Setting Boundaries

 

“When you start to set boundaries with the narc or anyone else, you won’t do it perfectly at first. You have to do it again and again to get it right. Here’s a suggestion about telling people what your boundaries are. Practice in front of a mirror. Say it out loud.

This is a new skill and it will take practice just like anything else. If you continue to practice, then your boundaries will get stronger over time as YOU get stronger. What you might have timidly asserted as a boundary at one point, a year later if that person tries to cross that boundary, you’re likely to be a mama/papa bear.

Here’s the thing….START NOW, and remember this is a learned skill, so give your self time. You can do this.”

Meme via Give Her Wings…

#576, Setting Boundaries

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Broken Holidays

 

Holidays and family rituals play an essential role in our memories. One artist shares their interpretation of the how divorce of a favorite aunt has changed their holiday experiences. This artwork was created “after I learned of the impending divorce of one of my aunt and uncles… And the fact that said aunt probably wouldn’t be coming to that Thanksgiving or Christmas with the family. Family gatherings for my family generally means a lot of very delicious food, so that’s what came to mind with the image.”  Hopefully, this artist will connect with their relatives.  This will be a holiday season this artist remembers.

Deviant Art broken_holidays_by_silvervistani

 

Deviant Art, Broken Holidays

#1336, Broken Holidays

Love, Me

 

An endearing letter to Santa! An interesting part of this letter is how the letter is signed; Love, Me.    Notably, Me is the most prominent word!  Are her parents aware of how she feels? Is anyone acknowledging her concerns about parental conflict? I wonder how many children (and parents) will miss spending Christmas together as a family this year. Perhaps, we could overlook the obvious and refrain from asking whatever happened to a list of toys for Christmas? I hope Santa can to ‘deliver’ the gift of peace this year!

Deviant Art Dear Santa love me m

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Deviant Art, Family by bahjarox.

Link to artwork: http://www.deviantart.com/art/Family-273867701

#1313, Love, Me

 

 

Before and After in Color

Art is a way for children to express their feelings and thoughts.  This artwork demonstrates a difference in how they perceive their word.  Notice how the white and fluffy clouds turn to black scribbles with very jagged bolts of lightening. The sun is sad with tears and the flowers are wilted.  Even the tree is smaller and filled with less color.  This child appears to be experiencing changes in her world.  I hope the parents or teacher reach out to this child.  Divorce is between the parents and about the child.  

#580 Before and After Color

…Bigger Feelings

Adolescents may be especially impacted by the events of divorce.  There may be the expectation they ‘deal’ with what is happening. Sometimes, a friend or family member may have the chance to talk about what is happening in their world.  Offering the opportunity to share their feelings is essential.  

#578, …Bigger Feelings

Kids in the Middle: https://www.kidsinthemiddle.org

Focusing on Solutions

Helping children cope with the divorce is an important part of the process. This offers a guide for children and adolescents talking about how to cope with their emotions and experiences. https://www.wikihow.com/Cope-with-Divorce-As-a-Child

#577, Focusing on Solutions