The most prominent part of this artwork is a strong zig-zag line. Parents are facing away from their child on each side of the dividing line. Curiously, the child is part blue. He is looking to one side with hands open like he is receptive to something or waiting for an object to be passed to him. Is he waiting for a parent to take his hand? Hopefully, someone will notice the child and talk about what is happening in this family.
#559 Dividing Line
Children LOVE both parents. This artwork reveals the thoughts of one artist. The head is down with a red halo indicating the importance of their thoughts. A child should not be in a position to choose one parent over the other. Maybe someone will see how difficult this is and listen to what they are experiencing. Hopefully, someone will notice this child, and soon.
#411, Make it Stop
Deviant Art, Make it Stop by LavenderDino
Impact on child/Impact
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A large inventory of toys surrounds this child! Yet, she appears very sad. Two parents appear in the shadows. Both parents are on the phone in what seems to be a heated conversation. The look on the face of this young girl is captivating. Has she experienced hearing her parents fight before? Will her parents notice their daughter and tend to her emotional needs? Seemingly, regardless of the number of toys, overhearing harsh words by the two people she loves, adores and trusts may be confusing and disruptive to her emotional world.
Deviant Art. Something is Missing by VivalaVida.
Link to artwork: http://vivalavida.deviantart.com/art/Something-is-missing-176997189
#557-277, Something is Missing
An adult child of divorce may come to know why one parent did not call or try to find them. Imagine the hours spent trying to figure out how one parent could totally ‘forget’ their child. Often, the child of divorce learns the truth, and the parent who deterred the co-parent-child relationship may be left out. Time To Put Kids First (TPKF) has illustrated this point beautifully!
How devastating to learn the emotional turmoil and feelings of abandonment experienced as a child were because one parent did not want to co-parent.
Time To Put Kids First (TPKF)
Link to their FB page: https://www.facebook.com/timetoputkidsfirst?fref=ts
Link to post: https://www.facebook.com/timetoputkidsfirst/photos/a.621096854661485.1073741828.620742498030254/715458311892005/?type=1&theater
#553-312, A Survivor of Alienation
An adult child of divorce (ADOC) comments on a post about the holidays. Holidays are a time for family. For some, this becomes a time of choosing. A difficult decision for anyone to make. Two maternal divorces complicate the matter even more. Who should the ADOC spend time with? How do they reconcile the feelings of guilt in trying to please everyone?
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Holidays were a horrid thing for me too! I completely agree! My mother divorced twice, so I felt all this pressure to see my dads family, my mother, and my step dads family too (because believe it or not, I feel closer to my step dad than either of my actual parents.)
Holidays are ruined; trying to visit everyone is stressful, tiresome, and down right emotionally exhausting. I always end up crying a lot, and my kids would be confused as to whose house we were at and what they were supposed to call all these people. Every single family member thinks they are entitled to have me drive to their home. No one comes to see me, however. And they all get mad if I go to another family members home! So you can’t win for losing! Which is why I stopped going completely. They seem to have nothing but a hot dose of guilt to give me anyway.
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Marriage-Ecosystem, comment for The Issues are Legion, August 8, 2013.
Emotional support for “The Issues are Legion”.
http://www.marriage-ecosystem.org/the-issues-are-legion.html
#1122, Holidays are Ruined
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Mom offers advice to parents considering divorce. She shares thoughts on divorce and how her daughter will be impacted. Children learn about relationships by watching their parents. While this parent regrets her decision, she is right to be concerned about her daughter. However, crossing boundaries and engaging in an affair is a difficult situation. We may ask how will the ‘no communication at all’ action impact their daughter. Understandably, this is an emotionally painful experience for all members of the family. Mom offers advice to parents considering divorce and references the impact on their child.
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I was married for 3 years and we had a daughter. When she was 2 years old I did the unthinkable and slept with someone else. When my husband came home that night I confessed my deed. He refused to talk it about it, packed a bag and left. In fact, he has not talked to me at all. NOT ONE WORD. He made arrangements for someone to pick up the rest of his things. Our attorneys handled the divorce. The exchanges for our daughter are done with either relatives or a friend. We do not attend the same events unless absolutely necessary and then we do not talk to each other. I am now involved with someone else and have not told him why I’m divorced. I’m too ashamed.
My concern is for our daughter. She is young and I wonder how things will be when she is older. She will see that her parents do not talk to each other and the palatable contempt between us. I continually ask myself “What will this do to our little girl?” I regret my actions that led to the divorce. I am disappointed because my daughters life will be impacted by my selfish actions.
To anyone out there thinking about divorce……RECONSIDER! There is nothing worth the security of your child.
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#552, Regrets
One young artist shares a “before” drawing on top, and a pic of her family “after” in the bottom picture. This child presents her family as happy and fun. Everyone is smiling. Artist is holding her arm wide open indicating confidence and high self-esteem. In the after pic, no one is smiling. Each parent is turned away from the child. Notice how her arms are held tightly to her body. Restricted movement. Is this how she feel emotionally? Is either parent acknowledging the changes occurring in their family?
Family ‘BEFORE’
Family ‘AFTER’
Parenting does matter! This is a simple message revealing the importance of the parent-child relationship. Notably, this is especially relevant in custody matters. Children have a right to experience a kind, loving and reciprocating relationship with both parents.
#550, Parenting Matters
Is this little girl watching a home video? Is this dad a public figure? Seemingly, if this daughter was seeing her father on a regular basis she may say “look, there is daddy” rather than comment on how she is unable to hear or hug him. The creator of this ‘cartoon’ is making an important message about contact with their father. Is this a reflection of what they have experienced personally or observed with a relative or friend?
A child having a relationship with both parents is critical. Divorce is between the parents and about the child! LOVE WINS!!!
# 549 , See and Hear Dad
Shared Parenting Confessional 
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