A parent with narcissistic tendencies is unable to put the needs of the child before their own. This is confusing to the child. This creates a dynamic with the child putting their own needs and wants aside in order to focus on their parent.
#523, Reality of Narcissistic Tendencies
A father leaves one last message for the son he fought for in family court. This parent just wanted to have a relationship with his child. This is a tragic outcome of which there is no return. Will this little boy ever know the struggles this father endured seeking custody. This child will never know the love of his father. Suicide among parents of custody is a concern.
If you are thinking about committing suicide because of your family court battle. Please seek help. You are not alone.
#512, Last Letter
Is family court fair? Do both parents have equal rights? What ruling should be made? Sometimes, judges and attorneys know what the outcome should be in custody rulings One parent shares their devastating experience in family court.
“I had the exact same situation today in court (in discussing a similar case) she was caught right out lying on several occasions and I lost. I told how she mistreated me and the kids. Without hesitation the judge gave it (custody) to her. The solicitor said I should have won. I’m appealing”.
#511, Solicitor Agrees
An adult child shares a glimpse into their emotional world. The child learns at an early age to put aside their desires to please their parent. This is at the expense of their own emotional needs, feelings, and wants. The emotional abuse may be revealed in all future relationships. Emotional abuse during childhood has long-term ramifications.
#503, The Happy Mask
A graphic representation of parental conflict for one child. Each parent seems intent in continuing their ‘unfriendly’ conversation. Neither parent seems concerned the child is overhearing the argument. The tape on her mouth sends the message no one is concerned in what the child has to say or thinking about this. Parental conflict is confusing and damaging to the child. How utterly sad for this child.
#492, Silenced
This talented artist presents a collection of scenes representing the divorce process. The black/white contrasted with crimson petals reveals the starkness of divorce. Tears of petals appearing as flower and heart shapes in the middle row sets the tone of sadness. The trail of petals in the last frame summarizes the essence of divorce in some families.
Note: The artist created this piece as a backstory for a character used in a storyline. She states her parents are not divorced and have a ‘happy relationship’. She brilliantly captures the emotional aspect of divorce for a character further speaking to her creativity. Excellent work!
#486, Divorce Agreement
Deviant Art, CutieEevee1
https://cutieeevee1.deviantart.com/art/Day-6-Hanahaki-With-Backstory-708305784
Artwork and a poem reveal the thoughts of an artist a family separation. This artist shares the emotional aspects of being a member of a family of divorce. Even more intriguing, she conveys feelings of love and loss and the parent-child bond. The last two lines describe the significance of the separation process. Will someone be reaching out to her?
Thoughts of an adult child of divorce (ACOD) raised by a parent with narcissistic tendencies: “I wanted to share this with you because…even as a 31 year old, the effects of mental abuse are still very real for me, especially when it comes to my mother. Years and years of mind control cannot be erased in a decade. Yes, I am in a good place now, but it is because I choose to be and have been very careful to ensure I am in this headspace. Breaking that connection takes work. And a simple phone call that wasn’t even answered and very well could have been an accidental butt-dial *could* have set me off wanting my mother’s attention and love; it happened to me many times over the years. I know it’s a blackhole though. I have to be strong, for myself. Please try to keep this in mind and empathize with your alienated loved one. The emotional trauma of being raised by an alienator never goes away… Be strong and stay strong. Much love.” -KidOfPAS
#354, Mental Abuse of PA
As told on KidOfPAS.com, Facebook.com/KidOfPAS July 17, 2017
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This artist shares a poignant poem for children and parents of divorce. The sea of blue tears reveals how everyone is impacted differently. Words in the poem offer emotional support for those in a divorce. The insightful comments acknowledge the feelings many individuals experience. 
Poem
Divorce is such a hard topic to deal with
From the moment that you’re a child, and the universe breaks
Or when you’re the adult, when you’re the one
Who has to make the choices, make the change
Speaking from the position of letting go
Sometimes, letting go is one of the best things you can do
You can’t change others; you can only change yourself
You might make mistakes; might have done things that
Could have made things better
You might feel like even though you’re alive
That life doesn’t seem worth living
But it is
The sun will rise again
Have hope
Even when things seem to be falling apart
Look up
There’s a point where you have to stop dwelling on the past
And learn to accept yourself for who you are now
You have to learn that there are just some things
You’re going to do, mistakes you’re going to make
And that even if you were perfect
Sometimes, things just don’t work out
Don’t focus on the pain alone
Pain, like guilt, is a tool
And, if you are a daughter or a son going through this heartbreaking event
For heaven’s sake…
Don’t blame yourself
Whatever you do, don’t blame yourself.
It’s not your fault, even if it feels like it.
It’s. not. you.
And it’s going to take time to process these hurts
Don’t expect it to be easy
For the parents…
We all make mistakes
But it’s the sum of our parts
That makes us who we are
Even if you’re struggling, trying to find hope
One of the best ways to do that is to reach out to people that you trust
People that can help you, guide you, and who can set the road for a new life
Don’t expect everything to be normal
Don’t expect the world to just be okay
Don’t brush away your feelings
Accept them
But with hope
For if you have not hope
You will not see the good that can come from such a tragic event
Let things go
Change what you need to change
Let the world be quiet for just a little while,
And let your heart be comforted
It will turn out all right
Don’t give up hope
#450, Don’t Give Up Hope
Poem by J Lynn D. (celestialsunberry) at Deviant Art by celestialsunberry.deviantart.com
Picture from a different source.
A book cover reveals the sad reality of divorce. The most prominent feature of this picture is the outline of a father with a very sad face. Neither child is smiling. The only person who appears happy is mom. Curiously, her arm is around the ‘missing’ father. Children have right to have a relationship with both parents. If a child had two parents in their life before the divorce, then they should be able to enjoy both parents after the divorce.
Divorce is between the parents-about the child! LOVE WINS!
#445, Who is Missing?
Categories: Impact on child, Reality of Divorce
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