An adult child of divorce shares their inner insecurities.  One of the most devastating aspects of divorces is the impact on the child.  Emotional insecurity is a common issue.  This artist captures her emotions beautifully.

“~What you never see~”
“One of my photos that means more than my life.
I am actually not over the divorce from my parents. It is about 6 years ago but I still remember the worst time.
I hide my feelings under a mask, I hide it under lies, under fake smiles and unreal happiness.”

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#338, Faceless

This pic captures the essence of divorce for the child!  Yelling.  Finger pointing.  Parents appear as creatures rather than humans.   Interestingly, the parents seem to appear as shadows, perhaps a way to demonstrate how the parents are overpowering the child’s emotional state. The line down the middle is somewhat curious.  The line is off center to the walls of the room and lead directly to the child.  A scary picture at best.

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Deviant Art

#339, Scary Parents

This individual takes a different approach in writing about divorce.  Counting the number of letters and using the dictionary to write a poem about describing divorce.  An interesting way to express yourself.

Divorce. A two-syllable word… Seven letters that, arranged any differently, could mean nothing. But this word? Oh man, does it mean something. It’s separation… perversion, pain, anxiety, hatred, darkness, confusion… It’s so many bad things in one. Four of the letters in “divorce” can spell out void.

Tears and sadness! The question: “Does love still exist?” An emotional moment for this artist. This child appears very sad. Clinging to her bear for comfort.  Even the bear looks forlorn and lost. Meanwhile, parents are close by. Mom has tears. Both parents seem to be taking a firm stand on whatever position they deem  is more important than their daughter. Notably, this artist questions the existence of LOVE.  Undoubtedly, this will impact all future relationships. This is a common legacy of parental conflict.

The artists comments: “This is one thing that makes me think Love doesnt exist…Broken Families! I hate it when the couple fights for nothing….its like, first it was just a small thing and one of them will make the situation bigger…and after that they’ll plan a divorce! Cmon! Besides thinking about themselves….they must also think about they’re kids’ future! Its possible that they’re kids are also gonna experience broken marriage when they grow up…they’re future may reflect from the past!”

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Deviant Art.  Broken Family by tazusajoe37

# 335, Broken Family

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Perfectly said!  If one parent is trying to win over the child-then NO one is winning.  The child loses out.

Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!

LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!   

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# 334, Kids Lose Out

Is this a perfect depiction of divorce for some children!  A child is standing in the center.  Each parent and a sibling are going in opposite directions. Is he trying to decide  who do I choose? Mommy or daddy? Which sibling? Notably, everyone seems to be walking away.   This child appears in the spotlight-yet, no one is paying attention. How many children are left to fend for themselves because everyone is dealing with their own emotions?  A realistic, albeit, somber portrayal of divorce.

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Deviant Art, The Dance of Divorce

#322, The Dance of Divorce

A heart-wrenching depiction of PAS!  Mother and child walking across dad with no concern for his emotional state or existence.  A key component of PAS is that the child alienates the parent they once had a loving and kind relationship with.  Sadly, this is the reality for too many parents.  

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#307, A Case of PAS