Broken Holidays

 

Holidays are important to everyone in the family. One artists interpretation of the impact of divorce on the family.  This was done “after I learned of the impending divorce of one of my aunt and uncles… And the fact that said aunt probably wouldn’t be coming to that Thanksgiving or Christmas with the family. Family gatherings for my family generally means a lot of very delicious food, so that’s what came to mind with the image.”  

Deviant Art broken_holidays_by_silvervistani

 

Deviant Art, Broken Holidays

#1336, Broken Holidays

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My Family Christmas Letter

 

One father shares the heartache in what appears to be an unexpected divorce. The story behind this submission is their son received a full ride sports scholarship to college prior to the separation.  Somehow, this teen became involved in activities and lost his way.  Now, graduating high school is a goal to achieve.  Could something have been done differently to keep this son on track to maintain the scholarship for his sport achievement?

Regrets Christmas letter

#1433, My Family Christmas Letter

Holidays

Regrets

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A mother shares thoughts on divorce and how her daughter will be impacted.  Mom offers advice to parents’ considering divorce.  Children learn about relationships by watching their parents.  Respecting the boundaries of each parent is important and with that being said, how does ‘no communication at all’  impact their daughter. A difficult situation for all members of the family.

I was married for 3 years and we had a daughter.  When she was 2 years old I did the unthinkable and slept with someone else. When my husband came home that night I confessed my deed. He refused to talk it about it, packed a bag and left. In fact, he has not talked to me at all. NOT ONE WORD.  He made arrangements for someone to pick up the rest of his things. Our attorneys handled the divorce. The exchanges for our daughter are done with either relatives or a friend. We do not attend the same events unless absolutely necessary and then we do not talk to each other.  I am now involved with someone else and have not told him why I’m divorced.  I’m too ashamed.

My concern is for our daughter.  She is young and I wonder how things will be when she is older.  She will see that her parents do not talk to each other and the T virtual and palatable contempt between us. I continually ask myself “What will this do to our little girl?”  I regret my actions that led to the divorce.  I am disappointed because my daughters life will be impacted by my selfish actions.

To anyone out there thinking about divorce……RECONSIDER!  There is nothing worth the security of your child.

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#552, Regrets

Before and After Divorce

 

One young artist shares a “before” drawing on top, and a pic of her family “after” in the bottom picture.  This child presents her family as happy and fun.  Everyone is smiling.  Artist is holding her arm wide open indicating confidence and high self-esteem.  In the after pic, no one is smiling.  Each parent is turned away from the child.  Notice how her arms are held tightly to her body.  Restricted movement.  Is this how she feel emotionally?  Is either parent acknowledging the changes occurring in their family?

Family ‘BEFORE’

Family ‘AFTER’

 

Kids in the Middle is an agency geared toward helping the family during the divorce process.  They are located in Maplewood Missouri.(314) 909-9922
#551, Before and After Divorce

Parenting Matters

 

Parenting does matter!  This is a  simple message revealing the importance of the parent-child relationship. Notably, this is especially relevant in custody matters.  Children have a right to experience a kind, loving and reciprocating relationship with both parents.

#550, Parenting Matters

See and Hear Dad

 

Is this little girl watching a home video? Is this dad a public figure?  Seemingly, if this daughter was seeing her father on a regular basis she may comment “look, there is daddy”.  A child having a relationship with both parents is important for their emotional, physical and spiritual growth. Supporting shared parenting is best for the child.

# 549  ,  See and Hear Dad