Art is a creative outlet in sharing your inner most feelings and thoughts. This child shares sadness when asked to draw ‘how they feel about divorce.’ Both flowers are crying with flowing, large blue tears. Is this a parent and child? Or, a child with an older sibling? The large flower has leaves turned downward indicating sadness(?). Neither flower is smiling. Each has a cloud over them. Are the parents aware of how this young artist is experiencing their divorce?
#482, Sad Flowers
Are you a parent fighting the same demons everyday? Do you feel the battle is endless? Family court issues may be emotionally exhausting and financially draining. Each day, parents are fighting for their children and are willing to do what is needed. Some days may be worse than others. There is no need to suffer in silence. Know that you are a BRAVE parent and you are not alone in your struggle.
As shared on Anxiety and Depression Support Group FB.
# 481, Bravery
PTSD is a mental health issues. Individuals with PTSD may continue to be anxious and depressed for long periods of time following the event. This is a serious and potentially debilitating condition that requires treatment. Please seek help when experiencing anxiety or depression.
#479, PTSD Narcissistic and Emotional Abuse, https://www.facebook.com/Narcissistic-and-Emotional-Abuse-308444339340514/
This drawing reveals the emotions of an 8-year old during parental divorce. A sad face is quite prominent. Seemingly, the self representation has shorter arms meaning the child may feel weak or ineffective. There are no hands, perhaps indicating a sense of insecurity and problems with either home or school. Because this is a picture of divorce, a likely assessment is the child is exposed to parental conflict. The presentation of heavy feet in this drawing may indicate the child is seeking security. Divorce is especially difficult for children. I hope someone notices how this child is feeling and offers emotional support.
#477, Divorce Makes Me Feel Sad
A very sad picture. Each parent is in their own home looking out the window with unhappy facial expressions and large abundant tears. This child’s love is further separated as indicated in the broken heart with corresponding colors to the perspective house of each parent. Interestingly, the door way to each home is farthest from the child. Does this mean the child does not want to enter either home? Does she feel welcome in both homes. From the child’s self portrait, she appears very sad with large eyes and downturned smile. Standing out the most is the umbrella; a symbol of protection. Her umbrella is held far out and offers no shelter at all. Are these parents aware of how their daughter feels? Do they know this young girl sees their sadness and feels torn between them? I hope someone helps this child in coping with the emotional turmoil reflected in her picture of divorce.
# 476, Two Sad Parents
An happy face with blue tears streaming down is front and center on this artwork. A picture of a hand knocking on the door is added competing the message of who to see. Is this child at the front door of mom or dad? This child is confused and is in an impossible position to win. When the child is forced to choose no one wins! The ransom note style call for help completes this desperate and sad request.
#475, Don’t Know Who to Choose
Missing out on the milestone event of the first day of school and school pics. This father beautifully captures the essence of of the excluded parent. Seeing a child off for their first day of school each year is a right of passage! Sadly, their co-parent precludes this from happening. While, yes, the mother is able to keep the dad away from this momentous occasion-the child is also robbed of a meaningful experience. I wonder, do the parents who engage in the abusive behaviors think about the impact on the child? Seemingly, this is a rhetorical question. The behaviors are done “to” the co-parent. No one is even thinking about the child! Herein lies the dilemma.
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The Singapore Fathers’ Rights Movement
Link to FB page: https://www.facebook.com/The-Singapore-Fathers-Rights-Movement-165037670497751/
# 324, Missing Out: First Day of School
How true! Too many parents liquidate accounts, sell their home, and use savings account to pay for legal fees. All efforts are made with the goal of having a relationship with their child. Equal Shared Parenting laws could reduce the high court costs many parents face. Could the money be better spent on education, vacations, and family time?
RESEARCH STUDY! Assesses parental financial/emotional experiences in family court.
Survey is for all parents who are or have been to court for child custody matters.
Link to survey: https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/FamilyCourtParentalFinancialExperience
#472, Spent College $ on Legal Fees
Shared on TimeToPutKidsFirst, Facebook link: https://www.facebook.com/timetoputkidsfirst/
A heart wrenching depiction of divorce by one child. The most prominent part is the jagged edge splitting the heart in two. Dad is on one side and mom on the other. Interestingly, dad is in black and white while mom is quite colorful, dressed in a floral dress and blonde hair. Neither parent is smiling. How sad for this child. I hope the parents realize how their child is impacted by the separation and make efforts to comfort their little one. Divorce is especially hard on young children.
#471, I Hate When They Separate
Excellent message! Divorce/separation has a tendency to turn everything upside down for everyone. Spending time with both parents is important. Putting the child at the forefront of all decisions helps make the transitions easier and reduces anxiety for everyone.
#470, Obligation to Child
Shared Parenting Confessional 
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