Welcome to the Place for Poetry of the Personal!

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Confess your feelings of betrayal, fear, heartache or humiliation that you have experienced in your divorce or co-parenting situation.

Share a setting that you regret or a situation that may have caused anguish, misery or sorrow  for your co-parent.  Or, reveal actions that may have promoted emotional pain or unhappiness for your child.

Confessions are not limited to heartache only.  Please share heartwarming moments and happy experiences you have experienced in divorce and shared parenting too!  Perhaps, something your co-parent did or said that has enhanced your co-parenting relationship.  

Here is anopportunity to share the confessions about your divorce or co-parenting experiences. This can be something that you have told to family and friends or a private thought that has remained a secret…….until now. Focus on extreme moments of individual experiences.  

This is a place to confess what your co-parent did or said that led to your feelings of betrayal, fear or humiliation. Write about something that you enacted, a statement or a thought you expressed that caused grief for your co-parent, your child or yourself.  

We learn from others experiences and situations. Perhaps in reading these scenarios, co-parents can identify with issues they are also experiencing.   Hopefully,one can see how some actions can have long-term negative effects and cause pain for their co-parent or child!   Importantly, by reading these stories co-parents can see that they are not alone in the thoughts and feelings surrounding their divorce and co-parenting relationship.

Invitation is extended to:

  • Parents who are divorced or in the process of divorce.
  • Parents and co-parents (never married) who have children.
  • Parents who have or do not have a parenting plan in place.
  • Anyone interested in a front row seat to see the despair that divorce or co-parenting issues can have on a parent and how the actions impact the child.
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50-50 Custody!

 

A great message for fathers seeking custody (mothers too). Both parents are fighting for parental rights.  Fighting for the rights of the child.  A child needs and wants to have a relationship with both parents.  This pic represents an unfortunate reality for many fathers (and  mothers).  Shared from The West Virginia Father’s Rights Movement FB page: https://www.facebook.com/TFRMWV/

 

#509, 50-50 Custody!

Shared from The West Virginia Father’s Rights Movement FB page: https://www.facebook.com/TFRMWV/

Left Out

 

Sometimes in divorce, the dynamics change and one parent is left out. This shows how dad is not part of the picture for this child. Three-fourths of the pic is mom and child with a bright sun, blue skies, birds, a butterfly, flowers and green grass. Both are smiling. Child is displaying an especially large smile. A small part of the pic is dedicated to dad. Gray-tones set the dreary mood with a few large blue rain drops falling upon dad. Grass is gray, one flower in gray in droopy. Dad is miniature indicating he is less important. Dad, standing on a mound of gray does not appear to be smiling. A very unfortunate portrayal of this parent. I wonder if mom knows how important the father-child relationship is to the emotional and physical development of her child. 

#493, Left Out

 

Silenced

 

A graphic representation of parental conflict for one child. Each parent seems intent in continuing their ‘unfriendly’ conversation.  Neither parent seems concerned the child is overhearing the argument. The tape on her mouth sends the message no one is concerned  in what the child has to say or thinking about this. Parental conflict is confusing and damaging to the child. How utterly sad for this child.

#492, Silenced

 

A Child Not Therapist

An adolescent shares their thoughts on hearing each parent vent about the other. Divorce is between the parents and about the child. Involving the child in the adult matters of divorce is difficult and unfair. Keep in mind, the child is experiencing emotions about the major changes happening in their world. Making sure the child has adequate emotional support is important.

 

#491, A Child Not Therapist

Whisper/sh

Divorce Through the Ages

 

This talented artist presents parental divorce through her experiences as a child to young adulthood. She presents the heart wrenching moments in the milestone events of parental divorce. This poem is emotionally captivating and touches on the emotions and experiences of a child growing up in the midst of  parental divorce. 

The artist comments: “I realized for the first time today disappointment goes both ways in a parent/child relationship, and this is the product.”On that note, I don’t blame their divorce for my failures. I take full responsibility for those. But my parents still shaped who I am to an extent, and that’s what I’m trying to get across in the last line. (WHICH IS MY FAVORITE PART I LOVE THAT GLASS METAPHOR SO MUCH MORE FOR ME).”

Divorce

7 years old

My dad calls me and my siblings to the living room
Where he and my mom sit, smiles on their faces
That, looking back, I’m not sure were genuine anymore
My dad asks
“Imagine we moved to an island with two tents;
One with your mom, and one with me. Which one would you like to live in?”I don’t know much but I know I don’t like this question
So I answer
“I would put the two tents together so we can all live in one big one!”
Because that’s the only answer that doesn’t leave my tongue
With a foul taste, like when I somehow got soap
On my RingpopMy parents smile,
but I know my imagination
isn’t welcome on this imaginary island9 years oldI’m way too young
to feel like the tape
you use to close that tattered box
that somehow became too small to hold your Christmas tree
But putting the tree back at work today
I realize that’s exactly how I felt11 years oldMy parents are fighting
(Again)
And I guess it must’ve been really bad
Because my mom storms up
And tells us whatever the reason they were fighting
(Or maybe just because of the fighting)
She was moving out Feburary of next year
I remember crying
But I don’t remember being sad
Or surprised14 years old

Twice as old as I was
When they first asked
And I still don’t like
Choosing tents

16 years old
I love her enough to call her “Ma”
But mom doesn’t like that so I stop
I wonder if she knew the love was
Still there

I wonder if it’s my fault
She left

19 years old

In a few years
It’ll be socially acceptable
For me to get married

And of course
If that happens
I hope it works out

Of course I hope
Life in general will work out
That I’ll make my parents proud

But if it doesn’t
When it doesn’t
I hope they remember
Who it was that taught me
Promises are made of glass

#487, Divorce Through the Ages
DeviantArt.comby kushamisaru at DeviantArt.com.
Artwork, Deviant Art, titled Enlightenment created by candiceshadow

Divorce Agreement

 

This talented artist presents a collection of scenes representing the divorce process. The black/white contrasted with crimson petals reveals the starkness of divorce. Tears of petals appearing as flower and heart shapes in the middle row sets the tone of sadness. The trail of petals in the last frame summarizes the essence of divorce in some families.

Note: The artist created this piece as a backstory for a character used in a storyline. She states her parents are not divorced and have a ‘happy relationship’.  She brilliantly captures the emotional aspect of divorce for a character further speaking to her creativity.  Excellent work!

 

 

#486, Divorce Agreement

Deviant Art, CutieEevee1

https://cutieeevee1.deviantart.com/art/Day-6-Hanahaki-With-Backstory-708305784