Counting the Days

 

An adolescent is marking the days until they turn age 18.  Does this mean more freedom? Or, the ability to make their own decisions and deciding where they want to live? What happens at that point?    Notably, Young adults still benefit from parental guidance.

#564, Counting the Days

Something is Missing

 

Stunning artwork! This child is surrounded by a very large inventory of toys! Yet, she appears very sad. Two parents appear in the shadows. Both parents are on the phone, in what appears to be, a heated conversation. The look on the face of this young girl is captivating. Has she experienced hearing her parents fight before? Will her parents notice their daughter and tend to her emotional needs? Seemingly, regardless of the number of toys, overhearing harsh words by the two people she loves, adores and trusts may be confusing and disruptive to her emotional world.

Deviant Art.  Something is Missing by VivalaVida.

Link to artwork: http://vivalavida.deviantart.com/art/Something-is-missing-176997189

#557-277, Something is Missing

Before and After Divorce

 

One young artist shares a “before” drawing on top, and a pic of her family “after” in the bottom picture.  This child presents her family as happy and fun.  Everyone is smiling.  Artist is holding her arm wide open indicating confidence and high self-esteem.  In the after pic, no one is smiling.  Each parent is turned away from the child.  Notice how her arms are held tightly to her body.  Restricted movement.  Is this how she feel emotionally?  Is either parent acknowledging the changes occurring in their family?

Family ‘BEFORE’

Family ‘AFTER’

 

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#551, Before and After Divorce

See and Hear Dad

 

Is this little girl watching a home video? Is this dad a public figure?  Seemingly, if this daughter was seeing her father on a regular basis she may say “look, there is daddy” rather than comment on how she is unable to hear or hug him.  The creator of this ‘cartoon’  is making an important message about contact with their father. Is this a reflection of what they have experienced personally or observed with a relative or friend?

A child having a relationship with both parents is critical. Divorce is between the parents and about the child! LOVE WINS!!!

# 549  ,  See and Hear Dad

Stubborn Family

 

Excellent portrayal of separation. This talented artist presents a family with a ‘split’ in the middle between the siblings. Each parent seems to support the title as ‘stubborn’ and not open to communicating with their co-parent. Artist states: “This was one broken family, divorced, split parents and two split siblings…not the best formula for a happy family. Overall the family didn’t even really know each other that well…”

#540, Stubborn Family by Chickie456 with Deviant Art. https://www.deviantart.com/chickie456/art/Stubborn-Family-668632747

Positive Attitude

 

This young artist keeps a positive attitude about parental divorce. Sweetly, this child offers comfort to mom and dad and conveys a message of acceptance with  the divorce.  Thankfully, this young one does not feel responsible for the changes that have taken place. And, offers good luck to both parents. Hopefully, this child will maintain positive through the years.

  Positive outlook letter m

#71, Positive Outlook

Drawings from KID’S FIRST PROGRAM

“Positive Outlook”, appeared in the Honolulu Star-Bulletin Hawaii News, August 26, 2001,  by Debra Barayuga

dbarayuga@starbulletin.comarchives.starbulletin.com/2001/08/26/news/story2.html

http://archives.starbulletin.com/2001/08/26/news/story2.html

 

Time to be Brave

 

A talented artist uses creativity to convey her thoughts about a possible parental divorce. The eyes and sad face indicate concern about what will happen next. While the other part is happy.  Fortunately, for this adolescent, the divorce did not take place. This artist states “t’s time to be brave. Time to be smart and brave and hardworking for a fair outcome. I couldn’t turn 18 soon enough…”.  Divorce is between the parents and should be about the child!

 

#539, Time to be Brave

Deviant Art; Daily Draw 16 Divorce by Whitehershey, https://www.deviantart.com/whitehershey/art/Daily-Draw-16-Divorce-736922371

 

Split in Two

 

This is a simple yet graphic example of what divorce may feel like for a child.  Being pulled by both parents.  The artist creates a sense of hurriedness and urgency.  Father seems to be taking large deliberate strives while the dress of mom is billowing in the wind of the speed.  Where is each parent going?  Regardless of the plans, each seems intent on taking the child with them.  Neither parent seems interested  in communicating with their child.  Will their son have the opportunity to share his thoughts?   

 

#508, Split in Two

 

Happy on the Outside

 

Standing under blue skies and white clouds a child surrounded by sporting event balls appears smiling.   The words state “I’m happy on the outside to everyone I know.” This child seems to be presenting as a happy person to everyone and sad on the inside. Divorce and custody may be distressing to some children. Offering emotional support is important. 

#533, Happy on the Outside

 

I Feel Mad…

 

A young child creates a visual for  expressing his thoughts. Child states: “I feel mad because my parents are divorced.” The artwork shows a sad faced green monster face. Hopefully, someone is reaching out to this child who is seemingly expressing emotional distress. Perhaps the parents will see the art and help him.

#533, I Feel Mad…