bubble indicates there is no division between the individual and her adoring reflection. They both look beautiful. Seemingly, a child would become lost in the shuffle and would require attention on someone other than both of ‘her-selves’. As long as the focus remains on her-all is right with the world.

#496, I Love Me!

Bullied by Mom

 

An adult child of divorce shares a PostSecret about his mother. A parent with narcissistic tendencies presents as the perfect parent. In reality, the child is forced into putting their own needs and wants aside. This shows how nurturance plays a key role in who we become. Sadly, this mother will never know the damage caused to her child.  Worse yet, her child will forever try to cope with the ill-doings done because of parental behaviors with narcissistic tendencies. How unfortunate for this child.

#495, Bullied by Mom 

“I Never Said That”

 

Confabulations, denial and lies are all part of game for a parent with narcissistic tendencies. Accepting responsibility, apologizing and correcting wrongful behaviors are typically not on the agenda. This reinforces the message of chaos and confusion for the child. Parents are a child’s first and most important teacher. Instilling doubt, fear, guilt or shame in a child promote problems that may never heal. These issues will impact the daily living and future relationships of that child into adulthood.

#494, “I Never Said That”