Are Family Members Cropable?

 

This reveals a common theme in divorce for too many parents. The inclusion of both parents  in children’s live is an undeniable necessity.   Somehow, many parents of custody/divorce have become ‘crop-able’ from family pictures and the the family unit. Children need and want to have a relationship with BOTH parents.  

Divorce is between the parents and about the child!

# 478, Are Family Members Cropable?

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Missing Out: First Day of School

 

Missing out on the milestone event of the first day of school and school pics. This father beautifully captures the essence of of the excluded parent. Seeing a child off for their first day of school each year is a right of passage! Sadly, their co-parent precludes this from happening.  While, yes, the mother is able to keep the dad away from this momentous occasion-the child is also robbed of a meaningful experience.  I wonder, do the parents who engage in the abusive behaviors think about the impact on the child?  Seemingly, this is a rhetorical question.  The behaviors are done “to” the co-parent.  No one is even thinking about the child!  Herein lies the dilemma.

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The Singapore Fathers’ Rights Movement

Link to FB page: https://www.facebook.com/The-Singapore-Fathers-Rights-Movement-165037670497751/

# 324, Missing Out: First Day of School

I Want to Talk to Our Son!

 

 This father follows the court ruling ‘allowing’ him to  call and talk to his son everyday. To no avail. Each day, his efforts to participate in his son’s life are ignored and overruled by the mother. This is the very sad and unfortunate reality for some parents. I hope this mother realizes soon how important this father is in their sons’ life. This is frustrating for the parent! AND, the child is DENIED the opportunity in having a relationship with his father.

#463, I Want to Talk to Our Son!

As shared on Parents Speak. Link to FB page: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1401081233281549/

Happy/Unhappy Father

 

A compelling pic. Father appears happy on the outside yet seems to hold feelings of sadness within his head and heart. A teddy bear is close by. Is this father yearning to hug his child? Talk with his child? Have a parent-child relationship as they did before the divorce/separation. How many parents will relate to this? Presenting as a happy self when in actuality they are sad; trying to go through the days when their heart is broken in a million pieces because they are unable to enjoy a loving relationship with their child. The black and white presentation contributes to the overall impact of this powerful pic.

 

#459, Unhappy Father 

Shared from Manchester’s Loving Parents/GrandParents Rights

Link to FB page: https://www.facebook.com/Manchesters-Loving-ParentsGrandparents-Rights-1526045064373344/

 

 

The Devil

 

This parent makes a succinct  declaration of the impact of PA has had in their life!  Many families are torn apart due to PA behavioral tendencies.  Sadly, too many children are forced to deal with emotional heartache and inner grief resulting from one parent choosing to engage in behaviors complicating the child’s relationship with their parent. A child has a right to have a loving relationship with BOTH parents!

Divorce is between the parents-ABOUT THE CHILD!

LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!! LOVE WINS!!!

#329, The Devil

Sadness of Divorce

 

A parent finds this pic in their 7-yr-old child’s school bag. Expressing feelings about a parents divorce may be difficult especially in high conflict situations. Sometimes a child can share their emotions and thoughts through art.  Both houses appear on a hill at the same level indicating equality in their parent’s position (in their life and with power?).  

The child appears sorrowful and seems to have a pronounced frown. The arrows in between the thought bubbles show the need to accommodate both parents. Question marks in the bubbles appear as thoughts indicating confusion about the separation. Perhaps, even being placed in a position to choose sides.  Curiously, the question mark on mom’s side is larger and the hill somewhat higher even though Dad’s house is taller.

The figure has no hands possibly revealing emotional insecurity. No feet in a drawing may indicate a lack of control over their destiny or a sense of helplessness. This is a very unfortunate picture indeed.

Sadly, this is one picture that will not be placed on the fridge.

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#439, Sadness of Divorce

Categories: A Child’s View, A Parent’s Heartache, Impact on child

La Divorce

 

 

This artwork reveals the dichotomy of divorce.  A happy parent with a red purse holding her daughters hand (on the right side). This part includes a heart balloon, a stuffed polka-dot animal, a tall flower with a tiny ribbon collared dog leaping for joy.  The man in the middle is wearing a hat and has facial features. There is a wide smile shaped line extending past the outline on both sides. There appears to be a text bubble (?) in pink stemming from his hat.

On the left side this parent is looking down while walking. Her purse is now smaller and in black. Thee are no flowers, balloons or animals. There is a black heart with a black line. Notably, her shoes have an added outline which may be interpreted as something weighting her down. This time the mans face has no eyes or mouth. The possible text bubble is coming from where his mouth would be.

I wonder if many parents feel like this. Especially when there is parental conflict. Seemingly, a parent may be more accepting of a divorce if they know their child is happy and taken care of.

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 #438, La Divorce

La Divorce by Sladjana Lazarevic