Elimination

 

One picture is worth a thousand words.  Crossing out a family member is revealing.  That person played an important role in their life, enough to be included in a family portrait.  And, now is removed.  Divorce is between the parents and should be about the child.

LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!!

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#428, Elimination

Deviant art: Rainbowmonkey906

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Tears

 

This artwork represents her emotions and having a  difficult time adjusting to parental divorce.  Notably, after several years she decided to lived with her father again.  This picture demonstrates the complexity of emotions the child, too often, is forced to deal with due to divorce.  This picture, by the name alone indicates sadness.  The large tear filled eyes is very revealing.  The down-turned mouth   affirms heartache and loss.  The reality of divorce for some individuals is beautifully executed in this pic.  This exposed the emotional aspect of utter sadness.   One can only hope that things improve between her parents and for this artist. 

Clearly, the emotional reflection of this art brings to light the impact of divorce on the child.  A job well done!

The artist shares: “I’ve been (and still am) struggling with depression these last months.  My parents got divorced about nine years ago and I had to go live with my mother and her new boyfriend. It was hard to let go of my father since I’d only see him during weekends and vacations. This event was really hard to process for my little sister though. We both hate changes and it’s one of our biggest fears.

The first weeks of living with my mom and her boyfriend weren’t that bad but my father was still left alone, which was really sad. I felt so bad for him. But not many weeks later he brought a strange woman with him when he came to pick us up; his new girlfriend. I guess it kinda hurt my (then eight year old) feelings that both my parents had moved on so quickly after loving eachother for over twelve years.”

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#427, Tears

Deviant Art, Tears by Hinagiku-Shirabe

Posted in Impact on Child/Reality of Divorce

Whose Side

 

An emotional depiction of the drama and trauma of divorce for this artist. Several things stand out with this picture. Mom and the son in the middle are drawn with facial expressions. Mom looks sad with a flat line shaped mouth. This son seems to have heart shaped lips which is an interesting subliminal message.

Blue lines on their faces are interpreted as tears.  Mom has a red mark on her face which is curious.  Is this related to the item in dads left hand (is this a gun, knife or sling-shot dripping with blood?).

Curiously, mom has what appears to be the letter ‘Y’ in red on her top.  Is this the artists interpretation?  ‘Y’ the divorce.  ‘Y’ is this happening? ‘Y’ is this complicated?  ‘Y’ do I have to choose?

Dad and brother’s facial features are missing. One son is walking away.

An emotional portrayal of divorce. 

 

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#422, Whose Side

Deviant Art, Whose Side by Fhulufhuwani

Posted in: I/Reality of Divorce

Happy Family

 

A graphic depiction of divorce.  This artwork reveals the confusion and heartache many children experience when divorce happens in their family.  In this artwork, this child is split in half.  Not completely with mom or dad. Part of him is holding hands and walking with dad.  And, part of him is walking with mom and holding hands.  Note, how dad is smiling big while mom’s expression is less exaggerated.  

Interestingly, the boy is torn in the shape of a puzzle piece. Is he trying to figure out how this works?  Is he trying to understand how he fits into this newly formed puzzle?  Artist states: “My parents are divorcing.  My dad hasn’t been nice to my mom. I don’t see what can happen, I don’t know.” 

Divorce can be a confusing time for everyone involved.  Especially, when you do not know what is happening.

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#421, Happy Family

Happy Family: Deviant Art by Fhulufhuwani

Posted in Impact on child/Reality of Divorce

Faceless

 

An adult child of divorce shares their inner insecurities.  One of the most devastating aspects of divorces is the impact on the child.  Emotional insecurity is a common issue.  This artist captures her emotions beautifully.

“~What you never see~”
“One of my photos that means more than my life.
I am actually not over the divorce from my parents. It is about 6 years ago but I still remember the worst time.
I hide my feelings under a mask, I hide it under lies, under fake smiles and unreal happiness.”

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#338, Faceless

Scary Parents

 

This pic captures the essence of divorce for the child!  Yelling.  Finger pointing.  Parents appear as creatures rather than humans.   Interestingly, the parents seem to appear as shadows, perhaps a way to demonstrate how the parents are overpowering the child’s emotional state. The line down the middle is somewhat curious.  The line is off center to the walls of the room and lead directly to the child.  A scary picture at best.

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#339, Scary Parents

D-I-V-O-R-C-E

 

This individual takes a different approach in writing about divorce.  Counting the number of letters and using the dictionary to write a poem about describing divorce.  An interesting way to express yourself.

Divorce. A two-syllable word… Seven letters that, arranged any differently, could mean nothing. But this word? Oh man, does it mean something. It’s separation… perversion, pain, anxiety, hatred, darkness, confusion… It’s so many bad things in one. Four of the letters in “divorce” can spell out void.

Void. One syllable. Four letters… Four innocent letters that, when combined, strike terror into hearts and minds.

Terror. Two syllables. Six letters. Another word for horror.

Horror. Also two syllables. Also six letters. A synonym for terror. Both are terrible. Both confuse whoever is feeling it.

Confusion. Three syllables. Nine letters. Confusion… Such a well-known word in our society. Everyone lives in confusion.

Everyone. Three syllables. Eight letters… Pertains to every living human, animal, and creature  on this Earth. Pertains to everyone… Where am I in that?

Lost. One syllable… Four letters. Being in a foreign region, without hope.

Hope. One syllable. Four letters. An element that my life has none of. Hopeless means nothing to dream of or live for.

Nothing. Two syllables. Seven letters. Nothing is the opposite of everything. Everything brings us back to everyone. Everyone excludes me. I am hopeless. I am lost. I am confused. I am horrified, terrified. Slipping into the void. Which brings us back to this…

[Whispered] My parents are divorcing.

Divorce, by Crimson Creek

#337, D-I-V-O-R-C-E