Welcome to the Place for Poetry of the Personal!

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Confess your feelings of betrayal, fear, heartache or humiliation that you have experienced in your divorce or co-parenting situation.

Share a setting that you regret or a situation that may have caused anguish, misery or sorrow  for your co-parent.  Or, reveal actions that may have promoted emotional pain or unhappiness for your child.

Confessions are not limited to heartache only.  Please share heartwarming moments and happy experiences you have experienced in divorce and shared parenting too!  Perhaps, something your co-parent did or said that has enhanced your co-parenting relationship.  

Here is anopportunity to share the confessions about your divorce or co-parenting experiences. This can be something that you have told to family and friends or a private thought that has remained a secret…….until now. Focus on extreme moments of individual experiences.  

This is a place to confess what your co-parent did or said that led to your feelings of betrayal, fear or humiliation. Write about something that you enacted, a statement or a thought you expressed that caused grief for your co-parent, your child or yourself.  

We learn from others experiences and situations. Perhaps in reading these scenarios, co-parents can identify with issues they are also experiencing.   Hopefully,one can see how some actions can have long-term negative effects and cause pain for their co-parent or child!   Importantly, by reading these stories co-parents can see that they are not alone in the thoughts and feelings surrounding their divorce and co-parenting relationship.

Invitation is extended to:

  • Parents who are divorced or in the process of divorce.
  • Parents and co-parents (never married) who have children.
  • Parents who have or do not have a parenting plan in place.
  • Anyone interested in a front row seat to see the despair that divorce or co-parenting issues can have on a parent and how the actions impact the child.
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Web of Deception

 

“Oh what a tangled web we weave when at first we start to deceive.” Come into my web of deception said the spider to the fly….. A parent with narcissistic tendencies may display certain behaviors only behind closed doors. Part of the pathology is keeping the personality disorder hidden from everyone outside of the family.  

 

#520, Web of Deception

Clip Their Wings

 

The abnormal relationship promoted by the alienating parent is a form of control and manipulation. Strings of fear and guilt tend to keep the child from venturing out and developing as a person. The child is led to believe they are unimportant and, worse yet, unlovable.  Patterns of communication established in early childhood impact every aspect of the child’s life.  Ego, relationships, and self-esteem are based on the parent-child relationship. Sadly, one can easily become entrapped and pass the family ‘tradition’ down to their own children. Creating an intergenerational pattern of behaviors.

#514, Clip Their Wings.

As shared on Parental Alienation Dynamics, Facebook.com/ParentalAlienationDynamics

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Quote from . Michael Bone, Ph.D.

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Consistency

 

A parent with narcissistic tendencies lives within a world of putting everyone down to maintain their position of superiority. Consistency in behaviors and comments will most likely continue. In some social situations an individual may be avoided; however, for co-parents and children that may not be possible. Bewilderingly, this creates a world of confusion and frustration for everyone involved. 

#505, They are Consistent

Categories: Impact on child, Narcissistic tendencies

Recipe for Disaster!

 

The perfect mix! Creating an  individual with narcissistic tendencies is a special recipe. One must have the perfect background growing up and the right person to support their needs. Ingredients may be substituted with any of the following: Self-centered need for adoration, adulation and attention. This recipe is full-proof and long-lasting. Shelf-life guaranteed.

#501, Recipe for Disaster!

Truth?

 

The stories the members tell about how the family works, both in childhood and in adulthood are firmly established and become the “truth. With an individual who has narcissistic tendencies there is only one side to the story. This is frustrating for co-parents and confusing for the child. Children learn about relationships by observing parental interactions. Continual exposure to untruths and lack of interest in another individuals’ experience may be devastating for the child. 

#500, Truth?

 

Who is the Parent?

 

A parentified child of divorce sacrifices their needs to care for the parent and the parent gives up their role to one or more of their children. A parentified child expresses ‘concern’ for the parent while the healthy emotional bond is absent. In essence, the child is not allowed to be a child. This dynamic has long-term negative consequences for the child and will be realized in interpersonal and intrapersonal relationships throughout the life of the child.

#499, Who is the Parent?