Non-existent Scars

August 24, 2016 By in All Confessions, Artwork About Child

 

This amazing artist illustrates her thoughts in a captivating way “…my parents have been arguing for hours, and they’ve seemed to ignore me fully…but what I have been hearing is making me feel overwhelmed.  I have asked my parents what is wrong and what they are arguing about, but I get no answer, I just get ignored. I honestly think this is serious because “divorce” has been brought up. Who do I go to now? It’s like I don’t exist to my family anymore, or they have no use for me to be around them.”

What does this artist do?  Parental conflict is difficult to hear and watch. While art is a constructive way to share her feelings, her words reveal confusion and sadness.   I hope her parents explain things to her.  Sometimes, knowing what is happening helps relieve the anxiety.  

 

 

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#426, Non-existent Scars

Deviant Art, Nonexistent Scars by Loveheart14679, miamoosy67@gmail.com

Posted in: Impact on child/Impact on child

A Child’s Burden of Divorce

August 19, 2016 By in All Confessions

Parental fighting can promote feelings of insecurity.  Studies show that the number of fights between parents is not as damaging as the intensity of the quarreling.  Hearing and watching your parents fight is never easy.  This artist shares their thoughts on the emotional aspect of divorce.  

“I cried all of my sadness away, but maybe that was the bullet. No emotion only pushed me over the edge because I. Didn’t. Care.”

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A Child’s Burden of Divorce, by Cybercluster

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#419, A Child’s burden of divorce

Whose Side

August 17, 2016 By in All Confessions, Artwork About Child

 

An emotional depiction of the drama and trauma of divorce for this artist. Several things stand out with this picture. Mom and the son in the middle are drawn with facial expressions. Mom looks sad with a flat line shaped mouth. This son seems to have heart shaped lips which is an interesting subliminal message.

Blue lines on their faces are interpreted as tears.  Mom has a red mark on her face which is curious.  Is this related to the item in dads left hand (is this a gun, knife or sling-shot dripping with blood?).

Curiously, mom has what appears to be the letter ‘Y’ in red on her top.  Is this the artists interpretation?  ‘Y’ the divorce.  ‘Y’ is this happening? ‘Y’ is this complicated?  ‘Y’ do I have to choose?

Dad and brother’s facial features are missing. One son is walking away.

An emotional portrayal of divorce. 

 

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#422, Whose Side

Deviant Art, Whose Side by Fhulufhuwani

Posted in: I/Reality of Divorce

Happy Family

August 17, 2016 By in All Confessions, Artwork About Child

 

A graphic depiction of divorce.  This artwork reveals the confusion and heartache many children experience when divorce happens in their family.  In this artwork, this child is split in half.  Not completely with mom or dad. Part of him is holding hands and walking with dad.  And, part of him is walking with mom and holding hands.  Note, how dad is smiling big while mom’s expression is less exaggerated.  

Interestingly, the boy is torn in the shape of a puzzle piece. Is he trying to figure out how this works?  Is he trying to understand how he fits into this newly formed puzzle?  Artist states: “My parents are divorcing.  My dad hasn’t been nice to my mom. I don’t see what can happen, I don’t know.” 

Divorce can be a confusing time for everyone involved.  Especially, when you do not know what is happening.

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#421, Happy Family

Happy Family: Deviant Art by Fhulufhuwani

Posted in Impact on child/Reality of Divorce

Am I Your Child?

August 16, 2016 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

This artist reveals the emotional aspect of divorce and parental conflict. A sad child with large blue tears is trying to cover their face and ears-possibly to drown out the fighting.  Notice, that even the blue cover has a sad face with bewildering eyes and a forlorn look.  This child seems to be holding the cap very tightly to keep the sound out.  I hope the parents stop fighting soon.  

The artist shares the lyrics of a song below the picture.  Undoubtedly, these are the thoughts of too many children experiencing parental conflict. 

Excellent representation of divorce from the child’s view point.

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Song lyrics

Four years old
With my back to the door
All I could hear
Was the family war
Your selfish hands
Always expecting more
Am I your child?
Or jut a charity award?

You have a hollowed out heart
But it’s heavy in your chest
I tried so hard to fight it but it’s hopeless
Hopeless
You’re hopeless
Oh father
Please father
I’d love to leave you alone
But I can’t let you go
Oh father
Please father
Put the bottle down
For the love of a daughter

It’s been five years
Since we’ve spoken last
And you can’t take back
What we never had
I can be manipulated
Only so many times
Before even I Love You
Starts to sound like a lie

You have a hollowed out heart
But it’s heavy in your chest
I tried so hard to fight it but it’s hopeless
Hopeless
You’re hopeless
Oh father,
Please father
I’d love to leave you alone
But I can’t let you go
Oh father
Please father
Put the bottle down
For the love of a daughter

Don’t you remember I’m your baby girl?
How you push me our of your world?
Lied to your flesh and your blood
Put your hands on the ones that you swore ou loved
Don’t you remember I’m your baby girl?
How could you throw me right out of your world?

So young when the pain had begun
Now forever afraid of being loved

Oh father
Please father
I’d love to leave you alone but I can’t let you go
Oh father
Please father
Put the bottle down
For the love of a daughter
For the love of a daughter
I recently found out my father cheated on my mom and they divorced..He promised me he would still be there for me..but doesn’t even bother to call me..

Lyrics: For the love of a daughter by Demi Lovato

Base by Hoshi Bases

#420, Am I Your Child?
 Am I Your Child: Deviant Art by TwileySparklei  

Content in the Middle

August 7, 2016 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

This young artist shares their experience with parental divorce.  Most prominently, each parent is on opposite sides.  Walls on the divider have jagged edges.  Note, there are more sharp points on dad’s side-perhaps indicating additional grief and heartache.  In the middle of the page, a very dark face appears in the center of the ravine.  Broken red hearts are sprinkled throughout the pic.  Curiously, there are more hearts in a straight line on dad’s side.  

Note at the bottom of the page sends a clear message to the parents.  

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#417, Content in the Middle

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A Child’s View

July 22, 2016 By in All Confessions

 

A unique representation of divorce from the child’s eyes.  Children tend to feel a lot of pain and emotional conflict during divorce.   Some experience difficulty in adjusting to the separation and the other changes that have occurred.  This is a very sad face of divorce.  Eyes reflect mom and dad both leaving with a suitcase.  Abandonment and loneliness are  common themes of divorce for children.

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#416, Impact on Child

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FAM / ILY

July 19, 2016 By in All Confessions, Artwork from Child

 

Parental conflict can wreak havoc in a child’s life.  Research is consistent in showing that high parental conflict during divorce has a negative effect on the child. A girl drew a picture of her family as a volleyball net with Team 1 and Team 2.  The word FAM ILY  reveals the divide she feels between her parents. Her mother is on one side and her father on the other side.

I wonder if these parents are aware that their daughter describes experience in their divorce as ‘she is a volley ball.’

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#415, FAM / ILY

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Invitation to Grandparents

July 9, 2016 By in All Confessions, for Grandparents

 

An invitation to GRANDPARENTS  to share feelings of betrayal and heartache experienced in divorce and custody changes with your grandchild!

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Share your story at: 

MyConfession@SharedParentingConfessional.com

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Read all confessions at:  http://SharedParentingConfessional.com

A Broken Family

July 1, 2016 By in All Confessions

 

A graphic depiction of divorce from the child’s perspective. Both creatures show tears streaming down their faces.   The black background presents an added layer of drama. Note how each line of words is a different color further adding to the element of change that is occurring.

The artist shares this poem:

“The little girl wept,
The older one was silent,
Together they crept,
Away from their parents.

They thought it would stop,
That they’d finally be happy,
But it only got worse,
Everything was sappy.

The parents built a wall,
In the middle were the two,
They tried to climb but fell,
Into the lonely truth.

The older one was strong,
The younger one not so,
They didn’t know what was wrong,
They just silently watched the show.

One day it stopped,
And they were relieved,
But it soon ended,
And all were in grief.

They had a broken family,
Yet they forced themselves to be happy,
They were doing it for each other and for the other brother,
They were sad yet were a merry family.

The youngest of the three,
He didn’t understand,
He’d often ask much questions,
And now their all answered by me.”

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#412, A Broken Family

Deviant Art, A Broken Family by LazuliteLily

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