A child expresses her thoughts on parental divorce. I hope her parents are talking to her about what is happening. Children have a sense of how their world is changing. Talking about the occurrence of events is important to their overall adjustment to the divorce and separation.
#578, A Letter About ‘Difors’
The words of an adult child of divorce send an essential message for parents and family members: “Our actions can be hurtful and even cruel to our alienated parent and family. We don’t mean to act out, we don’t mean to be so rude. In this case, our actions are not our own. Please don’t take it personally. Someday our eyes will be opened and we will regret the way we treated you. Just love us through this hard time in our life…”
#577, “Not Our Fault”
FB Page: https://www.facebook.com/kidofpas/
Adolescents may be especially impacted by the events of divorce. There may be the expectation they ‘deal’ with what is happening. Sometimes, a friend or family member may have the chance to talk about what is happening in their world. Offering the opportunity to share their feelings is essential.
#578, …Bigger Feelings
Kids in the Middle: https://www.kidsinthemiddle.org
This child is being pulled in two different directions. Each parent is hanging on tightly. Notice how one parent seems to be pulling a little harder. Children want to have both parents close by. Children want to have a relationship with both parents. Working together means the child has a reciprocating and loving relationship with each parent. Support Equal Shared Parenting!
Divorce by lexidh
This very talented artist faces the ‘monster’ of divorce. Excellent depiction of the emotional experiences of divorce from the child’s perspective. The artist shares: “As Kubo walked into the dark, gloomy cave, he suddenly heard a noise and swiftly turned around to it’s source, he looked but there was no one there, he turned back around and gazed at the sight of the monster ,The Monster of abandonment ,and despair, he swiftly grabbed his guitar and shamisen,and started to play.”
info about the art from the artist:
“Okay, the shadowy wolf thing its actually what I had to deal with in my elementary school years ,you see my elementary school years were not the best ,I had to face betrayal ,abandonment ,loneliness ,and my family now divorced ,and many other things ,but it wasn’t until jr. high that I met my friend ,which is now my friend even to today.”
#569/447, Kubo and the Monster
Deviant Art, Kub and the Monster by cookiedragon202
Categories: A Child’s View, Reality of Divorce, Impact on child
A heart wrenching portrayal of parental ‘Devorce” for one child. The red heart at eye level of the individual stands out the most. Who is the person taking a very large knife to the ‘heart’ of the tree. Is this a child sharing their experience of emotional hurt? Or, is this artist depicting a parent taking a knife to the emotional heart of the child? Numerous jagged edges appear throughout the tree branches indicating aggressiveness. What is this child artist revealing with this artwork? Is this child able to spend time with both parents? There are many questions without answers with this startling artwork.
#566, I Hate Devorce.
A large knife across the entire page sets the tone for this thought. Perhaps, the ransom style note indicates anonymity as the child is unable to express how they feel to either parent. How does a child reconcile mean statements about their co-parent? Divorce is between the parents and about the child. Hopefully, someone will allow this child to share their emotional experiences about parental divorce.
#565, Cut in Half
Stunning artwork! This child is surrounded by a very large inventory of toys! Yet, she appears very sad. Two parents appear in the shadows. Both parents are on the phone, in what appears to be, a heated conversation. The look on the face of this young girl is captivating. Has she experienced hearing her parents fight before? Will her parents notice their daughter and tend to her emotional needs? Seemingly, regardless of the number of toys, overhearing harsh words by the two people she loves, adores and trusts may be confusing and disruptive to her emotional world.
Deviant Art. Something is Missing by VivalaVida.
Link to artwork: http://vivalavida.deviantart.com/art/Something-is-missing-176997189
#557-277, Something is Missing