Pulled in Two Directions

 

This child is being pulled in two different directions.  Each parent is hanging on tightly. Notice how one parent seems to be pulling a little harder.  Children want to have both parents close by.  Children want to have a relationship with both parents.   Working together means the child has a reciprocating and loving relationship with each parent.  Support Equal Shared Parenting!

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Divorce by lexidh

# 570/230 http://lexidh.deviantart.com/art/Divorce-17369912

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Kubo and the Monster

 

This very talented artist faces the ‘monster’ of divorce.  Excellent depiction of the emotional experiences of divorce from the child’s perspective. The artist shares: “As Kubo walked into the dark, gloomy cave, he suddenly heard a noise and swiftly turned around to it’s source, he looked but there was no one there, he turned back around and gazed at the sight of the monster ,The Monster of abandonment ,and despair, he swiftly grabbed his guitar and shamisen,and started to play.”

info about the art from the artist:
“Okay, the shadowy wolf thing its actually what I had to deal with in my elementary school years ,you see my elementary school years were not the best ,I had to face betrayal ,abandonment ,loneliness ,and my family now divorced ,and many other things ,but it wasn’t until jr. high that I met my friend ,which is now my friend even to today.”

#569/447, Kubo and the Monster

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Deviant Art, Kub and the Monster by cookiedragon202

http://cookiedragon202.deviantart.com/art/Kubo-and-The-Monster-645096365

Categories: A Child’s View, Reality of Divorce, Impact on child

 

 

I hate Devorce

 

 A heart wrenching portrayal of parental ‘Devorce” for one child.  The red heart at eye level  of the individual stands out the most. Who is the person taking a very large knife to the ‘heart’ of the tree.  Is this a child sharing their experience of emotional hurt? Or, is this artist  depicting a parent taking a knife to the emotional heart of the child?  Numerous jagged edges appear throughout the tree branches indicating aggressiveness. What is this child artist revealing with this artwork? Is this child able to spend time with both parents? There are many questions without answers with this startling artwork. 

 

 

#566, I Hate Devorce.

Cut in Half

A large knife across the entire page sets the tone for this thought.  Perhaps,  the ransom style note indicates anonymity as the child is unable to express how they feel to either parent.  How does a child reconcile mean statements about their co-parent?  Divorce is between the parents and about the child.  Hopefully, someone will allow this child to share their emotional experiences  about parental divorce.

#565, Cut in Half

Counting the Days

 

An adolescent is marking the days until they turn age 18.  Does this mean more freedom? Or, the ability to make their own decisions and deciding where they want to live? What happens at that point?    Notably, Young adults still benefit from parental guidance.

#564, Counting the Days

Something is Missing

 

Stunning artwork! This child is surrounded by a very large inventory of toys! Yet, she appears very sad. Two parents appear in the shadows. Both parents are on the phone, in what appears to be, a heated conversation. The look on the face of this young girl is captivating. Has she experienced hearing her parents fight before? Will her parents notice their daughter and tend to her emotional needs? Seemingly, regardless of the number of toys, overhearing harsh words by the two people she loves, adores and trusts may be confusing and disruptive to her emotional world.

Deviant Art.  Something is Missing by VivalaVida.

Link to artwork: http://vivalavida.deviantart.com/art/Something-is-missing-176997189

#557-277, Something is Missing

Before and After Divorce

 

One young artist shares a “before” drawing on top, and a pic of her family “after” in the bottom picture.  This child presents her family as happy and fun.  Everyone is smiling.  Artist is holding her arm wide open indicating confidence and high self-esteem.  In the after pic, no one is smiling.  Each parent is turned away from the child.  Notice how her arms are held tightly to her body.  Restricted movement.  Is this how she feel emotionally?  Is either parent acknowledging the changes occurring in their family?

Family ‘BEFORE’

Family ‘AFTER’

 

Kids in the Middle is an agency geared toward helping the family during the divorce process.  They are located in Maplewood Missouri.(314) 909-9922
#551, Before and After Divorce