My anonymous friend, I totally understand. Family gatherings get really awkward for me, too. I’m a Second Generation kid of a divorced family. My mom and my grandma are both divorced. Grandma’s got two ex-husbands, one of whom has been remarried two other times, and I’ve got a stepmom to contend with. Overall it’s just a huge mess. I tend to just ignore my dad and his wife, but I’m constantly feeling guilty about it, even though I know I’m being expected to juggle too many discordant relationships.