One father shares the humiliation he experienced due to false accusations by his ex.  This is the reality for many fathers (and some mothers).  Fathers’ lives are RUINED because of  the lies and games played and the lack of support within the Family Court  system.  

This speaks to the need for Family Court reform.  

Looking back over the past 3 years I can see that I was in a deep state of depression.  I  was ashamed because of the lies and accusations made by my ex.  I was ashamed because I was unable to protect my children from my wife who had ‘mental health problems.

I was falsely accused and labeled as an abuser.  I lost my job.  I had to move into my parents home.  I was labeled as a trouble maker in my county’s courthouse. The self-help division of family court even refused to help me.  The pain and shame I experienced will NEVER leave me.

I am unable to hold my head up high.  I can not live a normal life because of what my ex did.

The pain and shame will stay with me forever!


#340, Ashamed




The Devil


This parent makes a succinct  declaration of the impact of PA has had in their life!  Many families are torn apart due to PA behavioral tendencies.  Sadly, too many children are forced to deal with emotional heartache and inner grief resulting from one parent choosing to engage in behaviors complicating the child’s relationship with their parent. A child has a right to have a loving relationship with BOTH parents! 

Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!



After living in HELL for 7 months due to the divorce and custody hearings- I am convinced; Family Court is the devil himself! The devil uses the family court to destroy a family-especially the child!  The judge and the attorneys are the messengers.


#329, The Devil

Game Changer


This parent shares the heartache of her divorce.  She recognizes that her daughters life has been altered-and not for the best.  Divorce changes things-for everyone.  A child is subjected to the decisions of the parents.  Their life is totally uprooted.  Their sense of security is threatened.  Undoubtedly, divorce changes the outcome of what may have been.

Divorce is a game changer.  After battling in family court for over 12 years  I can say that this has changed my daughter.  There is a big wall around her.  She is guarded and has never returned to the innocent, happy go-lucky child she was before the divorce. Everyday I struggle to understand her.  I know that she struggles each day as well.  Trying to make sense of what happened to her happy family and her sense of safety.


#283, Game Changer

A Plea for Help


An 11-year-old is able to summarize what many courts have not. Thankfully, this judge was astute enough to see this child’s plea for help! Truly, a case of the parents putting their anger and hatred before the needs of the child.  


She has witnessed countless bitter rows between her warring parents, including an incident at her primary school assembly that led to police being called. Her mother, a health worker, admits she has an alcohol abuse problem and her behaviour towards her former husband and his new wife has been ”appalling”.

Her parents can barely speak to each other. Tempers flared when her father took her on an overseas trip without telling her mother.

But when she wrote a school project about a child trapped in a vicious custody battle, a Family Court judge heard a cry for help.

”This has got to stop,” the 11-year-old known as ”T” wrote in a childish cursive script. ”Not in a few years. Not when people can finally be [bothered] to do it. It needs to be done NOW!”

In four sentences, the student traced the despair of thousands of children dragged into messy familial dramas in the courts – and their struggle to be heard above the fray.

”The heading of the writing … said that in the Family Court, children should have a say,” Justice Paul Cronin said in a judgment published last week.

”She said the court got to choose the residence of a child or what the child did, and she rhetorically asked whether that was fair. She said that children should have a day to go into the court and speak up.

”In a pointed remark, the child wrote that adults buy and build houses and children should at least get an opportunity to decide where they lived and with whom they wanted to live.”

Since 2006, the Family Court has been required to take into account any views expressed by the child when making parenting orders. In the vast majority of cases, their views are filtered through a lawyer, psychologist or a family consultant, who is an officer of the court.

T’s writing project, in a school exercise book, was brought to the court’s attention by one of the psychologists who gave evidence. The child, he said, had been living in a ”tragic split world” since her parents separated when she was five. She was ”the linchpin through which parental conflict was channelled”. The law says the Family Court’s ”paramount consideration” when making parenting orders is the interests of the child.

But for children such as T, who was assigned an independent lawyer by Legal Aid, court disputes over where they will live, and how, seem focused squarely on the parents.

Justice Cronin noted that much of the evidence in this case was about her mother and father, ”even though they may not have seen it that way”.

He said T’s mother was ”disarmingly candid” about her drinking problem but had produced records that it was under control. If she was unable to curb the problem, he said, ”the Sword of Damocles may now be sitting there” and T’s father would be ”well within his rights” to argue he could not have a relationship with his daughter while she was part of her mother’s world.

In a second piece of writing, T wrote about a family ”falling apart” and a father who was ”mean to her mother”.

”It has all of the remarkable hallmarks of the child referring to her own family situation,” Justice Cronin said.

”It oozes with particularity in her stream of consciousness. In a bizarre ending, the mother is stabbed. The child returns home to find her mother covered in ‘bright red blood’. It is a cry for help.”

The judge made parenting orders running to 27 paragraphs, including that neither parent should contact the other, outside of emergencies, until they had agreed in writing that they could be civil about their daughter. ”Unfortunately their focus has been on each other rather than on the child,” he wrote. ”It is time to stop for the child’s sake.”


Sydney Morning Herald.  Childs school project becomes a plea to the family court.

#270, A Plea for Help


Devastation of Divorce


One parent (father), shares thoughts on missing his daughter. As in many cases, the separation of parent and child is often due to rulings of the Family Court system.



I am so broken. I just want to hold my baby girl again.

Tell her I Love her. Tell her I never abandoned her.

How can the courts do this to our children?



#248, Devastation of Divorce

All is Well


A touching pic.  The words capture the mind of the parent who has struggled with issues of PAS.  Most parents want to the ability to parent their child.  As this pic shows, “All is well when all ends well!”

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Child Support Lawyers


A common theme.  

Parental conflict creates a sense of insecurity in the child.  Research shows that parental conflict can lead to a higher likelihood that the child will have emotional issues, do poorly in school and have social and relationship issues. Remember, parent’s are the child’s first and most important teachers.  A child learns about relationships from watching their parents.

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Deviant Art, by whiteandass.

Link to artwork:

#207, Child Support Lawyers