Give this Note to Your Dad

 

A bright character is the primary object on this artwork. Sun rays in the upper corner and the message below completes this drawing.  Note has the letter “W” on the outside.  Is this significant to the name of the child or parent? Putting the child in the middle of communications between the parents is unfair.  I hope these parents realize how these actions impact their child. Divorce is between the parents-about the child. LOVE WINS!

#444, Give this Note to Your Dad

Categories: Impact on child, A child’s View

 

Chocolate Chip Cookies are the Answer

 

Creating memories is an integral part of childhood. One child shares their expert opinion on how to make things better. Children need and want to have a relationship with both parents.
Support Equal Shared Parenting!

 

#579, Chocolate Chip Cookies are the Answer

Who Is Missing?

 

Artwork by a young artist seems to reveal anger, loss and sadness. Two people are crossed out in black. Is this a parent, a sibling or the perhaps the artist? One parent seems to have a squarish face with large eyes and the only character with a mouth.  Does this mean no one else has a voice? Who is the person in red and partly covered with black squiggly lines?  Is this the child? There are many unknowns in this art. Hopefully, someone will realize what the child is trying to say. Someone should be listening to this wee one. 

 

 

 

#521, Who Is Missing?

A Letter About ‘Difors’

 

A child expresses her thoughts on parental divorce.  I hope her parents are talking to her about what is happening.  Children have a sense of how their world is changing.  Talking about the occurrence of events is important to their overall adjustment to the divorce and separation.  

#578, A Letter About ‘Difors’

“Not Our Fault”

 

The words of an adult child of divorce send an essential message for parents and family members: “Our actions can be hurtful and even cruel to our alienated parent and family. We don’t mean to act out, we don’t mean to be so rude. In this case, our actions are not our own. Please don’t take it personally. Someday our eyes will be opened and we will regret the way we treated you. Just love us through this hard time in our life…”

#577, “Not Our Fault”

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…Bigger Feelings

This artwork reveals how adolescents may be impacted by divorce.  Often, there is  the expectation the teen is old enough to ‘deal’ with what is happening.  He is experiencing a lot of BIG feelings. Hopefully, his parents will reach out and talk about the changes taking place.  

#578, …Bigger Feelings

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Kubo and the Monster

 

This very talented artist faces the ‘monster’ of divorce.  Excellent depiction of the emotional experiences of divorce from the child’s perspective. The artist shares: “As Kubo walked into the dark, gloomy cave, he suddenly heard a noise and swiftly turned around to it’s source, he looked but there was no one there, he turned back around and gazed at the sight of the monster ,The Monster of abandonment ,and despair, he swiftly grabbed his guitar and shamisen,and started to play.”

info about the art from the artist:
“Okay, the shadowy wolf thing its actually what I had to deal with in my elementary school years ,you see my elementary school years were not the best ,I had to face betrayal ,abandonment ,loneliness ,and my family now divorced ,and many other things ,but it wasn’t until jr. high that I met my friend ,which is now my friend even to today.”

#569/447, Kubo and the Monster

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Deviant Art, Kub and the Monster by cookiedragon202

http://cookiedragon202.deviantart.com/art/Kubo-and-The-Monster-645096365

Categories: A Child’s View, Reality of Divorce, Impact on child

 

 

I hate Devorce

 

 A heart wrenching portrayal of parental ‘Devorce” for one child.  The red heart at eye level  of the individual stands out the most. Who is the person taking a very large knife to the ‘heart’ of the tree.  Is this a child sharing their experience of emotional hurt? Or, is this artist  depicting a parent taking a knife to the emotional heart of the child?  Numerous jagged edges appear throughout the tree branches indicating aggressiveness. What is this child artist revealing with this artwork? Is this child able to spend time with both parents? There are many questions without answers with this startling artwork. 

 

 

#566, I Hate Devorce.

Cut in Half

A large knife across the entire page sets the tone for this thought.  Perhaps,  the ransom style note indicates anonymity as the child is unable to express how they feel to either parent.  How does a child reconcile mean statements about their co-parent?  Divorce is between the parents and about the child.  Hopefully, someone will allow this child to share their emotional experiences  about parental divorce.

#565, Cut in Half

Counting the Days

An artist shares their thoughts as an adolescent by marking the days until they turn age 18.  Does this mean more freedom? Or, the ability to make their own decisions?   I hope someone is reaching out and offering guidance to this almost adult person?    Notably, parents play a vital role-the age of the child matters not. 

#564, Counting the Days