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Please STOP

A theme of childhood abandonment!  A child trying desperately to mask the fighting of her parents!  A sad reality for some children.  Parents are really fighting, pointing fingers, mouth is open …..  Parental conflict creates insecurity and confusion for the child.  Watching the two people they love and trust-fighting!

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Deviant Art: Please STOP by shopstalknroll

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Please-STOP-97112089

#304, Please STOP

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In Our Family Portrait

A sad depiction of divorce.  The artist describes the pic: “We look pretty happy We look pretty normal, let’s go back to that In our family portrait we look pretty happy  Let’s play pretend, act like it goes naturally. Divorce is something no kid wants to go through.”

Note the vast differences in the facial expressions in the ‘divorce’ pics on the top row.  The dolls face reveals cuts and stitches indicating the emotional hurt and pain this child suffered in the divorce. 

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Deviant Art, In our family portrait, by dragonsandwitches77.

Lonk to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/In-our-family-portrait-522995275

#261, In Our Family Portrait

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STOP IT!

One picture is worth a thousand words!

Parental conflict is distressing, stressful and has long term consequences on the child!  A child in the midst of parental conflict is more likely to engage in drinking, drugging, sexing, and delinquent behaviors.  They are at an increased risk for social problems, academic problems and experience difficulty in relationships.  Simply, parental conflict brings  havoc in your child’s life.

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#274, STOP IT!!

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Everything is My Fault!

Many time, a child will think the divorce is their fault!  They will think about something they did wrong; acting out at school, poor grades, not doing tasks around the house ask.  They will ask :”What did I do?” “did I do something to make one parent go away? ”  Encourage your child to talk about their feelings.  Work together with your co-parent.  Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!

Can we work it out?
Can we be a family?
I promise I’ll be better.
Daddy, please don’t leave…–P!nk

A heart-wrenching depiction of divorce!

Deviant Art Everythigs been my fault dlover_the_garden_wall_family_portrait_by_amx_269-d88486m

Over the Garden Wall (c) Pat McHale

Deviant Art.  Over the Garden Wall by AMX-269

http://www.deviantart.com/art/Over-the-Garden-Wall-Family-Portrait-497363566

#287, Everything is My Fault

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Divorce Sadness

An artist uses their talent as an outlet to express sadness about their parents divorce.   This is an effort to cope with the emotional loss of their parents divorce.  They are trying to deal with the many questions any child may have when thinking about the reality of their parents separating.    This seems to be a common response to the unfortunate scenario for any child to experience.

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Deviant Art.  Changes by TricksterWicked.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Changes-552202820

#294,  Divorce Sadness

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Still a Broken Family

This artist is confused about rebuilding the family.  Parents on paper are split.  Neither parent is smiling.  The child is despondent-no emotion, no animation at all.  Black marks seem to indicate a life of doom.    Papers are on the floor with crayons strewn about.  Somehow, he is trying to make sense of the divorce.  He is making efforts to believe that divorce is the best way to go.  Seemingly, he is not convinced.  

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Deviant Art. Divorce by quietkidlucas.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/divorce-554812229

#293, Still a Broken Family

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Love Like in a Fairytale??

Artist shares their experience with divorce:  “Divorce somehow pulls the rug out from under me – like in my drawing (the heart becomes black and breaks and the black from the heart, flows into the child), and from both sides dark thoughts about love and the other sex reached me – like in my drawing (the black from the parents hands which hold the child´s hands flows into the child), before I was full of dreams – dreams like fairytales – (in the drawing the colours in the child).
And that the child is broken is a symbol for the break-up of the child´s world, but also a little critic to all divorced parents: Divorce destroys always a bit of a child and often the parents fight to have the child, but without regard to the child itself!

Deviant art rainbow love_like_in_a_fairytale___by_suninthedark-d6gq5bd

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Deviant Art.  Love Like in a Fairtale??, by suninthedark.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Love-like-in-a-fairytale-390890857

#237, Love Like in a Fairytale??

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Who Do I Choose?!

Perhaps the better question is:  WHY do I have to choose?  How distressing for a child to have to choose which parent to side with.

DIVORCE IS BETWEEN THE PARENTS_
ABOUT THE CHILD!!!!!!

LOVE WINS!!!  LOVE WINS!!!   LOVE WINS!!!   LOVE WINS!!!

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#245, Who Do I Choose?

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Lost!

An artist shares the devastation of divorce:

“When parents divorce, children are lost!”

Well said!

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Deviant Art.  Divorce by mcloverfever.

Link to artwork:http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-70380547

#239, Lost!

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Dad, Where Are You?

A very sad depiction of divorce!  There is a faint outline of a figure in the darkness.  Excellent representation of divorce from the child’s perspective!!!!!!

The artist comments: “When parents divorced and one parent goes away, the child suffers most because it can not understand why this is happening. It usually loses his unburdened childhood … and must take farewell of them. (the bunny represent the childhood that threatens to go out of the darkness of the parents!)

Deviant Art dad_where_are_you__by_lucedraw-d6lwms4

 

Deviant Art.  Dad Where Are You? by LuceDraw

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Dad-where-are-you-399591508

#242, Dad Where Are You?

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Please Son…

WOW!  Excellent portrayal of divorce from the child’s perspective!

Artists’ verbiage:

Dad:  you have to understand why I had to leave you with your mother… 
Son: the only thing that I understand is that my father doesn’t care for his family… You made my mom cry…. 
Dad: Look… I know I have done the most horrible mistake for get the divorce with your mother… But now I want to get her back… 
Son: No… You don’t deserve my mother’s love… And you never will… You left her when she needed you more than anyone… 
Dad: I just need a Chance… Please Son… “

Deviant art DL please_son____by_itzeldrag108-d97r06b

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Deviant Art, Please Son… by ITZELDRAG108

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Please-Son-557212835

#296, Please Son…

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Stop Fighting

Parental conflict can be upsetting to children and adolescents.  This artist portrays this young girl as being in emotional pain while listening to her parents fight.  Resolving to have an amicable relationship with your co-parent is a huge gift to offer your child.  Remove the burden of emotional conflict from your child’s world.  

Parents are a child’s first and most important teacher.  A child learns about relationships by watching their parents!

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Deviant Art, Family Portrait by gray-wolf-eyes

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Family Fight

This is what one artist remembers about childhood!  Parents fighting,quite violently while the child watches from the balcony in their home.  Child looks scared and is frowning, holding tight to the balustrade while observing the two people they love the most FIGHTING!  The most striking feature of the parents’  conflict is the appearance of red marks, blood perhaps.  The dad seems to appear as a wolf. Words appearing out of his mouth attacking mom.  Hands outstretched to hit the mom.  Mom has no facial features, and is turned away.  She does not seem to defend herself.  There does seem to be the appearance of wings on the mom; representing her innocence in the conflict (?).  

Regardless of the representing features, this picture is a painful reminder of what too many children experience.  

A child watching their parents fight is confusing and promotes a sense of emotional turmoil and insecurity.

Deviant Art chinelle family_fight_by_avidlebon

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The Dance of Divorce

A perfect depiction of divorce for some children!  The child is standing in the center with one parent and sibling on each side.  Who do I choose?  Mommy or daddy?  Either way, everyone seems to be walking away from this child.  He is in the spotlight-yet no one is watching.

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Deviant Art, The Dance of Divorce

#322, The Dance of Divorce

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STOP Fighting

The artist portrays the child as a lost and forlorn little boy. Drawing a heart in the sand! His pants have a hole and jacket is too large.  Perhaps, revealing how no one is paying attention to the care of this young one.   

Deviant Art happiness if short ihp_seashell_by_koenta

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#331, STOP Fighting

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Thinking

A depiction of divorce from one artist.

“Child is thinking about his parents’ divorce.  He is thinking how all of this is his fault.”

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Deviant Art, Thinking by CrystalHeartAngel09

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Thinking-156498371

#232, Thinking

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Broken Family

Tears and sadness! The question: “Does love still exist?” An emotional moment in divorce.

The artists comments: “This is one thing that makes me think Love doesnt exist…Broken Families!”
I hate it when the couple fights for nothing….its like, first it was just a small thing and one of them will make the situation bigger…and after that they’ll plan a divorce! Cmon! Besides thinking about themselves….they must also think about they’re kids’ future! Its possible that they’re kids are also gonna experience broken marriage when they grow up…they’re future may reflect from the past! 

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Deviant Art.  Broken Family by tazusajoe37

# 335, Broken Family

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Divorce Hurts Everyone

This artist shares her thoughts on divorce.

“I hate divorce. I hate it with a passion. My parents divorced when I was only 3 and a half, so I can hardly remember anything about it, but it’s most definitely affected me in the long run. Everyone has their reasons and their stories for getting a divorce, and sometimes the reasons seem logical. But honestly, what good is divorce if it makes everyone unhappy? There is nothing GOOD about divorce, guys. There’s a good reason God hates it so much. And yet, just like every other sin, it’s everywhere. Don’t date unless you plan to marry that person and NOT DIVORCE THEM. EVER.”

Love is stupid d divorce_hurts_everyone_by_lemonsandlemonade7-d90efc2

 

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Deviant Art, Divorce Hurts Everyone by lemonsandlemonade7.

Link: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-Hurts-Everyone-544868642

#222, Divorce Hurts Everyone

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Torn and Confused

Divorce from the child’s perspective.  His parents are no longer together, a difficult concept for a young child.  Artist comments that the yellow circle is the engagement ring that is thrown far, far away.

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Deviant Art: Divorce by Johny-Kun.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-190363744

#215, Torn and Confused

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Total Despair

A powerful depiction of divorce from the child’s perspective.  This picture produces strong emotions.  Artists’ comment: “A picture is worth a thousand words.”

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Deviant Art: Divorce by wolfman007

Link to artwork: ww.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-72296385

#212, Total Despair

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True

An adult child of divorce (parents divorced at age 8) shares her hope to have the happy days back, “when we were together happily.”

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Deviant Art:  Divorce by AkatsukiFan112

Link: http://akatsukifan112.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-215765801

#211, True

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I Need Both Parents!

Perfectly said!

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Shared on Kids4Justice.

Link to kids4Justice FB page:  https://www.facebook.com/pages/Kids4Justice/937737266260229?fref=ts

#195, I Need Both Parents

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It’s All For Her

A sad picture of divorce.

Artists commentary: she’s listening to her parents fight about how they’re only staying together for her sake.

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Deviant Art, It’s All For Her by happymelon.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Tape-183468848

# 181, It’s All For Her

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Broken Hearted

Artistic interpretation of the most innocent victims in divorce.

Artist comments:  “The child is always a victim in a divorce. Sad to see this happening everywhere in our modern day society.” 

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Deviant Art, Broken hearted-original iPad finger painting by chaseroflight.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Broken-hearted-original-iPad-finger-painting-432176964

# 180, Broken Hearted

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Abomination-Abandoned Child

This artist captures the horrible reality of divorce for some children!

Artists’ commentary: She was -like another victim of a divorce- abandoned by their parents, and lived in fear and misery. She had no place to go, and finally kill herself.. The dark power of vengeance raise her from death, and filled her with fury in her empty eyes.

Deviant art abomination___abandoned_child_by_beanystergates-d3afbmb

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Deviant Art, Abomination-Abandoned Child, by beanystergates.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-159921548

#175, Abomination,Abandoned Child

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Symbolism of Divorce

Artist describes her creation!

Statements in bold by Shared Parenting Confessional.

The gray woman on the far right. She can represent the girlfriend/parent/best friend/whatever-you-want-to-call-it on one of the parents side. This person is firm in what she believes in, she’s set in stone in what she believes, thus the reason why she’s gray.

However, her ear is only half the size it should be, and she’s missing the pupil in her eye to show that she only gets half of the story.

The parents. Each parent is wearing ear plugs and blindfolds, showing that they are oblivious to anything else except for what they believe is their right and what is for their benefit.

The fact that they both eventually turn into trees show that they are firmly rooted that what they say about the divorce is right.
The colors represent two things: anger and having a hard heart. So often, the parents are angry at each other, pointing fingers at one another, while showing no compassion for someone they once loved.
The vines on them represent communication, and the leaves represent each lie, each nasty comment said about each other. The fact that each adult has a leaf of the other spouse shows that they were married.

The mom is placed a little higher than the father, representing custody, and how a parent can have the upper hand on persuading a child against her other parent.

Now, for the little girl. She is wearing white to show that she is still an innocent child, that she has done nothing wrong.

Her eyes are covered, while her mouth is open wide in scream, symbolizing that the child shouldn’t just be another item for the parents; that she needs to be heard, not seen.

The bandage on her head represents the emotional/mental trauma a child suffers when the parents divorce.

The girl is wearing ballet slippers, but they are bound with bandages. So often, a childs’ hopes and dreams are affected because of the divorce.
Lastly, the vines and leaves that wrap around her show that she is surrounded by her parents lies and harsh words towards the other parent.

I hate it when divorced people put their child in the middle of the situation. It can truly cause emotional and mental damage to the child. Nor is it fair to the child simply because they are not the reason why the parents are now divorced. But because of our stubborn trait, we sometimes unknowingly put the child smack dab in the middle of the battlefield.

Please, protect the children that are going through divorce, that they might not suffer an abuse that is too often over-looked.

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Deviant Art deviant art divorce_by_strong_forever, by Strong Forever.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-159921548

#174, Symbolism of Divorce

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The Abyss

A deeper meaning of divorce:

“Now imagine a divorced couple, and then their little girl child. That child is always performing a dance on the rope, travelling from the cliff that is mother to the cliff that is father, the divorce the abyss it has to defeat.”

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Deviant Art, The Abyss, by Oshiruko.

Link to pic and read artists’ full commentary: http://www.deviantart.com/art/The-Abyss-306167251

#172, The Abyss

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I Don’t Want to Listen

This artist depicts divorce within the framework of parental conflict.  From the child’s perspective they do not want to listen.  

The artist comments: “Divorces, divorces everywhere.”

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Deviant Art, I don’t want to listen, by Kaiwerewolf.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/I-don-t-want-to-listen-252171468

#167, I Don’t Want to Listen

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See Me

This artwork seems to portray someone who desperately wants to be seen!  

Please see me!

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Divorce: A Journey Through A Kid’s Eyes

Link: https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/da/7b/c5/da7bc57a56493e9dec5c80e7ce168bf2.jpg

#161,  See Me

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Divorce Pain

Divorce Pain hurts everyone involved!

“Divorce doesn’t just hurt the spouses. It hurts the kids. It hurts everyone who loves them.” 

“Divorces don’t just end marriages. They end families. They end friendships. That doesn’t just hurt, it kills.” 

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Link to site for complete write up by Carla Anne:  http://www.carlaanne.com/2012/09/marriage-pain-versus-divorce-pain/

Link to page and artwork: View page: carlaanne.com380 x 400 · jpeg

# 159 , Divorce Pain

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Angry Parents!

The anger stands out the most!  Note the flailing arms and angry looks with the wide mouths and stabbing eyes, the beads swinging and the hair flying.  Red and green backgrounds are opposing colors on the color wheel showing how the parents are TOTAL opposites.  Clothes are opposing colors and note how one parent has a zig zag design while the other parent is wearing the opposite, a straight type belt and round beads.  Even the light fixture and couches are different for each side indicating the dissimilarity between the parents.  

Each parent is sitting on a crucial baby item-a bottle and toy; perhaps squashing the significance of the child.  And, oh yes, there IS a child in the pic.  Sadly, the child is NOT the first thing one focuses on when looking at this pic.  The child is sitting quietly and engaging in an activity alone; however, the eyes are wide-eyed and piercing indicating a sense of ‘what am I to do.’

“Divorce” by artist T-U-L-P

http://www.deviantart.com/art/The-divorce-201255103

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Divorce and a Child’s Toy Box

Expressions of divorce through the analogy of toys and family members.   The description of each sibling is heart wrenching. Divorce can create feelings of abandonment and loneliness.   Each line of this poem alludes to the horrible impact divorce can have on a child.  

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Divorce
My family is like a child’s toybox
My stepfather is a toy soldier,
strong, yet sentimental when needed.
My mother is the building blocks,
ready to tumble at any moment.
My little brother is a top,
moving quickly, stopping slowly.
My little sister is the toy that never gets played with,
being ignored and doesn’t say much.
And I; I am the bouncy ball being bounced between all these emotions
of a divorce…

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#309, Divorce and a Child’s Toy Box

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All My Fault

A common theme in divorce is the child thinking that THEY did something wrong……. If there was only a way that parents could divorce legally, have the child switch homes two times per week, alternate holidays and change lifestyle without the child being impacted emotionally.  Is that even possible?  Perhaps the better question is “How is that ?”possible.

Note the sad eyes of he child on the stairs.  The forlorn look while watching her parents argue.  The bottom half of a wedding pic…..  Parents seem to have intense fights.  Who would want their child exposed to such verbal fights?

Deviant Art All my fault dlsapphire_s_story__by_h0mi3-d972l8c

Deviant Art, Sapphire’s Story by h0mi3

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Sapphire-s-Story-556073724

#300, All My Fault

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What, Your Parents Argue

A too common depiction of divorce from the child’s perspective.  How sad that the oldest child is put in a position to protect their younger siblings.  Knowing that ‘other’ parents argue may offer a little comfort.  This artist shares how they are the protector, yet, they too need comfort.  Regardless of the angle, observing and overhearing parental conflict is damaging to the child!

Is the artists’ title of Question 72 revealing more about the experiences of seeing their parents argue?  Is this just one of many questions this character is wondering about?  Perhaps the better question is: 

Should a child need to ask questions about how their parents communicate?  Parents are a child’s first introduction to how relationships work?  If a child observes arguments of the two people they love and trust the most, what does that do to the child’s sense of self and sense of security?

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Deviant Art, Question 72, by ask-the-fazbear-kids.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Question-72-557025827

#295,  What, Your Parents Argue?

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The Parent Crap

This artists shares the family tension that exists.  The title states the essence of this artwork.  Apparently, no event is immune to parental conflict!  Even at a joyous occasion such as a baby shower for their grandchild to be-the parents are unable to play nice.  How stressful for everyone!  The artist states: “unfortunately Molly’s divorced parents are still shooting daggers at one another and Molly is still in the middle.”  

A sad and realistic depiction of divorce.

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Deviant Art.  The Parent Crap by Toongrrl.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/The-Parent-Crap-555163421

#291, The Parent Crap

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I Wish…

A heartwarming thought!  Does this wish mean that the child is unable to see their dad anymore?  Or, only a limited basis?  A child has a right to have a relationship with both parents!  This pic conveys the message of the importance of maintaining an emotional bond between parent and child.   

How many parents long to hug their child?

How many children and adolescents wish they could hug their parent on a daily basis?  

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Shared on Father’s Rights are a Human Right.

Link to FB page: https://www.facebook.com/FathersRightsAreAHumanRight?fref=ts

 #289, I wish…

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Which Way?

At the proverbial cross roads in life!  Which way should I go?  Mommy or daddy?  Mommy or daddy?  This black and white photo is upstaged by the adorable, fluffy bear.  Is this something that she treasures?  An object she can turn to when confused, lonely or sad?  Hopefully, her parents are able to comfort her and fulfill her emotional needs.  Divorce can be a confusing time for the child!

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# 282, Which way?

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Sadness

Sometimes ‘leaving’ one parent is difficult for young ones.  A child is trying to adjust to not having full access to both parents.  A very emotional experience for a child.  Parents working together can make the exchange less emotional.  I hope someone is validating this child’s  emotional needs on an immediate and long term basis.  

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#257, Sadness

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“Family”

This artist capture “the side of the family no one wants to see.”  This girl is hiding in her room with the music full blast and “the yelling still manages to reach your ears from the downstairs.”  

A very sad depiction of divorce.

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“Family” artwork by bloodyxrosexiii

#229. Familyby bloodyxrosexiii

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Can We Be A Family?

A collection of heartbreak in this artwork.  

The broken heart, the child crying and the heart wrenching questions.  Sadly, children are the innocent victims of divorce.  

Deviant art can we work it out dl family_portrait_by_nekoyasu-d41y15o

Deviant Art, Family Portrait by FriendlyPoe.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Family-portrait-245132124

#226, Can We Be A Family

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Burden of Divorce

An adult child of divorce shares how divorce disrupted her life.  Sadly, this  the reality of divorce for some children.  

 

I confess that my parents’ divorce was a HUGE burden on me.  Their  trying to be happy met DIVORCE, aka,  I would be unhappy!   The breaking up of my family has been my life.

Since that day of DIVORCE, I have been like a young adult trying to take care of my parents WHO WERE SUPPOSE TO BE TAKING CARE OF ME!

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#217, Burden of Divorce

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Mommy + Daddy

One picture is worth a thousand words!

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#194, Mommy + Daddy

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Something Yearned For

This artist depicts how divorce changes things for the child!  The changes for the child of divorced parents can be difficult to tolerate.  The abandoned feeling, the fear and anger that only a child of divorce can understand are ever present in this artwork.

Note: The letter stating I Love My Family, with the word family crossed out.  

The family and trees drawn sideways indicating everything is different, not what she experienced prior to the divorce.   

The hands reaching up toward her.

The small red heart that is partially faded.

The sun rays are missing on the side of the child indicating the darkness she may be experiencing since the divorce. 

This is a very realistic and revealing portrayal of divorce from the child’s perspective!

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Deviant Art, Something Yearned For, by haruyuuma.

Link to artwork: http://haruyuuma.deviantart.com/art/Something-Yearned-For-393133624

#186  Something Yearned For

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Mending the Pieces

Artists’ commentary: 

The effects on a child of divorce.
The thread that tapes it back together.
The blinding and deafening of screams.
Shadows on the wall.
A crack in their strife.
All intertwined in a life.

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Deviant Art, Mending the Pieces by kyrisnowpaw.

Link to artwork: Mending The Pieces by kyrisnowpaw on DeviantArt

# 182, Mending the Pieces

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The Wait

A child sitting by the door waiting for her parent to walk in.  One picture is worth a thousand words!  I hope this little girl’s parent shows up soon!

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Deviant Art.  Picture “The Wait” by maria-mar.  An illustration from the book called “My parents are divorcing … what now?”.

Link to pic: http://www.deviantart.com/art/The-wait-397885159

Link to site: DeviantArt.com

#105, The Wait

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Child of a Broken Family

This artist shares her feelings of relief when her parent’s divorce.  She comments that this poem is: “Pretty much what I remember feeling as a child of two parents who were constantly fighting. I was relieved when they finally split up, even if it meant that my parents wouldn’t be together, at least the fighting would stop, for the most part at least. The perspective of this poem is kind of weird, but I like it.”

Escape,
Run away,
From their hate,
And their shouts.
Don’t look back,
Just keep on walking.
Breathe in,
Breathe out.
Just a few more steps.
Sink down with relief,
On the cool dirt floor.
Focus on the hands laying there,
Shaking,
Trembling,
Uncontrollably.
Blocked out by the trees,
And the tall-growing weeds,
The small body is hidden,
From unwanted eyes.
Breathe in,
Breathe out.
Block out their yells.
Retreat to the land,
Of pixies and magic,
Where no grownups,

Spoil all the fun.
In this land,
All it takes,
Is faith,
Trust,
And pixie dust,
To fly away,
Far away,
From all of these problems,
And worries,
And pains.
If only it were really that simple.
A simple call,
Brings reality spiraling back.
A name called through a window,
Her name.
She pulls her small body up,
Drags her weary feet,
Slowly, ever so slowly,
Through the un-mowed grass,
Across the lawn,
And up the steep back steps.
She steps into the open doorway,
Once again swallowed up,
By the terrors and torments,

Of a broken family.

Deviant Art.  A poem, Child of a Broken Family by Cassie 21.

Link to poem: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Child-of-a-Broken-Family-127158625

Link to site: DeviantArt.com

#104, Child of a Broken Family

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Emotional Turmoil of Divorce

This artist uses a photo to illustrate the devastation of divorce! A young lady is sitting in a corner.  Her dark eyes reveal the emotional turmoil of divorce.  Note she seems to have the habit of biting her nails, a sign of anxiety and nervousness. Look closely and see teardrops on the background of the photo.  The look of fear on her face shows the distress of divorce on the most innocent victim!  The CHILD! 

Divorce art girl dark eyes hiding in corner__photo__by_GoldenGirls

Deviantart.com.  Divorce-photo by GoldenGirls.

 

#103, Emotional Turmoil of Divorce

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Who is Knocking a the Door

A stressful scenario for anyone!  Imagine how the child is impacted by the constant anxiety about ‘who is knocking at the door’.  A sad depiction of divorce with parental conflict!

Anonymous: Yesterday a friend of the family stopped over unannounced. We were just sitting down to dinner and heard a knock at the door and instantly my husband and I look at each other…. Sad to think that when we hear a knock at the door we automatically think we are being served papers, but sadly enough that’s what our life has been the last 8 years. YES–we have been served that many times! We were pleasantly surprised when we opened the door to see a friend. More and more we’ve had more friends over…opened our doors and our home and let people into our lives as well. We are done hiding and feeling like we are to be shamed for our blended family and the situation we are in. We are done hiding from everyone about the constant court battles and false accusations. Friends and family have been wonderful, caring, supportive and shocked by it all. I share this, to remind you to make sure you have a good circle of support….and be open to sharing your experiences–whether good or bad. Knowledge is power and people need to know what goes on in the courts in order for change to happen, especially people who are not in our situations. Everyone needs to stop turning a blind eye to the problem. 

**I look forward to the day that when we hear a knock at the door, we smile and just wonder which friend is coming to visit us and do we have enough drinks to share in the fridge.

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The Father’s Rights Movement of Wisconsin

FB: Anonymous post on March 20, 2015, 8:27 am

Link:  https://www.facebook.com/TFRM.WI

#89, Who is Knocking at the Door

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Pick A Side

This artwork shows how the parents are on different sides and reveals how the child feels that he needs to choose.  There are three side to choose from:  One parent, the other parent, AND the CHILD!

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Giorgio Ceccarelli, La MOSTRA dei QUADRI di Roberto Gallo, on Facebook page Festa del Papa.

https://www.facebook.com/giorgio.ceccarelli1?fref=ts&ref=br_tf

#85, Pick A Side

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Boat Ride

Amazing perspective on divorce from the child’s perspective.  Art work reveals splitting time between parents.    This child is clutching a bear and looking down (at the reflection of her father?)  One would wonder; Is there significance to the dad portrayed on the bottom, under the boat?

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Darkness of Divorce

This artist depicts the darkness of divorce. The child is split down the middle.  Note how the dad is looking at the mom, the mom is leaning away and looking forward.  Who is looking at the child? Red indicates the seriousness of the thoughts and questions of the child.  

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Who Are You?

This reveals the inner conflict of divorce and parental conflict experienced by the child.  This speaks to the importance of how parents communicate in front of the child.  An important point to remember is that the child is a part of both parents.  When one criticizes the other parent-the child is being criticized.  How sad for the child to hear that they should have never met!  Basically, that means the child would not have been created?  How does one reconcile that concept?.  Parental conflict should be handled in private.  

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