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Broken Holidays

One artists interoperation of the impact of divorce on the family.  This was done “after I learned of the impending divorce of one of my aunt and uncles… And the fact that said aunt probably wouldn’t be coming to that Thanksgiving or Christmas with the family. Family gatherings for my family generally means a lot of very delicious food, so that’s what came to mind with the image.”

Deviant Art broken_holidays_by_silvervistani

Deviant Art, Broken Holidays

#336, Broken Holidays

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Missed Event

A sympathetic message that will ring true for too many parents! Halloween is a fun holiday filled with wearing costumes, attending parties and trick or treating.  Both parents should have the opportunity to share in the fun.  Sadly, the person who misses out the most is the child! 

My heart goes out TRUTH m

As shared by Truth Exposed FB page.

Link to FB:https://www.facebook.com/ParentsforProtection2012/?fref=photo

 #327, Missed Event

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Love, Me

The most interesting part of this letter to Santa is how the letter is signed;  Love, Me.  Is this letter really saying LOVE ME?  Notably, Me is the biggest word!  

Plus, whatever happened to a list of toys for Christmas? I wonder how many parents and children wish for this-to have a family that does not fight.  For a family to show love and concern for each other and live a life filled with joy!  Probably, too many!

Deviant Art Dear Santa love me m

Deviant Art, Family by bahjarox.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Family-273867701

#313, Love, Me

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Thanksgiving Day Forever Ruined

An example of the trauma that parental conflict can cause.   This individual now views a major holiday differently because of the fighting.  If that is not bad enough, they now try to AVOID the holiday all together.  All because of parents fighting!  

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I know the filling about parents fighting.  My parent are not divorced but they were really close to it.   I had to watch my mom and dad fight and it’s a sad sight to say that I didn’t even talk to them for a while till it cooled down.   Whats worst is on a Thanksgiving when our whole family was coming. Thanksgiving was ruined!   I will never go to my family Thanksgiving dinner again.  I will keep trying to avoid that day.

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#241, Thanksgiving Day Forever Ruined

 

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Happy Birthday

A heartwarming birthday celebration.  How amazing for this young girl to celebrate her special day with the important people in her life!  

In Shared Parenting EVERYONE WINS!!!!

My daughter had her 6th birthday party today. Her father and I have been apart since I was 5 months pregnant with her. She wanted her father, his new partner and her kids at her party. We invited them and they all came. It was a wonderful day and my daughter got to have both her parents at her birthday party for the first time in her life. It’s been a long hard road but its so worth it!

This is putting kids first!!

Love to see co-parenting success stories!! Your children will be much happier and thrive when you work together for their TRUE best interest and their wants and needs!

Kudo’s to Hazel and her ex for working together for their daughter!

Thanks for sharing!!
~TPKF Team

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Father’s Day

A letter to his son who he misses very much!

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To my son,

I don’t know what you’ve been told and I have no control over that. All I can do is to ask God every day to please remind your heart how much I love you until I can one day tell you in person. It breaks my heart to not be allowed to watch you grow, to not be allowed to send you Birthday gifts, Christmas gifts and to experience the meaningful father/son moments.

I do know that one day you will be making your own choices and will start looking for me and you can read the court file and see that I was ordered to stay out of your life. That is not what I wanted.

I want to be a father to you in every phase of your life and to be there for you if you need me…and when I need you. God blessed me with the son I have always hoped to have but what hurts is that although you will learn the truth on your own one day, we cannot get back the years of being father and son as you grow and develop.

So, in the spirit of Fathers Day I want you to know how much I love you…I always have and always will!!!

 I LOVE YOU SON,

Daddy

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Letters from Daddy/Mommy, June 23, 2014

Link to FB page: https://www.facebook.com/sendingourlove?fref=ts

#137, Father’s Day

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Family Gatherings in Divorce

Emotional response to “The Issues are Legion”.

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My anonymous friend, I totally understand. Family gatherings get really awkward for me, too. I’m a Second Generation kid of a divorced family. My mom and my grandma are both divorced. Grandma’s got two ex-husbands, one of whom has been remarried two other times, and I’ve got a stepmom to contend with. Overall it’s just a huge mess. I tend to just ignore my dad and his wife, but I’m constantly feeling guilty about it, even though I know I’m being expected to juggle too many discordant relationships.

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Marriage-Ecosystem, The Issues of Legion.

http://www.marriage-ecosystem.org/the-issues-are-legion.html

#123, Family Gatherings in Divorce

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Holidays are Ruined

Emotional support for “The Issues are Legion”.  

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Holidays were a horrid thing for me too! I completely agree! My mother divorced twice, so I felt all this pressure to see my dads family, my mother, and my step dads family too (because believe it or not, I feel closer to my step dad than either of my actual parents.)

Holidays are ruined; trying to visit everyone is stressful, tiresome, and down right emotionally exhausting. I always end up crying a lot, and my kids would be confused as to whose house we were at and what they were supposed to call all these people. Every single family member thinks they are entitled to have me drive to their home. No one comes to see me, however. And they all get mad if I go to another family members home! So you can’t win for losing! Which is why I stopped going completely. They seem to have nothing but a hot dose of guilt to give me anyway.

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Marriage-Ecosystem, comment for The Issues are Legion, August 8, 2013.

http://www.marriage-ecosystem.org/the-issues-are-legion.html

#122, Holidays are Ruined

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The Issues are Legion

Sharing the holidays are a common problem in divorce.  This adult child of divorce explains the two perils of divorce for her.  

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There are too many sufferings in my life to list. Two things I would say are: Divorce and one remarriage ruined every holiday family gathering for me because parents or siblings pressured me to attend. I can’t be in two places at the same time, and parents would be angry or saddened because they knew I was with their ex-spouse. Also visiting for a few hours and driving off to another household every holiday is exhausting for me and my family.

Another thing I would say is that step-siblings are not my siblings, and a stepmother is definitely of no relation to me, so don’t demand a Mother’s Day gift!

I wish my entire family would let me live in peace WITHOUT them. Divorce ends a family unit. When my parents got divorced, I should have also been released from my famlial obligations.

The plus side of divorce? I wasn’t sad when one parent died because it removed that holiday stress. When the next parent dies, I will be sad, but then I will finally get to enjoy holidays with my husband.

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Marriage-Ecosystem, The Issues of Legion.

http://www.marriage-ecosystem.org/the-issues-are-legion.html

#121, The Issues are Legion

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Mother’s Day Sadness

Mother’s Day is a difficult holiday for some. An adult child of divorce reveals the emotional pain experienced on Mother’s Day!  Sadly, her mother engaged in behaviors representing PAS.  

Parents who use PAS tactics to ‘control’ their child should be forewarned that the plan may backfire when the child becomes an adult.   

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I was going to pretend that I’m fine today. Then I saw someone share this, (another post) and I couldn’t ignore the feelings anymore.

All I wish today is that I had a mother who wasn’t sick. I don’t regret cutting her out from my life, but I just hate that I don’t have a mom who may well never be stable enough to have a real relationship with. Especially since she’s able to cut off any emotional bond with people, apparently at will. So she may have lost all love for me. I’m just sad I don’t have a mom. Very much so. I thought that not being around today would make me feel good in a way, because it would be like revenge for her, to feel the consequences of what she’s done. But the sadness of not having a mom is greater.

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Parental Alienation World Wide Support, PAWWS, Faith Galvan, May 10, 2015.

 #112, Mother’s Day Sadness

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Avoiding the Perils of Family Court

This parent shares the importance of understanding the family court system and avoiding the pitfalls that may create drama.  

During my custody battle, I came to a deeper understanding how the courts system works and how the law applied in my particular case. I persevered by demonstrating that I was rational, reasonable, and always focused on the best interest of my children. Instead of relying solely on my attorney’s advice and historical precedent, I saw the bigger picture and thought long term.

I used several tactics to my advantage. I never left or was forced out of our marital residence, I managed to avoid physical altercations by keeping my emotions in check as much as possible, avoided being taken to jail by the NYPD by calmly explaining my side of the story and kept my focus by remaining totally devoted to my two children. I always took the high road and never talked badly about my ex to our children, no matter how tempting. I still don’t-she is the mother of our kids. They love her just as much as they love me.

When there are two loving parents that want to be actively involved in their children’s lives after divorce, there is no need to travel down the expected path of family court and mandatory child and/or spousal support. Women can learn from my story and understand that just because you may no longer love the father of your https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9v9K0MVAg-8, your children do. Children need their mother AND father. Find a way to stay out of that hell hole they loosely call “Family Court.” I am living proof that there is another way.

For father’s day, give your ex the gift of letting him be a father.

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#107, Avoid the Perils of Family Court

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My Christmas Letter

A father writes a Christmas Letter.

Blog cropped Christmas letter

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