Being a Daddy

 

A heartwarming story from an adoring father. As this story shows, being a father occurs at different levels. Research is consistent in showing how fathers play a unique role in the cognitive, emotional, physical, and spiritual development of their child. 

 

I want to share something that means a lot to me this evening. It might not mean much to the parent who sees their child or children every day. Perhaps it will.
For the first time about one week ago, my son had a part of his toy ambulance stop working. The various siren sounds stopped working when any of the three buttons on top of the toy were pushed, but the lights would still flash when any of the buttons were pushed. My son, through merely observing his initial reaction, could tell there was no sound coming from his toy. He didn’t understand why there was silence present instead of sirens roaring.
Fast forward to tonight. After my son was picked up by his mother and I took care of a personal matter, I fixed his toy ambulance. It was an easy fix where even the most inept person in fixing things could have figured out the remedy. Silence be gone! Sirens be blasting!
The point is, I fixed one of my son’s toys for him tonight. I was dad helping out my boy, even though he wasn’t here to see it. I feel so much joy right now over something most may or even would deem as insignificant. It’s not to me. To me, it’s another piece of me being daddy to my boy. I love it, and my heart’s at peace and my eyelids are watery. If my son and I spent time with each other considerably more than the approximately 7.5% of the week we currently do, perhaps this wouldn’t be so poignant and sentimental to me.
The next time my son is over to spend time with me and I with him, he’ll notice the sounds blaring from his beloved toy ambulance. Whatever his initial reaction, I reminded myself tonight that no matter what any person or entity tells me verbally, through family court, etc, I’m ultimately more than a visitor to my son. He deserves equal time with both of his parents.
“To me, it’s another piece of me being daddy to my boy”.

#538 Being a Daddy

Shared by an adoring father, Jason Gearhart, fighting for equal shared parenting for all parents and children. Permission granted 9/25/2018 approx. 10: 09 p.m.

Happy On the Outside

Sometimes, someone may feel really down and sad and say they are fine. They may appear perfectly happy and content on the outside and act differently in front of everyone. This artist shares their innermost thoughts.  Every experience is different.  And, the way we feel one moment may not be the way we think in the next moment.  Things change. Please know people are available to help you.  Help is available 24-7. Please reach out to someone!

#571, Happy On the Outside

Suicide Rate

Suicide among parents of divorce is an important issue to address in all countries: “Every week 21 Australian fathers commit suicide as a result of child access issues, child support financial pressures, and unfair family court rulings following separation.  We need your help to change this.” Australian Brotherhood of Fathers http://www.theabf.com.au

#572, Suicide Rate

Australian Brotherhood of Fathers http://www.theabf.com.au

Are Family Members Cropable?

 

Children want and need to have a relationship with BOTH parents. In this ‘artwork’ one parent is nondescript and separate from other family members. From the standpoint of the child, each family member is important.  No one is ‘crop-able’. Supporting the parent-child relationship with each parent is important to the child.

# 478, Are Family Members Cropable?

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Officially Divorced

A scribe in the center indicates this is a different time period.  Is this father holding the papers making the separation legal? Or, why are his children being separated from him?  Closed eyes and hand on his heart show the separation may not be his idea.  One child is looking to their father.  Children being separated from a parent is a devastating event regardless of the time period.

#561, Officially Divorced

Never Give Up

 

This parent declares determination in seeing his son. Even though events are observed on the side lines. Father attends all school games.  Even though there is no verbal contact between parent and child. This father refuses to give up.

#537, Never Give Up

 

 

Shameful!

 

This is shameful! One parent offers to cease child support payments for full custody of their child. This speaks to the need for family court reform with child support.   “Child support is intended to support the child-not break the parent emotionally and financially.” Ruth A. S. Nichols

 

#534, Shameful!

Shared from The Child Support Hustle FB page :https://www.facebook.com/TheChildSupportHustle/

Words of Encouragement

 

A message for all parents!  Kentucky Fathers (Facebook page) shares words of encouragement.  Notably, this message is for both mothers and fathers. Creating awareness and educating the public is key. In divorce and custody, BOTH parents should be included.

 

“Open letter to alienated fathers…Guys, our children need us. I could care less what the feminist, the idiot family court judges, unethical family court attorneys argue…our children need us! Never, never, never give up the struggle against parental alienation. There is more than one way to battle parental alienation and to re-connect with your children: use social media, reach out to her friends and their parents, school officials, teachers, Sunday school teachers, etc. Educate them about parental alienation, never, never, never criticize the mother, and stay 100% focused on your relationship with your children!”

#526, Words of Encouragement

Last Letter

 

A father leaves one last message for the son he fought for in family court.  This parent just wanted to have a relationship with his child.   This is a tragic outcome of which there is no return. Will this little boy ever know the struggles this father endured seeking custody.  This child will never know the love of his father.  Suicide among parents of custody is a concern.

If you are thinking about committing suicide because of your family court battle. Please seek help.  You are not alone.

#512, Last Letter

 

Solicitor Agrees

 

Is family court fair? Do both parents have equal rights?  What ruling should be made? Sometimes, judges and attorneys know what the outcome should be in custody rulings  One parent shares their devastating experience in family court. 

“I had the exact same situation today in court (in discussing a similar case) she was caught right out lying on several occasions and I lost.  I told how she mistreated me and the kids.  Without hesitation the judge gave it (custody) to her.  The solicitor said I should have won.  I’m appealing”.

#511, Solicitor Agrees