The Happy Mask

 

Emotional abuse during childhood has long-term ramifications.  An adult child shares a glimpse into their emotional world.  The child learns at an early age to put aside their own desires to please their parent. This is at the expense of their own emotional needs, feelings and wants. This emotional abuse may revealed in all future relationships.

 

#503, The Happy Mask

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Divorce Agreement

 

This talented artist presents a collection of scenes representing the divorce process. The black/white contrasted with crimson petals reveals the starkness of divorce. Tears of petals appearing as flower and heart shapes in the middle row sets the tone of sadness. The trail of petals in the last frame summarizes the essence of divorce in some families.

Note: The artist created this piece as a backstory for a character used in a storyline. She states her parents are not divorced and have a ‘happy relationship’.  She brilliantly captures the emotional aspect of divorce for a character further speaking to her creativity.  Excellent work!

 

 

#486, Divorce Agreement

Deviant Art, CutieEevee1

https://cutieeevee1.deviantart.com/art/Day-6-Hanahaki-With-Backstory-708305784

Spent College $ on Legal Fees

 

How true this is. The Family Court system is a multi billion-dollar business.  Too many parents liquidate accounts, sell their home and use savings account to fight the battle in the Family Court system. All of this money is spent in order to try and have a relationship with their child or to inhibit the parent-child relationship. Clearly, this money could be better spent on the child!

#472, Spent College $ on Legal Fees

Shared on TimeToPutKidsFirst, Facebook link: https://www.facebook.com/timetoputkidsfirst/

Family Values

 

A captivating poem on the dynamics within the context of a family separating.  This artist shares the emotional aspects of being a member of a family of divorce. Even more intriguing, she conveys feelings of love and loss and the parent-child bond.  The last two lines describe the significance of the separation process.  An outstanding presentation to the impact of divorce on family and society.

Acidic words burn like fire, as angry yells shatter and tear
Children hide in a corner with fear, clutching a tattered teddy bear
No alcohol or drugs flow in this house; bitter substances aren’t the poison here
Only the lack of love and personal caring, are the causes of these endless salty tears
A value can not be placed upon love, nor the loss measured when there’s none
The damage here is impossible to calculate, because a father doesn’t love his only son
To many mothers a daughter brings joy, but here the two can’t share a smile
Two siblings wage war upon each other, while their parents await a divorce court trial
Twenty years ago, this would seem dramatic, now the situation goes on next door
The degrading of the global family unit is so common people don’t see it anymore.
#462, Family Values
Poem: l-piroko-l Deviant Art 
Artwork: Dragon Queen, l-piroko-l Deviant Art 

Clip Their Wings

 

The abnormal relationship promoted by the alienating parent is a form of control and manipulation. Strings of fear and guilt tend to keep the child from venturing out and developing as a person. The child is led to believe they are unimportant and, worse yet, unlovable.  Patterns of communication established in early childhood  impact every aspect of the child’s life.  Ego, relationships, and self-esteem are based on the parent-child relationship. Sadly, one can easily become entrapped and pass the family ‘tradition’ down to their own children. Creating an intergenerational pattern of behaviors.

#455, Clip Their Wings

As shared on Parental Alienation Dynamics, Facebook.com/ParentalAlienationDynamics

Quote from . Michael Bone, Ph.D.

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Mental Abuse of PA

 

This is the reality of an adult child of divorce (ACOD) raised by a narcissistic parent. “I wanted to share this with you because…even as a 31 year old, the effects of mental abuse are still very real for me, especially when it comes to my mother. Years and years of mind control cannot be erased in a decade. Yes, I am in a good place now, but it is because I choose to be and have been very careful to ensure I am in this headspace. Breaking that connection takes work. And a simple phone call that wasn’t even answered and very well could have been an accidental butt-dial *could* have set me off wanting my mother’s attention and love; it happened to me many times over the years. I know it’s a blackhole though. I have to be strong, for myself. Please try to keep this in mind and empathize with your alienated loved one. The emotional trauma of being raised by an alienator never goes away… Be strong and stay strong. Much love.” -KidOfPAS

#354, Mental Abuse of PA

As told on KidOfPAS.com, Facebook.com/KidOfPAS

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Reality of Exchanges

 

This is a most unfortunate reality for some parents in a high conflict divorce. A drop zone created by the city to accommodate parents who will not be nice during the exchange. Security cameras are watching the area for any outbursts or abnormal behavior.  Notably, there are many parents even missing out on this! 

How long is the 2 minute exchange? http://www.sharedparentinginfo.com/two-minute-exchange.html