Advice From a Divorce Attorney


A divorce attorney shares his thoughts on divorce.  To provide a home and family for their children.   This is an interesting take given his profession. The focus of his words are on the true matters of divorce-the children!  He is right on the money.

Going through a divorce is hard. Divorce is especially hard when there are children involved. As a divorce attorney I have seen many couples continue to fight over the custody and financial support of their children.

I secretly think that parents should seek counseling before going through the motions of divorce. Fix the marriage and provide a life for your children. As planned, in the beginning, when your children were born.


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Rather Than…

Excellent advice!   Research shows that a child exposed to parental conflict is MORE likely to experience social and academic problems. They are MORE likely to have physical health issues and mental healthy issues including depression and anxiety disorders.   Shielding the child from parental conflict during the divorce is a WIN for everyone.


Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!



Rather than looking at the family after 10 years post divorce and asking “what is there”- let’s look at the family and see what is not there. Kids not in trouble.  Kids not experiencing problems in school or hanging in out with the wrong crowds.  This is all because their parents were united and  had a friendly divorce.


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Best Security Blanket


How true!  The best gift a parent can give their child is to have parents who love and respect each other.  Perfectly said!

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Worst Thing


This parent shares their thoughts on divorce and the impact of divorce on their child.  She recognizes how divorce has changed her daughter.  Their family unit has been altered by divorce and the parental conflict during and following the divorce.


Divorce is the worst thing that can happen to a child.  Parental divorce can be a life changer for children when the post divorce relationship is painfully different from the pre divorce relationship. After battling in family court for 12 years,  I have seen what this  has done to my daughter.  It has placed a big wall up in her life. Each day there is the task to   help her understand it all.   I would give anything to spare my daughter from the grief that my divorce has caused her.


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Fault Line in the Family


One parent shares the reality of divorce!  When there is parental conflict the child suffers!  When parents are unable to maintain a cordial relationship, the child goes without.  The reality is that when parents expose their kids to a lot of mudslinging and bad behavior, the child suffers.


Divorce causes a fault line in families. I have had the misfortune to witness it twice at close range although my parents have never divorced and I have never married!

My current partner and my ex were both married with kids. The sad thing in both cases is the mothers wanted the kids to side with them and used them as pawns which damaged them irreparably. Things were never the same and never healed.

Kids are lied to, manipulated and led to believe their fathers are the worst thing on this earth which is not the case!


#318, Fault line in the Family

Not Their Fault


This parent shares the reality of divorce!  THE IMPACT ON THE CHILD!!!!!  Sadly, children are the innocent victims of divorce.  They have no voice in the divorce.  They have no opinion on how to handle the logistics of daily living.  They are subject to the decisions and actions of their parents.  This is why Shared Parenting is so important.  

Divorce is between the parents-  ABOUT THE CHILD!!!



Children should be the number one reason not to get divorced! The effects that is has on them can be life altering. It’s not their fault that mommy and daddy are too immature to make a marriage work.


#316, Not Their Fault




If this is true, then what happens in the family is ultra important!  All the more reason to work together  as co-parents.  Putting the child first is always in the child’s best interest.  Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!


"P𝔢𝔯𝔥𝔞𝔭𝔰 𝑦𝔬𝔲 𝔞𝔯𝔢 𝔴𝔯𝔬𝔫𝔤 𝔞𝔟𝔬𝔲𝔱 𝔠𝔬𝔪𝔭𝔞𝔫𝔦𝔬𝔫𝔰𝔥𝔦𝔭 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔣𝔯𝔦𝔢𝔫𝔡𝔰𝔥𝔦𝔭... 𝔄𝔫𝔡 𝔣𝔞𝔪𝔦𝔩𝑦 𝔪𝔞𝔱𝔱𝔢𝔯𝔰.
 𝔑𝔬 𝔪𝔞𝔱𝔱𝔢𝔯 𝔴𝔥𝔬 𝔴𝔢 𝔪𝔢𝔢𝔱 𝔬𝔯 𝔴𝔥𝔞𝔱 𝔴𝔢 𝔤𝔢𝔱 𝔞𝔱𝔱𝔞𝔠𝔥𝔢𝔡 𝔱𝔬, 𝔴𝔢 𝔞𝔯𝔢 𝔞𝔩𝔴𝔞𝑦𝔰 𝔞𝔩𝔬𝔫𝔢.
 𝓘𝔱 𝔰𝔢𝔢𝔪𝔰 𝔱𝔥𝔞𝔱 𝔬𝔫𝔩𝑦 𝔱𝔥𝔯𝔬𝔲𝔤𝔥 𝔬𝔲𝔯 𝔩𝔬𝔳𝔢 𝔞𝔫𝔡 𝔣𝔞𝔪𝔦𝔩𝑦 𝔱𝔦𝔢𝔰 𝔠𝔞𝔫 𝔴𝔢 𝔠𝔞𝔰𝔱 𝔞𝔫 𝔦𝔩𝔩𝔲𝔰𝔦𝔬𝔫 𝔱𝔥𝔞𝔱 𝔴𝔢 
 𝔞𝔯𝔢 𝔫𝔬𝔱 𝔞𝔩𝔬𝔫𝔢."


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