Setting Boundaries

 

“When you start to set boundaries with the narc or anyone else, you won’t do it perfectly at first. You have to do it again and again to get it right. Here’s a suggestion about telling people what your boundaries are. Practice in front of a mirror. Say it out loud.

This is a new skill and it will take practice just like anything else. If you continue to practice, then your boundaries will get stronger over time as YOU get stronger. What you might have timidly asserted as a boundary at one point, a year later if that person tries to cross that boundary, you’re likely to be a mama/papa bear.

Here’s the thing….START NOW, and remember this is a learned skill, so give your self time. You can do this.”

Meme via Give Her Wings…

#576, Setting Boundaries

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Web of Deception

 

“Oh what a tangled web we weave when at first we start to deceive.” Come into my web of deception said the spider to the fly….. A parent with narcissistic tendencies may display certain behaviors only behind closed doors. Part of the pathology is keeping the personality disorder hidden from everyone outside of the family.  

 

#520, Web of Deception

Clip Their Wings

 

The abnormal relationship promoted by the alienating parent is a form of control and manipulation. Strings of fear and guilt tend to keep the child from venturing out and developing as a person. The child is led to believe they are unimportant and, worse yet, unlovable.  Patterns of communication established in early childhood impact every aspect of the child’s life.  Ego, relationships, and self-esteem are based on the parent-child relationship. Sadly, one can easily become entrapped and pass the family ‘tradition’ down to their own children. Creating an intergenerational pattern of behaviors.

#514, Clip Their Wings.

As shared on Parental Alienation Dynamics, Facebook.com/ParentalAlienationDynamics

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Quote from . Michael Bone, Ph.D.

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Consistency

 

A parent with narcissistic tendencies lives within a world of putting everyone down to maintain their position of superiority. Consistency in behaviors and comments will most likely continue. In some social situations an individual may be avoided; however, for co-parents and children that may not be possible. Bewilderingly, this creates a world of confusion and frustration for everyone involved. 

#505, They are Consistent

Categories: Impact on child, Narcissistic tendencies

Recipe for Disaster!

 

The perfect mix! Creating an  individual with narcissistic tendencies is a special recipe. One must have the perfect background growing up and the right person to support their needs. Ingredients may be substituted with any of the following: Self-centered need for adoration, adulation and attention. This recipe is full-proof and long-lasting. Shelf-life guaranteed.

#501, Recipe for Disaster!

Truth?

 

The stories the members tell about how the family works, both in childhood and in adulthood are firmly established and become the “truth. With an individual who has narcissistic tendencies there is only one side to the story. This is frustrating for co-parents and confusing for the child. Children learn about relationships by observing parental interactions. Continual exposure to untruths and lack of interest in another individuals’ experience may be devastating for the child. 

#500, Truth?

 

Who is the Parent?

 

A parentified child of divorce sacrifices their needs to care for the parent and the parent gives up their role to one or more of their children. A parentified child expresses ‘concern’ for the parent while the healthy emotional bond is absent. In essence, the child is not allowed to be a child. This dynamic has long-term negative consequences for the child and will be realized in interpersonal and intrapersonal relationships throughout the life of the child.

#499, Who is the Parent?

Nicest Mommy

 

This picture captures the experience of many children with parents who have narcissistic tendencies. Seemingly, the parent presents as mother of the year in front of everyone else while the reality for the child is somewhat frightening. Notably, this makes the child feel unimportant. A child notices they are not loved enough to receive the ‘special’ treatment everyone else enjoys. This may leave a trail of emotional damage for the child with long-term negative consequences.

#498, Nicest Mommy

Mirror Mirror!

 

A beautiful child looking on adoringly and this mother is totally captivated with herself. A mirror in front and a mirror to the side. In this picture the mother is dressed in a bright color and everything else is less colorful.  Maintaining the image this is totally all about her. Will this child ever realize that a loving parent would pay attention to her. Playfully putting lipstick on her young girls lips, making this a mommy-daughter moment to remember.

#497, Mirror Mirror!

I Love Me!

 

A quintessential representation of an individual with narcissistic tendencies. This seems to capture the idea of the selfie and gazing into the looking glass to view herself! Text bubble indicates there is no division between the individual and her adoring reflection. They both look beautiful. Seemingly, a child would become lost in the shuffle and would require attention on someone other than both of ‘her-selves’. As long as the focus remains on her-all is right with the world.

#496, I Love Me!