Pulled in Two Directions

Pulled in Two Directions

This child is pulled in two different directions.  Each parent is hanging on tightly. Is one parent pulling a little harder?  Children want to have both parents close by.  Is there a way to help these parents work together?  

Pulled in Two Directions

Divorce by lexidh

#230 http://lexidh.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-17369912

Kubo and the Monster

 

This very talented artist faces the ‘monster’ of divorce.  Excellent depiction of the emotional experiences of divorce from the child’s perspective. The artist shares: “As Kubo walked into the dark, gloomy cave, he suddenly heard a noise and swiftly turned around to it’s source, he looked but there was no one there, he turned back around and gazed at the sight of the monster ,The Monster of abandonment ,and despair, he swiftly grabbed his guitar and shamisen,and started to play.”

info about the art from the artist:
“Okay, the shadowy wolf thing its actually what I had to deal with in my elementary school years ,you see my elementary school years were not the best ,I had to face betrayal ,abandonment ,loneliness ,and my family now divorced ,and many other things ,but it wasn’t until jr. high that I met my friend ,which is now my friend even to today.”

#569/447, Kubo and the Monster

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Deviant Art, Kub and the Monster by cookiedragon202

http://cookiedragon202.deviantart.com/art/Kubo-and-The-Monster-645096365

Categories: A Child’s View, Reality of Divorce, Impact on child

 

 

Innocence

 

The title of this artwork is perfect and reveals the innocence of the child within the midst of divorce.  Each hand has a firm grip and pulling her in different directions. A key feature standing out is the lack of emotion. Is she used to being put in the middle and pulled in different directions by her parents? Does she have someone to talk to about what is happening.  

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“Divorce” by ElenaOprea photographyt: deviant art/Divorce-82552217

#563, Innocence

 

Officially Divorced

A scribe in the center indicates this is a different time period.  Is this father holding the papers making the separation legal? Or, why are his children being separated from him?  Closed eyes and hand on his heart show the separation may not be his idea.  One child is looking to their father.  Children being separated from a parent is a devastating event regardless of the time period.

#561, Officially Divorced

Unhappy Court Appearance

 

A powerful picture!  Scales are in view.   Is this a fair case? Are the red hands indicative of something?  Two parents and a child are at the desk.  Suitcases packed; does this mean someone is moving out?  Mom and dad are fighting.  The child is in the middle of his parents with large tears streaming down his face. What is this child experiencing?  

#560, Unhappy Court Appearance

Holding On

 

A child in the middle holding on to both parents. Quality relationships of parents with their children are the greatest antidote to the negative consequences from divorce.” 

~John Chirban Ph.D., Th.D.   

#546, Holding On

Split in Two

 

This is a simple yet graphic example of what divorce may feel like for a child.  Being pulled by both parents.  The artist creates a sense of hurriedness and urgency.  Father seems to be taking large deliberate strives while the dress of mom is billowing in the wind of the speed.  Where is each parent going?  Regardless of the plans, each seems intent on taking the child with them.  Neither parent seems interested  in communicating with their child.  Will their son have the opportunity to share his thoughts?   

 

#508, Split in Two

 

Reality of Exchanges

 

This is a most unfortunate reality for some parents in a high conflict divorce. A drop zone created by the city to accommodate parents who will not be nice during the exchange. Security cameras are watching the area for any outbursts or abnormal behavior.  Notably, there are many parents even missing out on this! 

How long is the 2 minute exchange? http://www.sharedparentinginfo.com/two-minute-exchange.html

 

 

Words Do Hurt

 

“Sticks and stones may break my bones but words can never hurt me” may be a rhyme; however, the reality is words do hurt. In fact, emotional and verbal abuse by a parent has long-term implications of which the victim may never fully recover.  Physical scars may heal.  Emotional scars created by harsh words may never fully go away. 

#506, Words Do Hurt

Categories: Impact on child, Psychological abuse

Shameful!

 

This is shameful! One parent offers to cease child support payments for full custody of their child. This speaks to the need for family court reform with child support.   “Child support is intended to support the child-not break the parent emotionally and financially.” Ruth A. S. Nichols

 

#534, Shameful!

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