If this is true, then what happens in the family is ultra important!  All the more reason to work together  as co-parents.  Putting the child first is always in the child’s best interest.  Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!


"P𝔢𝔯𝔥𝔞𝔭𝔰 𝑦𝔬𝔲 𝔞𝔯𝔢 𝔴𝔯𝔬𝔫𝔤 𝔞𝔟𝔬𝔲𝔱 𝔠𝔬𝔪𝔭𝔞𝔫𝔦𝔬𝔫𝔰𝔥𝔦𝔭 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔣𝔯𝔦𝔢𝔫𝔡𝔰𝔥𝔦𝔭... 𝔄𝔫𝔡 𝔣𝔞𝔪𝔦𝔩𝑦 𝔪𝔞𝔱𝔱𝔢𝔯𝔰.
 𝔑𝔬 𝔪𝔞𝔱𝔱𝔢𝔯 𝔴𝔥𝔬 𝔴𝔢 𝔪𝔢𝔢𝔱 𝔬𝔯 𝔴𝔥𝔞𝔱 𝔴𝔢 𝔤𝔢𝔱 𝔞𝔱𝔱𝔞𝔠𝔥𝔢𝔡 𝔱𝔬, 𝔴𝔢 𝔞𝔯𝔢 𝔞𝔩𝔴𝔞𝑦𝔰 𝔞𝔩𝔬𝔫𝔢.
 𝓘𝔱 𝔰𝔢𝔢𝔪𝔰 𝔱𝔥𝔞𝔱 𝔬𝔫𝔩𝑦 𝔱𝔥𝔯𝔬𝔲𝔤𝔥 𝔬𝔲𝔯 𝔩𝔬𝔳𝔢 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔣𝔞𝔪𝔦𝔩𝑦 𝔱𝔦𝔢𝔰 𝔠𝔞𝔫 𝔴𝔢 𝔠𝔞𝔰𝔱 𝔞𝔫 𝔦𝔩𝔩𝔲𝔰𝔦𝔬𝔫 𝔱𝔥𝔞𝔱 𝔴𝔢 
 𝔞𝔯𝔢 𝔫𝔬𝔱 𝔞𝔩𝔬𝔫𝔢."


#305, Family

Worth the Struggles


Perfectly said!  Is fighting for your child worth the effort?  YES!!!!!  Each parent has unique traits and skills to offer their child.   Each parent has a right to spend time with their child and to parent their child.  The better question is WHY do parents need to go to court to fight for their parental rights.  Divorce is between the parents and ABOUT THE CHILD!!!!  LOVE WINS!!!   LOVE WINS!!! 


So I’m kicking back on my family holiday, away from all the problems back home. Spending real family time together and getting to know my child, more than I ever did before. His snoring keeps me awake at night, so I stand on the balcony. I stop and think, was the disputes and courts necessary? Was all the money worth my final outcome? Will things get better in the future? It’s a lot to think and worry about. Then I look backs into the room and there he is smiling while sleeping. I smile, because all my question were answered! Damn right it was worth it because I love him and I know he needs me too. Who’s going to show him how to be a man if daddy isn’t there? I’m sure mummy can’t do that, no offence. We are different genders and have different roles for a reason don’t we?


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#288, Worth the Struggles

Think First

Advice to someone considering marriage. While the advice is simple, reasons for divorce are usually anything but simple.  Nonetheless, this individual conveys the message that marriage is a serious endeavor in life. To think before marrying someone and once married…stay married.  Simple answers for tough questions.  

Here is my advice on divorce:  just think twice or more before going in to marriage because once you find your self in an unhappy marriage,  the problem of divorce creates a sense of failure.  Take time before going into a marriage.  Too much is at stake.  Why risk your child’s happiness.  Once married, stay married.  No matter what.


#285, Think First

Game Changer


This parent shares the heartache of her divorce.  She recognizes that her daughters life has been altered-and not for the best.  Divorce changes things-for everyone.  A child is subjected to the decisions of the parents.  Their life is totally uprooted.  Their sense of security is threatened.  Undoubtedly, divorce changes the outcome of what may have been.

Divorce is a game changer.  After battling in family court for over 12 years  I can say that this has changed my daughter.  There is a big wall around her.  She is guarded and has never returned to the innocent, happy go-lucky child she was before the divorce. Everyday I struggle to understand her.  I know that she struggles each day as well.  Trying to make sense of what happened to her happy family and her sense of safety.


#283, Game Changer

Age of Shared Parenting


This parent shares the objective of shared parenting!  And, the reality of shared parenting!  The saddest part of parents NOT working together is the impact on the child!  A child is ‘forced’ to live their life without one parent.  Just because the parents cannot work together.  Shameful!!!!

Again:  Two parents are in the best interest of the child!  Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!!!!!   LOVE WINS!!!


We live in a time of a shared parenting world.  Yet, for many children, shared parenting is denied.  I know.  I am divorced.  My kids are divorced from me.

Children of divorce are separated from their parents because the parents are in dispute over living arrangements.  Laws and social policy guidelines are outdated.  The ‘system’ put in place to act in the best interest of the child  damages the parent child relationship.  The ‘system’ destroys the child’s choice to communicate with both parents.   When a parent is removed from the child’s life on a daily basis the child becomes the victim.  We need to do something.  The relationship with my 2 children is destroyed. Knowing that my kids will learn the truth in 10 years offers little comfort.  For now, I am missing out on the moments of their lives.  School days, sport practices, and friends after school.  Breakfast and dinner together are ….gone.  Going to church as a family……gone.  Living my life with joy……..gone.  The unfair courts have ruined my life.  If you are thinking about divorce-don’t do it.  Do what you can to stay together.  Staying in a bad marriage is better than  a divorce.


#272, Age of Shared Parenting



An adult child of divorce shares thoughts on divorce:



I know what fighting is like..I seen it..I mean some people just think of themselves and not the sake of the kid…it’s sad when this stuff happens and it makes me sad to see this happens far too often..I wish people would know what they are doing before they get married.


#240, Sad

Before You Divorce…


The impact of divorce for the child is HUGE!   Here is a message from one parent to anyone thinking about divorce!

Note: Anyone thinking about divorce-please read the entries on this site (and other websites). Messages from moms, dads, children and outsiders…..this reveals the true impact of divorce.


To anyone thinking about divorce,

PLEASE PLEASE read up on divorce and your child!  Find out how your child will change when you divorce!

Divorce changes EVERYTHING!  Divorce will CHANGE your child!!!!!  Your child will NEVER be the same.  AND NOT IN A GOOD WAY!  There will always be a hole in their heart!  They will always wonder about who else may leave them or betray them.  If you are in an unhappy marriage STAY if you can.  You may have a few years of unhappiness. But if you can spare your child the trauma of divorce, STAY MARRIED.  Of course, if there is abuse this may not work.  BUT, think about your child first!  There are many books and websites on how divorce changes your child’s life.  Read these BEFORE choosing divorce.

I wishy my parents did!!!


#236, Before You Divorce…