WW III

 

Artwork from a 12-year-old represents her sad experience with parental divorce. There are several poignant elements. Left side: she is kneeling on the stars crying large blue tears falling beneath her as she overhears the mean words her parents are speaking. The mean face in black indicates anger. Right side: A heart is crossed out with a thick black line. Are these parents aware of how their fighting is impacting this girl? Parental conflict is confusing to the child. This artwork reveals how parental conflict is confusing to the child. 

“In the thought balloon she cries “Shutup! Quit fighting!” The crossed-out heart represents the loss of love in her world, with her family’s conflict feeling like a new World War. The purple writing says, “There’s always two sides of a story!” revealing that this child feels like she has to be the mediator when her parents fight.”

#528, WW III

From Divorce Resolutions, Colorado Center for Divorce Mediation, located in Boulder Colorado.

 

Crossroads

 

Artwork by a 10-year-old boy reveals the confusion he is experiencing with parental divorce. The definitive line separating the parents indicate how he feels forced to make a decision, thus the fork in the road. Who does he choose?  Mom or dad? A tough decision for a child to make. This child is pointing at dad.  What does this mean? The words of the child show the emotional pain he is experiencing: “This is what divorce sometimes seems like to me. Sometimes I am on the road I don’t want to be on. Sometimes I can’t decide which road to go on. At times, I get confused!”

#527, Crossroads

From Divorce Resolutions, Colorado Center for Divorce Mediation, located in Boulder Colorado.

Reality of Narcissistic Tendencies

 

A parent with narcissistic tendencies is unable to put the needs of the child before their own. This is confusing to the child.  This creates a dynamic with the child  putting their own needs and wants aside in order to focus on their parent.

#523, Reality of Narcissistic Tendencies

Parental Conflict!

 

One picture is worth a thousand words!  Or, perhaps go with the phrase ‘silence is golden’. What are these parents arguing about-in front of their children? Is this a conversation for behind closed doors? Research is conclusive revealing the damage of parental conflict. Will these parents stop fighting and realize the impact this has on their children? Divorce is between the parents and about the child!

#524, Parental Conflict

Who Is Missing?

 

This artwork seems to reveal anger, loss and sadness. Two people are blackout; Is this a parent, a sibling or the perhaps the artist? One parent seems to have a squarish face with large eyes and the only character with a mouth. Who is the person in red?  Part of one person is blacked out.  Is this the child? There are many unknowns in this art. Hopefully, someone will realize what the child is trying to say. Someone should be listening to this little one.

 

This artwork seems to reveal anger, loss and sadness. Two people are blackout; Is this a parent, a sibling or the perhaps the artist? One parent seems to have a squarish face with large eyes and the only character with a mouth. Who is the person in red?  Part of one person is blacked out.  Is this the child? There are many unknowns in this art. Hopefully, someone will realize what the child is trying to say. Someone should be listening to this little one.

 

 

#521, Who Is Missing?

Parenting Issues

 

Parenting issues should remain between the parents. Sometimes, parents use the child as a go-between.  This puts the child in the awkward position of having to choose sides. A child wants and needs to have a relationship with BOTH parents. Divorce is between the parents and about the child. (From Whisper).

# 519, Parenting Issues (From Whisper)

Is Anyone Listening?

A graphic image of parental conflict.  This artwork shows each parent in distinct settings (different homes?). Child is in the center, covering their ear while straddling each home.  Both parents are saying something with an angry tone based on the look on their faces and word bubbles.  Notice how each parent is turned away from their child. ‘Communication’ lines in green and red indicate distress. Neither parent is paying attention to their child.  Seemingly, this child is trying to explain their thoughts through art.  Hopefully, one of these parents will notice how their child answers the question  “How do you feel about being in the middle? As this child answers: scared, sad, want to get away, mad, worry. 

#518,  Is Anyone Listening, from Kids in the Middle.

Categories: Impat on child, A child’s view

 

 

 

Good-bye, Daddy…

 

A heartfelt pic of divorce from the perspective of the child? An adorable little girl is crying blue tears.  She is crying out to daddy who seems distressed.  Mom seems intent on taking the daughter in a different direction.   An important point to make is children want and need to have a relationship with BOTH parents. I hope these parents figure out a way to communicate. Divorce is between the parents and about the child.  

#516, Goodbye, Daddy…

Categories: Impact on child, A child’s view

Artwork, by a talented (anonymous) artist.

Heart and Dagger

 

There are several elements in this artwork deserving of attention.  Viewing the self-portrait, the child is split with a line down the entire page through the child.  In the middle of the child there is another split. This is disproportionate with more space to the father. Each parent is pointing a dagger in the child.  Is there significance because mom appears to be walking away and dad is walking toward the child? Both parents are smiling while the child is sad?  Certainly, the child feels torn between the parents.  Is either parent aware of how their child is experiencing the divorce?  Seemingly, this artwork indicates the child needs help adjusting to the divorce.   

 

#517, Heart and Dagger

Categories: Impact on the child, A child’s view.

What Are They Saying?

 

What are the parents saying? Each parent is pointing a finger indicating they are trying to make a point. What words is this child hearing causing the large, flowing, blue  tears.    Even the dog, with wide eyes, seems startled by the parental conversation. Does either parent see how this is impacting their daughter.  Hopefully, one parent will take a moment and comfort their child.

#515,  What Are They Saying?