A graphic representation of how the child may experience parental divorce. This girl is being ‘pulled’ by each parent to different sides. A chain is attached to both parents and strategically placed over her heart. Is this symbolic of the emotional pull she is experiencing? Large white tears complete this unfortunate presentation of divorce.
548, Pulled and Chained
This child expresses feelings about how the divorce is impacting their social life. Child states: “When I am with Dad I don’t get to spend that much time with my friends. I’m mad because I don’t get to spend that much time with Dad.” Is this a situation where the parents live far apart? Is there a way for these parents to figure out a way for the child to spend more time with dad and friends? Sometimes, custody plans need to be altered to accommodate the needs of the child as the child becomes older.
#547, Mad
A child in the middle holding on to both parents. “Quality relationships of parents with their children are the greatest antidote to the negative consequences from divorce.”
~John Chirban Ph.D., Th.D.
#546, Holding On
Children are a part of both parents. The red heart appearing front and center is prominent. This artwork demonstrates the basis of the family unit. Divorce does not change that. Requesting a child to reject one parent is asking the child to give up part of who they are.
#545, Part of Both Parents
Large rain drops are coming down and all around the home. Dark clouds are looming above with bolts of lightening. Notably, each window has a happy face peering out. A happy person is sitting in the house to the side. Is this the artist? Or, a parent? A curious drawing with stormy weather and happy faces.
#544, Large Rain Drops
An emotional story of an adult child of divorce as she shares the experience of how her mom smeared the character of her father and filed fraudulent documents in effort to ‘win’ in family court. This scenario shows there are NO winners when one parent attempts to keep the child from another parent. All parties lose-Every- Single-Time.
Divorce is between the parents-About the child!
In all my memories I can honestly say that NO ONE other than dad truly cared about me, or what was in my best interest. Even though my mom alienated us from him. smeared his character in the courts perspective and filed such fraudulent documents against him my dad never once spoke ill about my mom to me.
Instead he always said ‘she wasn’t always like that’ when I tried to talk to him about what she had done. My mom may of felt she was ‘winning’ in court but she loses in the long run as I still want nothing to do with her. In my opinion everyone loses in this case!
The courts allowed her to lie like this, which lead to my dad being mis-labeled as mentally ill. It was lies like this that has lead me to not want anything to do with her! Still to this day she will not admit to any of it, still blames everyone else!
https://www.brainsyntax.com/Home/MessageDetail/2688
#543, Daughter:Knows Father Cared
Excellent portrayal of separation. This talented artist presents a family with a ‘split’ in the middle between the siblings. Each parent seems to support the title as ‘stubborn’ and not open to communicating with their co-parent. Artist states: “This was one broken family, divorced, split parents and two split siblings…not the best formula for a happy family. Overall the family didn’t even really know each other that well…”
#540, Stubborn Family by Chickie456 with Deviant Art. https://www.deviantart.com/chickie456/art/Stubborn-Family-668632747
This young artist keeps a positive attitude about parental divorce. Sweetly, this child offers comfort to mom and dad and conveys a message of acceptance with the divorce. Thankfully, this young one does not feel responsible for the changes that have taken place. And, offers good luck to both parents. Hopefully, this child will maintain positive through the years.
#71, Positive Outlook
Drawings from KID’S FIRST PROGRAM
“Positive Outlook”, appeared in the Honolulu Star-Bulletin Hawaii News, August 26, 2001, by Debra Barayuga
dbarayuga@starbulletin.comarchives.starbulletin.com/2001/08/26/news/story2.html
http://archives.starbulletin.com/2001/08/26/news/story2.html
A captivating story from an adult child revealing hope for parents separated from their children. He talks about parental divorce and discovers the lies he was told during childhood. The author states: “It’s still evolving – I am only now (at 49 years old) beginning to admit to myself that my experience wasn’t normal and that my brother and I experienced actual abuse. I resisted acknowledging the truth of that for a very long time. I am now at the point where I would sever all ongoing contact with her if that wouldn’t cost me my contact with my brother and his family. I have given her many, many opportunities to actually talk about all this – perhaps admit that there were problems in what she did – but she remains adamant in her insistence that everything she did was justified and reasonable. I am getting to the point where I can’t accept that answer any longer.”
A talented artist uses creativity to convey her thoughts about a possible parental divorce. The eyes and sad face indicate concern about what will happen next. While the other part is happy. Fortunately, for this adolescent, the divorce did not take place. This artist states “t’s time to be brave. Time to be smart and brave and hardworking for a fair outcome. I couldn’t turn 18 soon enough…”. Divorce is between the parents and should be about the child!
#539, Time to be Brave
Deviant Art; Daily Draw 16 Divorce by Whitehershey, https://www.deviantart.com/whitehershey/art/Daily-Draw-16-Divorce-736922371
Shared Parenting Confessional 
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