…Bigger Feelings

Adolescents may be especially impacted by the events of divorce.  There may be the expectation they ‘deal’ with what is happening. Sometimes, a friend or family member may have the chance to talk about what is happening in their world.  Offering the opportunity to share their feelings is essential.  

#578, …Bigger Feelings

Kids in the Middle: https://www.kidsinthemiddle.org

Innocence

 

A startling depiction of divorce. The title is perfect; revealing the innocence of the child within the midst of divorce.  Each hand has a firm grip and pulling her in different directions. A key feature standing out is the lack of emotion. Is she used to being put in the middle and pulled in different directions by her parents?

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“Divorce” by ElenaOprea photographyt: deviant art/Divorce-82552217

#563, Innocence

 

Officially Divorced

A scribe in the center indicates this is a different time period.  Is this father holding the papers making the separation legal? Or, why are his children being separated from him?  Closed eyes and hand on his heart show the separation may not be his idea.  One child is looking to their father.  Children being separated from a parent is a devastating event regardless of the time period.

#561, Officially Divorced

Unhappy Court Appearance

 

A powerful picture! The power of the judge is indicated by a gavel, pen, and paperwork.  Scales are in view.   Is this a fair case? Are the red hands indicative of something?  Two parents and a child are at the desk.  Suitcases packed; does this mean someone is not going home?  Mom and dad are fighting.  The child is in the middle of his parents with large tears streaming down his face.  

#560, Unhappy Court Appearance

Something is Missing

 

Stunning artwork! This child is surrounded by a very large inventory of toys! Yet, she appears very sad. Two parents appear in the shadows. Both parents are on the phone, in what appears to be, a heated conversation. The look on the face of this young girl is captivating. Has she experienced hearing her parents fight before? Will her parents notice their daughter and tend to her emotional needs? Seemingly, regardless of the number of toys, overhearing harsh words by the two people she loves, adores and trusts may be confusing and disruptive to her emotional world.

Deviant Art.  Something is Missing by VivalaVida.

Link to artwork: http://vivalavida.deviantart.com/art/Something-is-missing-176997189

#557-277, Something is Missing

Broken Child

 

This artist perfectly captures the process of brainwashing. Child is broken all the way to the heart. There is a feel of mystery in how the child appears with the legs of the child showing from behind. Each parent is spouting their words of ‘truth’. This appears to be a volatile ‘conversation’. Seemingly, neither parent is demonstrating concern for the child. Do these parents realize how harmful their actions are? Will either parent put their own anger aside and tend to the needs of their child? 

 

#484, Broken Child

Deviant Art, TheaSinensis

Family Values

 

A captivating poem on the dynamics within the context of a family separating.  This artist shares the emotional aspects of being a member of a family of divorce. Even more intriguing, she conveys feelings of love and loss and the parent-child bond.  The last two lines describe the significance of the separation process.  An outstanding presentation to the impact of divorce on family and society.

Acidic words burn like fire, as angry yells shatter and tear
Children hide in a corner with fear, clutching a tattered teddy bear
No alcohol or drugs flow in this house; bitter substances aren’t the poison here
Only the lack of love and personal caring, are the causes of these endless salty tears
A value can not be placed upon love, nor the loss measured when there’s none
The damage here is impossible to calculate, because a father doesn’t love his only son
To many mothers a daughter brings joy, but here the two can’t share a smile
Two siblings wage war upon each other, while their parents await a divorce court trial
Twenty years ago, this would seem dramatic, now the situation goes on next door
The degrading of the global family unit is so common people don’t see it anymore.
#462, Family Values
Poem: l-piroko-l Deviant Art 
Artwork: Dragon Queen, l-piroko-l Deviant Art 

Split Family

 

 

This artist shares a common them in divorce.  The obvious message is how everything changes in divorce. Artist states: “One nasty divorce later, and the identical twins are wishing their parents were totally different. Because they love each other! But now they have different last names, homes, and parental units. Together and apart at the same time!”

 

Deviant Art Split Family fred_and_family__2039_by_unsinkable_spirit

 

#454, Split Family

Deviant Art Split Family y unsinkable-spirit

Saying Goodbye

 

An emotional and poignant representation of divorce.  This father appears forlorn and sad. He is  clutching his heart that seems to be ripped out of his physical body. Is his child standing before him, reaching up to daddy with teddybear in hand, before leaving with mom?  Mom has no facial features and seems confident with long, flowing hair and her dress appearing to meld within the scenery.  She is going in a different direction; her hair running under a dark cloud touching the fathers head. Is this dad being left on the wayside? When will this father see his child next? More importantly, will this child have the opportunity to enjoy a loving relationship their father?

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Edvard Munch, Maryville, TN

#250, Saying Goodbye

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Don’t Give Up Hope

 

 

This artist shares a poignant poem for children and parents of divorce.  Divorce generates such an intense state of suffering for all parties. Emotional support is directed for those in the midst of divorce s a party and as a victim of parental divorce. Her encouraging words offers tips for coping emotionally in the aftermath.  The insightful comments acknowledge the hardship, heartbreak and the letting go of the past that inevitably accompanies divorce. 

Poem

Divorce is such a hard topic to deal with
From the moment that you’re a child, and the universe breaks
Or when you’re the adult, when you’re the one
Who has to make the choices, make the change
Speaking from the position of letting go
Sometimes, letting go is one of the best things you can do
You can’t change others; you can only change yourself
You might make mistakes; might have done things that
Could have made things better
You might feel like even though you’re alive
That life doesn’t seem worth living
But it is
The sun will rise again
Have hope
Even when things seem to be falling apart
Look up
There’s a point where you have to stop dwelling on the past
And learn to accept yourself for who you are now
You have to learn that there are just some things
You’re going to do, mistakes you’re going to make
And that even if you were perfect
Sometimes, things just don’t work out
Don’t focus on the pain alone
Pain, like guilt, is a tool
And, if you are a daughter or a son going through this heartbreaking event
For heaven’s sake…
Don’t blame yourself
Whatever you do, don’t blame yourself.
It’s not your fault, even if it feels like it.
It’s. not. you.
And it’s going to take time to process these hurts
Don’t expect it to be easy
For the parents…
We all make mistakes
But it’s the sum of our parts
That makes us who we are
Even if you’re struggling, trying to find hope
One of the best ways to do that is to reach out to people that you trust
People that can help you, guide you, and who can set the road for a new life
Don’t expect everything to be normal
Don’t expect the world to just be okay
Don’t brush away your feelings
Accept them
But with hope
For if you have not hope
You will not see the good that can come from such a tragic event
Let things go
Change what you need to change
Let the world be quiet for just a little while,
And let your heart be comforted
It will turn out all right
Don’t give up hope

 

#450, Don’t Give Up Hope

Poem by J Lynn D. (celestialsunberry) at Deviant Art by celestialsunberry.deviantart.com

Picture from a different source.