50-50 Custody!

 

A great message for fathers seeking custody (mothers too). Both parents are fighting for parental rights.  Fighting for the rights of the child.  A child needs and wants to have a relationship with both parents.  This pic represents an unfortunate reality for many fathers (and  mothers).  Shared from The West Virginia Father’s Rights Movement FB page: https://www.facebook.com/TFRMWV/

 

#509, 50-50 Custody!

Shared from The West Virginia Father’s Rights Movement FB page: https://www.facebook.com/TFRMWV/

Tears and Confusion

 

A picture of confusion and sadness. This child appears distraught with large  flowing tears.  Facial expression on parents and pointed fingers create an undeniably upsetting situation for this child.   A jagged line projecting out of the head of the child may represent confusion due to parental conflict. Perhaps, the light blue tears represent feelings of of sadness. Does that mean the large darker blue puddle indicate ongoing issues of being put in the middle.  Are these parents aware of how sad this child appears?  Does this child have someone to turn to that could offer emotional support?

Parental conflict is confusing to the child.  Both parents seem focused on fighting while the child  between them is understandably upset. 

 

#507, Tears and Confusion

Consistency

 

A parent with narcissistic tendencies may create a world of confusion and frustration for everyone involved. This may result in the child learning maladaptive communication skills. Impacting future relationships for the child.

#505, They are Consistent

Categories: Impact on child, Narcissistic tendencies

I’m Fine…

A painful reality of parental alienation.  A parent may act as if everything is ok while they may be experiencing grief and turmoil. Numerous support groups are available for parents and family  members who cannot see their child due to custody and divorce matters.

#504, I’m Fine…

The Happy Mask

An adult child shares a glimpse into their emotional world.  The child learns at an early age to put aside their desires to please their parent. This is at the expense of their own emotional needs, feelings, and wants. The emotional abuse may be revealed in all future relationships. Emotional abuse during childhood has long-term ramifications.

#503, The Happy Mask

Two

 

This is a colorful presentation of divorce. The black backdrop adds to the drama and emotional impact. A split heart with two parents who both seem distraught with tears. Two children are floating as if being tossed from the small house in between them. This artwork is used to show a child how divorce may feel. Sadly, the ridges on each side of the heart, and both children without a strong attachment to anything are realistic.  

#502, Two

 

 

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This site is created to help parents who have or are experiencing divorce and for those parents that a parenting plan in place for their child/children. The driving force for this site is to help parents understand the impact that divorce has on a child.

We learn from others experiences and situations. Perhaps in reading these scenarios, co-parents can identify with issues they are also experiencing and see how some actions can have long-term negative effects and cause pain for a person. Or, by reading these stories co-parents can see that they are not alone in their thoughts and feelings surrounding their divorce and co-parenting relationship.

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The concept of shared parenting and child custody in divorce situations is a fascinating topic!   When I began researching this topic, the first article I found was titled  “Post divorce living arrangements, parent conflict, and long-term physical health correlates for children of divorce.”  In summary, the results indicated the importance of the child maintaining a relationship with the father during and after the divorce within the midst of parental conflict.  Upon reading this article two thoughts came to mind.  One, they need a study to establish the fact that a father is important in a child’s life?  And two, this is an area that needs help, desperately! 

Thankfully, the concept of the father/child relationship has become a topic of concern.  In May of 2014, Focus on the Family released “Irreplaceable”, a movie that presents the astounding facts on children who do not have a strong father figure in their life.   In addition, grants and funds have been allotted to this  area with the goal to promote how paramount the father is in a child’s life.

Every child has a right to be raised by loving and caring parent(s)!   Period!!!!   Shared parenting is a concept deserving of attention.  This site is my contribution to help parents facilitate an environment that provides for the emotional, physical, and spiritual needs of their child with the goal to raise a happy and  emotionally secure child.

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Truth?

 

The stories told  in childhood and in adulthood are firmly established and become the “truth. With an individual who has narcissistic tendencies there is only one side to the story. This is frustrating for co-parents and confusing for the child. Children learn about relationships by observing parental interactions. Continual exposure to untruths and lack of interest in another individuals’ experience may be devastating for the child. 

#500, Truth?