Celebs and Parental Divorce

 

Everyone experiences divorce differently; Yet the emotions and feelings are the same. Celebrity status does not offset the experiences and reactions to parental divorce. Here is what the celebs are saying about their experience with parental divorce:

 

Nicole Richie:

 In a 2004 interview with Oprah,
Nicole Richie revealed how her dad Lionel Ritchie’s 1993 divorce from her mother, Brenda, affected her at eight years old: “When my dad divorced my mom it was kind of like him leaving me also.”

 

Justin Bieber:  

During a 2010 concert, Justin Bieber reportedly broke down after performing “Down to Earth,” a song inspired by his parent’s split, which happened when the pop star was three.

“My parents splitting up is definitely not one of the highlights of my life. It’s sad, the kid experiences feeling like one of his parents left,” Bieber reportedly told Twist magazine in June 2010. “It makes you not feel so good. I think a lot of kids have had their parents split up, and they should know that it wasn’t because of something they did.”
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 Pink: 
In a 2007 interview with the Sunday Telegraph, singer Pink said she morphed into an angry teen following her parent’s divorce. “I was never allowed to go over to any of my friends’ houses when I was little, because I was the bad influence,” she said. “None of their parents liked me and my own parents were scared to death of me — and for me.”
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 Justin Timberlake: 
In the August 2011 issue of Elle, Justin Timberlake talked about the impact his parent’s divorce had on him. “My parents divorced when I was three. I’m humbly and honestly finding out that I have a lot of issues with that,” Timberlake told the magazine. “I’m finding more and more that… I’m going to break the chain because that’s what you want to do, break the chain of your parents. But at some point, it’s in your blood and you have a thing that happens and you’re like, ‘Holy s**t, my parents did that.'”
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Bette Davis: 
Film legend Bette Davis allegedly had this to say  about her parent’s divorce, which occured when she was seven years old: “Of course I replaced my father. I became my own father and everyone else’s.”
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Mary Kate Olsen and Ashley:

A co-celeb shared their observation: “They saw dad and mom fight alot- and then suddenly dad was gone. He stays an active part of their lives, but he isn’t there to tuck them into bed or read them stories.”

“They’re unhappy. It’s sad to see them.”

 

Actor and former footballer Vinnie Jones:

‘I had a brilliant childhood until Mum and Dad divorced when I was 13. That changed my life because it was like one of your parents dying. Divorce makes you rebel – it gives you insecurities and a licence to do what you want, because your mum and dad are always playing a game with you.’

 

Socialite Tamara Ecclestone

‘All I wanted was for Mum and Dad to get back together. I felt like everything I’d known had gone. When they split up, I took refuge in food. I ate and ate and ate. But still I couldn’t fill the void. When they divorced I found it hard to deal with. It was a big change – and I’m not good with change.’

 

Actress Isla Fisher:

‘You can’t underestimate how traumatic divorce is for the children. When your parents divorce, it makes you grow up fast. I’d urge parents to strongly consider working things out. I’d work things out and I’d definitely stay put. Especially if there were babies involved.’

 

Igella Lawson:

‘Because my parents divorced when we were in our late teens, my siblings and I developed strong connections. you don’t live with your parents in the same way.’ Nigella recently divorced her second husband Charles Saatchi on the grounds of his continuing unreasonable behaviour.

 

One Direction’s Harry Styles

‘When I was seven my mum and dad divorced and that was quite a weird time. I remember crying about it. I didn’t really get what was going on properly – I was just sad that my parents wouldn’t be together any more.’

 

Alison Eastwood (daughter of Clint Eastwood)

‘My parents divorced when I was six. I had to grow up very fast. It’s hard as a kid not to take a break-up personally. Even if your parents say, ‘You did nothing wrong’, there’s still a part of you that thinks, ‘Is it me? Do they not love me?’ You feel like the glue that sticks them together, and when that comes undone, there’s always that awful little thing in the back of your mind. I felt rejected and that affects your self-esteem.’

 

Peaches Geldof (daughter of Bob Geldof and Paula Yates)

‘My parents had a very public, bitter divorce and I was old enough to see what was going on. People talked about us and I knew it was horrendous. For us children, it was an environment that was impossible, veering between a week with my mother and then a week with my father. It was like living on a permanent seesaw. Those feelings have stayed with me.’

 

Peter Huhne, son of former cabinet minister Chris Huhne

Devastated over his parents’ marriage break-up, his father’s infidelity and lies about a speeding offence, Peter [pictured with his mother Vicky Pryce] said to him: ‘So nice to see our entire relationship reduced to lies. Do you take me for an idiot? The fact you said your parents were happier as a result of their divorce was disgusting’ You are the most ghastly man I have ever known.’

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News presenter Susanna Reid 

‘I had a choppy childhood after my parents divorced when I was nine. When Mum told me that she and Dad were getting divorced, I cried and cried. I don’t blame them and I know it was the right thing, but it was so sad.’

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Singer Corrine Bailey Rae:

‘My parents divorced when I was a teenager. As the eldest of three sisters, I was my mum’s confidante. You grow up fast working out how something went wrong.’

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TV presenter Amanda De Cadenet

‘I came from a divorced home and displayed all the behaviour of a young woman struggling to find an identity and seeking to fill the loneliness with anything I could.’

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Selena Gomez

“I blamed my mom a lot [for the divorce] because I wanted a family so bad,”  “I wanted to have my mom and dad together. I remember just being angry with my mom. I still feel really bad about that.”

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Jennifer Aniston

“It was pretty crappy, I came home from a birthday party and he was moved out. It was pretty abrupt,”  “Sure, your dad leaves and disappears for a while, that’s pretty brutal. But that’s sort of the beauty of it. Like I said, I would never exchange any of it… Me making people laugh, finding the humor in things, trying to lighten up the mood between disgruntled parents, getting attention… It sort of was a survival technique.”
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Johnny Depp

“I recall hearing my parents argue and thinking: ‘Come on, this is torture. Just split!’ They stuck it out until I was 15, but I’d seen it coming for years. When they finally did divorce, I thought: ‘OK, this is the right thing’.”

#562, Celebs and Parental Divorce

 

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#575, In the Best Interest of Money

A Tender Moment

Everyone likes to be acknowledged.  In trying situations the positive words from a stranger can have life-long implications for both individuals. Here is a heart warming story about offering emotional support and recognizing the efforts of a devoted parent.

Tonight at a conference my eyes were drawn to a Father sitting next to us who had three young sons in his care. Probably ages 12, 9 & 7.
I watched on as I was amazed at the affection this Father showed for his sons.
No matter what they asked him, he gave each one his full attention. He kissed & hugged them continually.
I was wondering why I was so drawn to know his story. Where was Mum? Was he a single Dad? Did his wife pass away? I wasn’t sure but I’m eyes were transfixed on his love for them, and also the love the eldest son showed for his younger brothers.
When the conference finished I felt to tell him “he’s a great dad and that he needed to hear that”
As I walked past I leant down to his ear and said “I want you to know I was watching you with your boys, your a wonderful Father”
You should have seen his face light up. It was like he was shocked and then again so happy at that comment.
“Thank you” he said…
As I left the Auditorium I told my husband what I said and he also said he was going to say the same thing.
Ten minutes later my husband ran into him again where we were all picking up our kids.
He walked up to my husband and just asked how our night was.
I then approached their conversation and this man still intrigued me.
“What was his story we wondered?”
As my husband asked him where he was from and about the kids, he started to tell us how he brought his 5 kids (yes he also had 2 Girls) down from Brisbane for this 1 week conference. That he wanted more than anything to give his kids the joy of experiencing this and to have this time with them.
My ears starting to tune in, I was starting to feel I think I do have a single Dad here.
Then he drops the penny.
He hadn’t seen his kids in 3 month
s, they live further away from him, he’s in a messy court battle with his ex, he’s been told he’s not a good father and the story goes on.
I knew it. God works in mysterious ways doesn’t he. The amount of times I have had separated/divorced parents put in my path I can’t tell you.
I put my hand on his arm and said well I do understand as you are what I write and talk about.
With my eyes filling up I shared with him what I do (Voice4kids) and he was shocked. Even he said wow, this is a God moment.
I shared with him my heart (and yes I cried) as I told him what an amazing Dad I saw in him etc…
It was such a lovely moment that my husband and I were able to witness tonight.
I told him I feel to bless him with my 2 Books and he can’t wait to receive them.
*THESE ARE MOMENTS I LIVE FOR.
*THESE ARE THE MOMENTS I PRAY FOR.
*THIS IS WHY I DO WHAT I DO.

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#210, A Tender Moment

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Being a Daddy

 

A heartwarming story from an adoring father. As this story shows, being a father occurs at different levels. Research is consistent in showing how fathers play a unique role in the cognitive, emotional, physical, and spiritual development of their child. 

 

I want to share something that means a lot to me this evening. It might not mean much to the parent who sees their child or children every day. Perhaps it will.
For the first time about one week ago, my son had a part of his toy ambulance stop working. The various siren sounds stopped working when any of the three buttons on top of the toy were pushed, but the lights would still flash when any of the buttons were pushed. My son, through merely observing his initial reaction, could tell there was no sound coming from his toy. He didn’t understand why there was silence present instead of sirens roaring.
Fast forward to tonight. After my son was picked up by his mother and I took care of a personal matter, I fixed his toy ambulance. It was an easy fix where even the most inept person in fixing things could have figured out the remedy. Silence be gone! Sirens be blasting!
The point is, I fixed one of my son’s toys for him tonight. I was dad helping out my boy, even though he wasn’t here to see it. I feel so much joy right now over something most may or even would deem as insignificant. It’s not to me. To me, it’s another piece of me being daddy to my boy. I love it, and my heart’s at peace and my eyelids are watery. If my son and I spent time with each other considerably more than the approximately 7.5% of the week we currently do, perhaps this wouldn’t be so poignant and sentimental to me.
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“To me, it’s another piece of me being daddy to my boy”.

#538 Being a Daddy

Shared by an adoring father, Jason Gearhart, fighting for equal shared parenting for all parents and children. Permission granted 9/25/2018 approx. 10: 09 p.m.