In the Best Interest of …..

Is this a realistic picture of the Family Court System?  Financial incentives participate in court decisions impacting children and parents. We need to shift our focus to the child and create changes within the family court system that will enhance the child-parent relationship.

 

 

Shared on the Father’s Rights Movement.

#575, In the Best Interest of Money

A Tender Moment

Everyone likes to be acknowledged.  In trying situations the positive words from a stranger can have life-long implications for both individuals. Here is a heart warming story about offering emotional support and recognizing the efforts of a devoted parent.

Tonight at a conference my eyes were drawn to a Father sitting next to us who had three young sons in his care. Probably ages 12, 9 & 7.
I watched on as I was amazed at the affection this Father showed for his sons.
No matter what they asked him, he gave each one his full attention. He kissed & hugged them continually.
I was wondering why I was so drawn to know his story. Where was Mum? Was he a single Dad? Did his wife pass away? I wasn’t sure but I’m eyes were transfixed on his love for them, and also the love the eldest son showed for his younger brothers.
When the conference finished I felt to tell him “he’s a great dad and that he needed to hear that”
As I walked past I leant down to his ear and said “I want you to know I was watching you with your boys, your a wonderful Father”
You should have seen his face light up. It was like he was shocked and then again so happy at that comment.
“Thank you” he said…
As I left the Auditorium I told my husband what I said and he also said he was going to say the same thing.
Ten minutes later my husband ran into him again where we were all picking up our kids.
He walked up to my husband and just asked how our night was.
I then approached their conversation and this man still intrigued me.
“What was his story we wondered?”
As my husband asked him where he was from and about the kids, he started to tell us how he brought his 5 kids (yes he also had 2 Girls) down from Brisbane for this 1 week conference. That he wanted more than anything to give his kids the joy of experiencing this and to have this time with them.
My ears starting to tune in, I was starting to feel I think I do have a single Dad here.
Then he drops the penny.
He hadn’t seen his kids in 3 month
s, they live further away from him, he’s in a messy court battle with his ex, he’s been told he’s not a good father and the story goes on.
I knew it. God works in mysterious ways doesn’t he. The amount of times I have had separated/divorced parents put in my path I can’t tell you.
I put my hand on his arm and said well I do understand as you are what I write and talk about.
With my eyes filling up I shared with him what I do (Voice4kids) and he was shocked. Even he said wow, this is a God moment.
I shared with him my heart (and yes I cried) as I told him what an amazing Dad I saw in him etc…
It was such a lovely moment that my husband and I were able to witness tonight.
I told him I feel to bless him with my 2 Books and he can’t wait to receive them.
*THESE ARE MOMENTS I LIVE FOR.
*THESE ARE THE MOMENTS I PRAY FOR.
*THIS IS WHY I DO WHAT I DO.

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As shared on http://www.voice4kids Facebook page:

Link: https://www.facebook.com/voice4kidskarlalee?fref=ts&ref=br_tf

WEBSITE: http://www.karlalee.com

http://www.voice4kids

EMAIL: author.karlalee@gmail.com

#210, A Tender Moment

New Attitude

Sometimes, hearing how someone else handles their divorce inspires us to do things differently.  This mom developed a new attitude changing everything.  For everyone.  If the child enjoyed a loving and reciprocating relationship with both parents before the divorce/separation, that should continue. Spending time together is important for the parent-child relationship and should be supported by both parents. 

#574, New Attitude

(Un)Happy Family

 

A talented artist portrays a childhood friend in a picture with both of their parents.  One parent is missing from this artwork. The child in the in the middle is smiling.  Which parent is hugging this child? The jagged edges where the father is positioned emphasizes the absence. 

#575 (Un) Happy Family

Deviant Art: crimsonmayhem 

Instagram: crimson_mayhem93

 

 

Being a Daddy

 

A heartwarming story from an adoring father. As this story shows, being a father occurs at different levels. Research is consistent in showing how fathers play a unique role in the cognitive, emotional, physical, and spiritual development of their child. 

 

I want to share something that means a lot to me this evening. It might not mean much to the parent who sees their child or children every day. Perhaps it will.
For the first time about one week ago, my son had a part of his toy ambulance stop working. The various siren sounds stopped working when any of the three buttons on top of the toy were pushed, but the lights would still flash when any of the buttons were pushed. My son, through merely observing his initial reaction, could tell there was no sound coming from his toy. He didn’t understand why there was silence present instead of sirens roaring.
Fast forward to tonight. After my son was picked up by his mother and I took care of a personal matter, I fixed his toy ambulance. It was an easy fix where even the most inept person in fixing things could have figured out the remedy. Silence be gone! Sirens be blasting!
The point is, I fixed one of my son’s toys for him tonight. I was dad helping out my boy, even though he wasn’t here to see it. I feel so much joy right now over something most may or even would deem as insignificant. It’s not to me. To me, it’s another piece of me being daddy to my boy. I love it, and my heart’s at peace and my eyelids are watery. If my son and I spent time with each other considerably more than the approximately 7.5% of the week we currently do, perhaps this wouldn’t be so poignant and sentimental to me.
The next time my son is over to spend time with me and I with him, he’ll notice the sounds blaring from his beloved toy ambulance. Whatever his initial reaction, I reminded myself tonight that no matter what any person or entity tells me verbally, through family court, etc, I’m ultimately more than a visitor to my son. He deserves equal time with both of his parents.
“To me, it’s another piece of me being daddy to my boy”.

#538 Being a Daddy

Shared by an adoring father, Jason Gearhart, fighting for equal shared parenting for all parents and children. Permission granted 9/25/2018 approx. 10: 09 p.m.

Father’s Day Artwork

 

A proud father shares artwork from their adoring child received on Father’s Day. The multiple hearts, medals and stars indicate a strong father-child bond. A heartwarming keepsake.   Babies love their daddy’s!  

See also post #453, 

 

#452, Father’s Day Artwork  

Shared by a proud father on a father’s rights group.  (Permission granted, 6/19/17, 7:02 p.m.)

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Father’s Day Message

 

A father shares the loving message appearing on the inside of a Father’s Day card. A letter of love that any father would love to receive. This is definitely, something to treasure.  Absolutely adorable!  (Continued from Confession #452: Artwork on the front of the card appears in a previous post,#452, Father’s Day Artwork.)

 

 

#453, Father’s Day Message

Shared by a proud father on a father’s rights group.  (Permission granted, 6/19/17, 7:02 p.m.)

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